Author: Fengchui Wutong (author of Rich Book)
Steve Jobs once said:
"In the first 30 years of your life, you develop habits; in the last 30 years of your life, your habits determine you."
In life, some seemingly casual habits have great power. , which invisibly affects our destiny.
Good habits are the key to a better life, while bad habits are the biggest stumbling block on the road to success.
Today, I would like to share with you the 9 bad habits that affect life summarized by " People's Daily ". Try to quit, take back the initiative in life, and gain a life of cheating.
too dependent on others
fairy tale big Wang Zheng Yuanjie said:
"Placing your hopes on others means leaving disappointment to yourself."
When you hand over the control of your destiny to others, it will be a tragedy.
In Maupassant's short story "My Uncle Jules", Philippe received a letter from his younger brother Jules, saying that he had made money overseas and was willing to support Philip's family's life.
Philip seemed to have grasped a life-saving straw, pinning his family's hope of living a prosperous life on Yuler's promise.
They no longer live a careful life and work carelessly. Even if the times become more and more difficult, the Philips never think of relying on themselves to solve the problems in life.
Until many years later, when they met the ragged Jules selling oysters on the boat, Philip's desire to live a good life was shattered in an instant like soap bubbles .
People will inevitably encounter difficulties in this life. If you just want to rely on others to "change your life" and don't work hard to create, you will inevitably get nothing in the end.
It is better to seek help from others than from yourself. You are the only person responsible for your life.
Only by relying on yourself in everything can you have the capital to settle down and have better control over your life.
Too concerned about unexpected comments
Someone once asked Cai Lam: "How should I face other people's comments?"
Cai Lam replied in four words: "It's okay if you don't care."
Yang Tianzhen, known as "the best agent in China", suddenly quit his job as an agent at the peak of his career, entered the live broadcast industry, and started selling Plus size clothing for women.
The voices laughing at her were overwhelming.
Some people questioned that she was forced to change careers because she couldn't survive in the agent circle;
Some people also ridiculed her for showing off her fat figure in order to promote her products, which was too ugly...
No matter how others spoke ill of her, Yang Tianzhen never cared.
As long as she humbly learned from the live broadcasting influencers, carefully selected products, and worked hard on live broadcasting, she was still thriving on the new track.
Yu Hua said: "Life belongs to everyone's own feelings and does not belong to anyone else's opinions."
In life, no matter how you live, there will always be people who judge you.
If you care too much about what others say, you are destined to be burdened and waste your time and energy.
Only by not being afraid of what others say and following your heart can you live the truest splendor of life.
Procrastinating in Anxiety
The Italian short film "Saturday" tells the story of a man living alone who planned a day but wasted it.
Early in the morning, a man plans in his mind what he has to do for the day: wash dishes, do laundry, pay bills, clean the bathroom, throw out the trash, call his mother, and go out to relax in the evening.
However, he did not do it immediately. Instead, he thought over and over again and struggled with which thing to start with.
As a result, one day passed. The man kept procrastinating in anxiety and failed to accomplish the last thing. Instead, he became exhausted and slumped in a chair.
Logical thinking CEO Take off the flower said in "The Law of Recklessness":
" There are always many dilemmas in life. If you are torn between doing it and not doing it, then don’t deduce it over and over again, do it immediately. There is at least half a chance that you will be able to do it without regrets in the end. ”
What really makes us exhausted is not the trivial things in life, not things. The difficulty itself is the internal friction caused by too much thinking.
Instead of procrastinating in anxiety, it is better to start doing it now.
Execution ability is the stepping stone to success.
Looking up at the lives of others
Netizen @英子 told a story about his personal experience, which made people sigh.
Yingzi has been married to her husband for several years. They have a good relationship. Although they live in a small rented house, they talk and laugh every day, and their life is ordinary and happy.
While chatting with her mother, Yingzi learned that her friend from the same village bought a house soon after getting married and received a car from her husband for her birthday. She felt very unhappy.
She began to complain about her life, disliked her husband for not making much money, and complained that her parents-in-law in the countryside were poor and could not help them.
For this reason, the couple quarreled every day, and the two people who were originally in love eventually broke up.
"Human Weaknesses" said:
" Many of the troubles in life stem from our blind comparison with others and forgetting to enjoy our own life. "
Sometimes, the reason why we are unhappy is not Real life is not "happy", but it is not "happier than others".
Blind comparison will not only fail to make you better, but will also make you turn a blind eye to your own happiness and only increase your distress.
In fact, everyone in life has its own splendor and loneliness, so there is no need to envy others.
Throw away unnecessary comparisons, be content with your heart, and be energetic, so that you can live a life full of nothingness.
Always self-denial
In the variety show "Flowers and Boys 4", Liu Mintao, who has always shown himself as a big woman, actually lost control of his emotions and cried several times during the show.
