When I engage in any act of self-discipline, two distinct voices play in my head. One is as powerful as a dragon, and the other is a young boy in the developmental stage. They were like two boxers fighting each other until one voice completely defeated the other. The winner is th

When I perform any kind of self-discipline behavior, two completely different voices appear in my head. One is as powerful as a dragon, and the other is a young boy in the developmental stage. They were like two boxers fighting each other until one voice completely defeated the other. The winner is the king, the loser is the bandit. The actions performed by the body only yield to the victor. What wins in the vast majority is the powerful lazy instinct like a dragon; while self-disciplined behavior led by willpower can only succeed in slaying the dragon in a few cases.

When I perform self-disciplined behavior, my instinctive brain will pretend to be relaxed and ask questions to my body. Why go against your instincts and do things you don't want to do? Why not go and relax? What a pleasant thing that is. This constant questioning is like an old woman nagging in your head. This thought will not stop until I stop my self-discipline behavior.

1. When I get up early, my instinctive brain reminds my body: sleep a little longer. It is so cold outside the bed, but the bed is so warm.
2. When I run, my instinctive brain reminds my body: you are too tired and you need to stop and rest. Stopping is as simple as stopping your legs from moving so fast.
3. When I want to throw away my phone and do what I need to do, my instinctive brain reminds my body: the unknown is always scary, you need to know more, because only by knowing more information can you ensure that you are in this Survive and thrive in a complex world.

The body cannot withstand this kind of questioning, and prolonged questioning will inevitably lead to a relaxation of will. Once you start to doubt your self-disciplined behavior, you are doomed to fail. Self-discipline is like waiting in line, time is always so difficult. Enjoyment is like falling in love, time always flies by so fast.

Self-discipline goes against human instinct. Since it is so painful to do things that go against instinct, why do we still ask for trouble?

first makes an extreme assumption. Suppose there is such a person who only knows pleasure when he is born, but does not know what suffering is. In order to satisfy various desires, this is what he does in a day: he must sleep in every day, sweets, milk tea, and fried foods are his favorites, smoke, play with his mobile phone until late at night every day, never work, and lie in bed whenever he feels tired. .

It can be seen that laziness is his first motivation, and self-discipline is a formidable enemy to him. He is content with immediate gratification, which gives him peace of mind, and he is disdainful of long-term plans. The purpose of everything he does is to make him feel the pleasure of a certain sense, and the fire of desire is burning. In the short term, he is indeed happy, has no worries, and lives in his own paradise. But life is not a sprint, but a long marathon. If things go on like this, overuse of eyes, tooth decay, muscle atrophy, obesity, diabetes , high blood pressure , and heart disease will all happen to him at some point.

He can completely ignore other people's opinions and still act his own way. But can such a person be called a happy person? He can stubbornly believe that he is happy before the disease comes. Because he did feel joy. But his short-sighted behavior will eventually cost him. When the pain tortures him to the point of having trouble sleeping and eating, maybe he will realize his wrong behavior.

Happy Scam

As long as animals are satisfied with the conditions for survival and reproduction. People have the seven deadly sins , gluttony, lust, greed, sadness, wrath, laziness, conceitedness and arrogance. The difference between animals and humans is the difference in desire. The happiest thing is to satisfy your desires at all costs. But this conclusion cannot be verified in people who indulge in excessive sexual activities. Because desires are never satisfied, we only briefly indulge in the pleasure of satisfying them. The feeling is fleeting, and once the pleasure wears off, we continue to repeat the behavior no matter how harmful it is to our body.

When we perform a certain behavior to satisfy a certain desire, the brain will release the "happy molecule" dopamine. It’s dopamine that tricks our brains into thinking this is what happiness feels like. Drinking a bottle of Coke, smoking, sleeping in, eating sweets, fried food, and playing games have something in common behind them: they all cause the brain to secrete a large amount of dopamine. When we make a series of irrational behaviors, a large amount of dopamine will be secreted. Dopamine gives us the ecstatic feeling after our desires are satisfied. It is the feeling of satisfaction brought by this molecule that makes us unable to extricate ourselves.

In other words, the brain does not care about what you are doing. What the brain cares about is the secretion of dopamine after you do a certain behavior. If a certain behavior causes the brain to release a large amount of dopamine, then the brain will not mind, no matter what the behavior is. If the extracted dopamine is injected into the body, it is similar to a drug. The feeling of satisfaction it produces is the same as that produced by smoking a cigarette or eating sweets. Dopamine tricks the brain into thinking this is happiness. This short-term happiness is gradually destroying our health.

Starting to be self-discipline

1. When we were in elementary school, after completing the homework assigned by the teacher, we would feel a kind of sincere joy.
2. I have just finished running five kilometers. Although I can feel physically tired, my spirit is a hundred times more energetic than when I was in bed. When working on
3. , a problem that has troubled you for several months was solved at a certain moment through long-term thinking, and you felt like you were enlightened.

If you have ever been addicted to the satisfaction brought by hard work. So congratulations, you have found the secret to success. This higher level of happiness can only be obtained through sweat. This is happiness dominated by endorphins . Endorphins don’t trap us in addiction; by causing the brain to release endorphins, we experience a long-lasting sense of satisfaction. Behaviors driven by endorphins keep us safe from anxiety and pain. So many years later when I recall this feeling, I will sigh from the bottom of my heart: This feeling is great.

Unfortunately, this kind of happiness is not easy to form a habit, because most of the time, the control of our body is dominated by dopamine. Dopamine joins forces with the laziness instinct to inhibit the release of endorphins.

Especially when we realize the problem and want to change the status quo. This painful feeling can persist, sabotaging our efforts. Everything is difficult at the beginning. Our biggest problem when we first start self-discipline is that we cannot integrate knowledge and action. The brain clearly knows that this behavior is harmful, but the body still refuses to obey its instructions and completes this behavior. When the act is completed, it is not happiness but pain and regret. Anxiety and worry arise when you question why you behave in ways that are detrimental to you. The contradiction between the body and the brain will cause us to fall into serious mental internal friction.

We don't have a good way to deal with this pain. The only thing that can be done is to stay away from temptation and maintain self-discipline. We need to make great efforts for this in the beginning. How can we see a rainbow without going through wind and rain? If we can persist to the end, we will definitely achieve great success. We must learn to grow through pain. The real winner must be the one who has overcome this pain and turned it into motivation to move forward.