I saw this passage on the Internet:
"Be with hard-working people, and you will not be lazy. Be with positive people, and you will not be depressed.
Walk with wise men, and you will be extraordinary. Hang with high-ranking people, and you can reach the top."
A mature adult often knows how to hang out in circles, and a truly far-sighted adult often knows how to find high-end circles.
Obviously, there are large and small circles, as well as low-level and high-level circles.
Those circles of low-quality wine and dinner parties, people who don’t love you, relatives who look down on you, friends who are hypocritical, the sooner you stay away from such circles, the better.
Find a circle that is suitable for your growth, and find a circle that can truly make you better and better. Only then is it worth having.
focuses on the quality of circles, not its quantity.
Many people may have a misunderstanding, that is, having many friends means an easy road.
But in fact, anyone who has really fallen into the abyss or fallen into the darkness knows that when a person is really unlucky or has bad luck, those good words that he used to say as brothers and sisters are now scattered in an instant, guarding you like the god of plague.
Indeed, when people are in the trough period, they can always see many scenes that they cannot see in the peak period.
Maybe you will regret this, but in fact, it is useless no matter how much you regret at this time. In addition to aggravating your own pain, others should still drink, eat, and play.
Therefore, as an adult, or someone who has been around, the attitude towards the circle should no longer be so simple. Everyone is very busy and everyone is very realistic. There is no need to only think about others changing themselves instead of changing themselves.
Jia Pingwa wrote in "Game World":
"The circle you live in is actually the world of your life, representing your aesthetics and life level.
If you are unwilling to step out of this comfort zone, your life will be in comfort, and the gap between you and others will become wider and wider. "
Instead of fantasizing about more good circles and more quality circles approaching you, it is better to screen out those "cancer circles" in time.
When you have summed up your experience and have more advanced and keen skills and abilities in recognizing people, you will naturally know how to choose a circle with better development quality in the future.
If you want to break out of the circle, if there is no real external force to help you, you can only rely on your own continuous trial and error, and constantly sum up experience to achieve it step by step. What others cannot give you, you can only work hard to achieve it yourself.
is not a good circle, so get out of it in time.
The greatest wisdom of adults is that they do not consume themselves in low-level circles, and they do not foolishly think about changing things on their own.
As business philosopher Jimmy Rowan said:
"You are the average of the five people you come into contact with most."
Whether a circle is good or bad cannot be seen at a glance. It requires the test of time and the screening of human nature.
Therefore, take your time, don’t be in a hurry, and believe that real connections are not those you seek, but those you attract.
Because the best circle is exchange of equal value.
You have no achievements, you are full of bad habits, and you dare to shamelessly despise everything. Even if there is a circle that can accommodate you, then this circle is just the same thing as you.
On the other hand, if you are virtuous, reliable, sincere, considerate, and full of ambition, then most of the people in your circle will also be such people.
are not from the same circle and will not enter the same door.
Pig pens and cow pens, how do you think they can get used to living together?
Therefore, if you find a circle that is not suitable for you or a low-level circle, leave it as soon as possible.
Don’t hold on to your compassion, and don’t think you can change anyone. If you stare into the abyss, the abyss will stare at you. If you live in the abyss, the abyss will not swallow you up.
The greatest wisdom of adults is to know that the quality of the circle can determine a person's development prospects and quality of life.
Buffett said:
"If you want to be a winner, you must fight with the winner."
Sometimes, the circle is the platform. Without a high-quality circle, it means that you do not have a big platform to play a role, and you may eventually be left far behind.
However, everything is organized. The quality of the circle, the size of the circle, and the low-level and high-level circles are not just what you want to get.
However, we at least have enough initiative to choose which circle not to join, always know how to stay away from low-level circles in time, and actively find ways to integrate into better groups, which is the shortcut to becoming a master.
The most advanced circle for people is to achieve themselves.
Du Fu once said: "The water in the mountain spring is clear, but the spring water coming out of the mountain is turbid."
To put it bluntly, the spring water is clear in the eyes of the mountain, but it becomes turbid after flowing out of the mountain.
People are like this too. When they enter different circles, they often have different lives.
However, perhaps we will eventually understand that the most advanced circle for everyone is to constantly make oneself into a high-end circle, become a high-end image, and become a high-end brand.
High-level circles will bring you positive energy, but in the end these circles are all related to interests, if you haven't reached that level yet.
The best way is to make yourself at least reach it through your own efforts, and even create a high-level circle by yourself.
"If you fly with the phoenix, you must be a handsome bird; if you fly with tigers and wolves, you must be a beast."
If you are not a phoenix yet, then at least try to become a handsome bird first.
If you are not a tiger or a wolf yet, then you should at least live like a beast first, right?