Assembling the tent, Liu Mintao struggled for a long time but failed to assemble it. He was so anxious that he wiped away tears while denying that he was "too stupid";
played in the ATV competition. , her car rear-ended Zhang Kaili's car, and she cried remorsefully, feeling that she had caused trouble to others;
arrived at the second campsite, she missed the tools to set up the tent, and thought that she had messed up the matter, dragging It was a hindrance to everyone, and I wanted to quit the show for a while.
There is a sentence in "Black Swan": "The only thing standing in front of you is yourself. Author: Fengchui Wutong (author of Rich Book) Steve Jobs once said: "In the first 30 years of your life, you develop habits; in the last 30 years of your life, your habits determine you." In life, some seemingly casual habits have great power. , which invisibly affects our destiny. Good habits are the key to a better life, while bad habits are the biggest stumbling block on the road to success. Today, I would like to share with you the 9 bad habits that affect life summarized by " People's Daily ". Try to quit, take back the initiative in life, and gain a life of cheating. too dependent on others fairy tale big Wang Zheng Yuanjie said: "Placing your hopes on others means leaving disappointment to yourself." When you hand over the control of your destiny to others, it will be a tragedy. In Maupassant's short story "My Uncle Jules", Philippe received a letter from his younger brother Jules, saying that he had made money overseas and was willing to support Philip's family's life. Philip seemed to have grasped a life-saving straw, pinning his family's hope of living a prosperous life on Yuler's promise. They no longer live a careful life and work carelessly. Even if the times become more and more difficult, the Philips never think of relying on themselves to solve the problems in life. Until many years later, when they met the ragged Jules selling oysters on the boat, Philip's desire to live a good life was shattered in an instant like soap bubbles . People will inevitably encounter difficulties in this life. If you just want to rely on others to "change your life" and don't work hard to create, you will inevitably get nothing in the end. It is better to seek help from others than from yourself. You are the only person responsible for your life. Only by relying on yourself in everything can you have the capital to settle down and have better control over your life. Too concerned about unexpected comments Someone once asked Cai Lam: "How should I face other people's comments?" Cai Lam replied in four words: "It's okay if you don't care." Yang Tianzhen, known as "the best agent in China", suddenly quit his job as an agent at the peak of his career, entered the live broadcast industry, and started selling Plus size clothing for women.
The voices laughing at her were overwhelming.
Some people questioned that she was forced to change careers because she couldn't survive in the agent circle;
Some people also ridiculed her for showing off her fat figure in order to promote her products, which was too ugly...
No matter how others spoke ill of her, Yang Tianzhen never cared.
As long as she humbly learned from the live broadcasting influencers, carefully selected products, and worked hard on live broadcasting, she was still thriving on the new track.
Yu Hua said: "Life belongs to everyone's own feelings and does not belong to anyone else's opinions."
In life, no matter how you live, there will always be people who judge you.
If you care too much about what others say, you are destined to be burdened and waste your time and energy.
Only by not being afraid of what others say and following your heart can you live the truest splendor of life.
Procrastinating in Anxiety
The Italian short film "Saturday" tells the story of a man living alone who planned a day but wasted it.
Early in the morning, a man plans in his mind what he has to do for the day: wash dishes, do laundry, pay bills, clean the bathroom, throw out the trash, call his mother, and go out to relax in the evening.
However, he did not do it immediately. Instead, he thought over and over again and struggled with which thing to start with.
As a result, one day passed. The man kept procrastinating in anxiety and failed to accomplish the last thing. Instead, he became exhausted and slumped in a chair.
Logical thinking CEO Take off the flower said in "The Law of Recklessness":
" There are always many dilemmas in life. If you are torn between doing it and not doing it, then don’t deduce it over and over again, do it immediately. There is at least half a chance that you will be able to do it without regrets in the end. ”
What really makes us exhausted is not the trivial things in life, not things. The difficulty itself is the internal friction caused by too much thinking.
Instead of procrastinating in anxiety, it is better to start doing it now.
Execution ability is the stepping stone to success.
Looking up at the lives of others
Netizen @英子 told a story about his personal experience, which made people sigh.
Yingzi has been married to her husband for several years. They have a good relationship. Although they live in a small rented house, they talk and laugh every day, and their life is ordinary and happy.
While chatting with her mother, Yingzi learned that her friend from the same village bought a house soon after getting married and received a car from her husband for her birthday. She felt very unhappy.
She began to complain about her life, disliked her husband for not making much money, and complained that her parents-in-law in the countryside were poor and could not help them.
For this reason, the couple quarreled every day, and the two people who were originally in love eventually broke up.
"Human Weaknesses" said:
" Many of the troubles in life stem from our blind comparison with others and forgetting to enjoy our own life. "
Sometimes, the reason why we are unhappy is not Real life is not "happy", but it is not "happier than others".
Blind comparison will not only fail to make you better, but will also make you turn a blind eye to your own happiness and only increase your distress.
In fact, everyone in life has its own splendor and loneliness, so there is no need to envy others.
Throw away unnecessary comparisons, be content with your heart, and be energetic, so that you can live a life full of nothingness.
Always self-denial
In the variety show "Flowers and Boys 4", Liu Mintao, who has always shown himself as a big woman, actually lost control of his emotions and cried several times during the show.
Assembling the tent, Liu Mintao struggled for a long time but failed to assemble it. He was so anxious that he wiped away tears while denying that he was "too stupid";
played in the ATV competition. , her car rear-ended Zhang Kaili's car, and she cried remorsefully, feeling that she had caused trouble to others;
arrived at the second campsite, she missed the tools to set up the tent, and thought that she had messed up the matter, dragging It was a hindrance to everyone, and I wanted to quit the show for a while.
There is a sentence in "Black Swan": "The only thing standing in front of you is yourself.”
Difficulties and setbacks are not terrible. What is terrible is that when you encounter a little disturbance, you will fall into a mood of self-denial.
Many times, it is not others who deny you, but yourself.
When you fully accept it Only when you fully trust yourself can you have greater courage to face more unknown challenges in life.
There is a question on the Internet: "What is the most terrible thing to lack in life? "
Someone answered:
"Lack of health. "
Health is the first one. If you lose it, everything behind it is meaningless0.
Netizen Xiaolin once revealed that he likes to stay up late playing games every day. Going to bed at two or three in the morning has become the norm.
Last year, his body showed red signs, with loss of appetite, fever, and yellow skin all over his body.
When he was sent to the hospital, he was diagnosed with an emergency. He suffered from liver failure, and the doctor immediately issued a critical notice. After half a year of treatment, Xiaolin's condition improved, but he suffered from sequelae and needed to take lifelong medication. It is an age when you should be enjoying your youth, but because you indulge yourself in temporary pleasure, you lose your health. It is really not worth the gain.
Philosopher Schopenhauer said: "The biggest mistake human beings can make is to trade health. Other external things. ”
How many people rely on their youth to unscrupulously consume their bodies excessively.
It wasn’t until one day when I was suffering from illness that I suddenly realized that having a healthy body is more important than anything else.
Life is a marathon, not a sprint.
Do not overextend your health. Eating well and sleeping well are your greatest responsibility.
Trapped in low-quality busy work
In "The Speed of Thinking", the author tells such a story:
There was a young man in a small town who loved writing. He wanted to become a novelist.
He kept writing every day, but the trouble was that the works he wrote were not satisfactory.
He went to the church and asked the priest: "In addition to eating and sleeping, I spend the rest of my time writing novels. , why no one appreciates my work?
The priest asked him: "When are you thinking?" "
The young man looked puzzled.
The priest said patiently: "What you call diligence is just repetitive and long-term endless busyness. There is nothing difficult. What is difficult is thinking. If you don't think, your novel will not be there. Soul, your diligence is meaningless. "
Looking around, there are many people like this. They work very hard, but they keep standing still; they work overtime every day, but their performance is always mediocre.
There is a very heart-wrenching saying on the Internet: "Behind the mechanical efforts, there is just a kind of The habitual movement of muscles may seem like diligence, but it is actually the laziness of the brain. ”
A person who is constrained by superficial diligence and is lazy to think can easily fall into the cycle of “busy work”. Often he only works hard but has no merit.
Only by developing the habit of deep thinking and constantly improving oneself can one get rid of low-quality work. Diligence leads to high-quality growth htm. l8
having an excessive obsession with life
During the college entrance examination that just passed, the 34-year-old Tang Shangjun, the "college entrance examination failure", once again aroused heated discussion among hundreds of millions of netizens.
In the 13 years from 2009 to 2022, he kept repeating and taking the college entrance examination, just to realize his " Tsinghua dream." During
, he was admitted to some well-known schools such as Jilin University, China University of Political Science and Law, , but for the goal of "not going to Tsinghua University", he gave up one by one.
After taking the college entrance examination this year, he still failed to achieve his wish. He left the sentence "It's hard to do so, so why not" on Weibo. He finally ended his years of college entrance examination and made a bitter exit.
When we were young, we always thought it was cool to pursue our dreams no matter what.
It took me half my life to understand that not everything in this world is worthy of our struggle.
Just as Tang Shangjun said later: "I didn't do the right thing at the right age. I didn't do it on purpose. Most of the time it was just hindsight."
Blindly living the expected life into an obsession, in the end, just You will unknowingly waste your time and lose your life.
Let go of your high expectations for life and your obsession with something, and you will find that life is full of surprises.
Not breaking the situation but looking forward to change
I once read a story on Zhihu.
There is a girl who doesn’t like the accounting major she is studying now and wants to study design.
The instructor suggested that she take a year off, repeat high school, and retake the design major.
Girls are worried that if they repeat a year of study, they will graduate a year later. There is no advantage in finding a job and dating when they are older.
The instructor also suggested that she use her spare time to study design. After graduating with a bachelor's degree in accounting in four years, she can still find a job in design.
The girl hesitated. There are many courses to study in college. It would be very hard to study two majors at the same time, and she was worried that she would not be able to bear it.
Do girls look so much like some of the people around us?
wanted to exercise to lose weight, but he gave up after a few days of persistence;
wanted to resign and change jobs, but was afraid of taking the risk of job-hopping...
The path underfoot was walked, not imagined.
If you expect changes in your life but just talk about it, you will only miss opportunities for growth again and again and feel sorry for yourself all day long.
Only by putting your dreams into action and working hard to broaden your boundaries can you achieve real growth.
As a saying goes: "Life is like chess. Those who know the game survive, those who break the game survive, and those who master the game win."
Instead of worrying about it, it is better to break the existing situation and get out of the negative cycle, and everything will suddenly become clear.
Aristotle said: "Each of us is cast by our own repeated actions. Therefore, excellence is not an action, but a habit."
What kind of habits you have will lead to your life. Such a life.
From today on, abandon bad habits, cultivate good habits, meet a better self, and achieve a better life.
Like it and share it with your friends.
About the author : The wind blows in the sycamores, the author of the rich book column, running in his love, and encountering the best self by chance. The new book "Good Life" is now selling well, and he has upgraded his life consciousness with 5 million people. I know, this article: Fu Shu, the copyright of this article belongs to Fu Shu, no reproduction is allowed without authorization, any infringement will be prosecuted
In the 13 years from 2009 to 2022, he kept repeating and taking the college entrance examination, just to realize his " Tsinghua dream." During
, he was admitted to some well-known schools such as Jilin University, China University of Political Science and Law, , but for the goal of "not going to Tsinghua University", he gave up one by one.
After taking the college entrance examination this year, he still failed to achieve his wish. He left the sentence "It's hard to do so, so why not" on Weibo. He finally ended his years of college entrance examination and made a bitter exit.
When we were young, we always thought it was cool to pursue our dreams no matter what.
It took me half my life to understand that not everything in this world is worthy of our struggle.
Just as Tang Shangjun said later: "I didn't do the right thing at the right age. I didn't do it on purpose. Most of the time it was just hindsight."
Blindly living the expected life into an obsession, in the end, just You will unknowingly waste your time and lose your life.
Let go of your high expectations for life and your obsession with something, and you will find that life is full of surprises.
Not breaking the situation but looking forward to change
I once read a story on Zhihu.
There is a girl who doesn’t like the accounting major she is studying now and wants to study design.
The instructor suggested that she take a year off, repeat high school, and retake the design major.
Girls are worried that if they repeat a year of study, they will graduate a year later. There is no advantage in finding a job and dating when they are older.
The instructor also suggested that she use her spare time to study design. After graduating with a bachelor's degree in accounting in four years, she can still find a job in design.
The girl hesitated. There are many courses to study in college. It would be very hard to study two majors at the same time, and she was worried that she would not be able to bear it.
Do girls look so much like some of the people around us?
wanted to exercise to lose weight, but he gave up after a few days of persistence;
wanted to resign and change jobs, but was afraid of taking the risk of job-hopping...
The path underfoot was walked, not imagined.
If you expect changes in your life but just talk about it, you will only miss opportunities for growth again and again and feel sorry for yourself all day long.
Only by putting your dreams into action and working hard to broaden your boundaries can you achieve real growth.
As a saying goes: "Life is like chess. Those who know the game survive, those who break the game survive, and those who master the game win."
Instead of worrying about it, it is better to break the existing situation and get out of the negative cycle, and everything will suddenly become clear.
Aristotle said: "Each of us is cast by our own repeated actions. Therefore, excellence is not an action, but a habit."
What kind of habits you have will lead to your life. Such a life.
From today on, abandon bad habits, cultivate good habits, meet a better self, and achieve a better life.
Like it and share it with your friends.
About the author : The wind blows in the sycamores, the author of the rich book column, running in his love, and encountering the best self by chance. The new book "Good Life" is now selling well, and he has upgraded his life consciousness with 5 million people. I know, this article: Fu Shu, the copyright of this article belongs to Fu Shu, no reproduction is allowed without authorization, any infringement will be prosecuted
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