Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01, introduction
Parents are like the guardian saint of children.
No matter what age the child reaches, parents are still worried and will do their best to give him love and warmth. However, sometimes parents give too much love, which often makes children forget to grow up and live without independent life.
Long Yingtai said: "Some things can only be done by one person. Some obstacles can only be passed by one person. Some roads can only be taken by one person."
On the road of life, everyone needs to be responsible for their own life and need to grow up by themselves.
If parents spoil their children too much, then the children will stop growing up and gradually become people who are irresponsible and do not know how to be grateful.
This is true. When parents get old, they will not be able to support their parents, but will consume their energy and money.
02. Without social experience, children are not independent enough
On the road of life, the ups and downs experienced will make a person constantly transform from childish to maturity.
Jostein Judd said: "Independence and freedom are the ways we transcend our own desires and evil thoughts."
Parents are reluctant to let go, and their children do not have the ability to rely on themselves.
If parents cannot tolerate their children's hardships, they will still want to support their children's lives.
Even if the children are already adults and are still willing to bear the expenses of their children, parents cannot let their children experience financial difficulties and cannot let their children develop the desire to be independent and realize their dreams.
may even feel that it is natural to hijack because of comfort.
Children who have no social experience and are not independent will have a strong resistance to work. Moreover, I feel unconfident from the bottom of my heart and feel that I can’t do anything well.
03. Two new types of unfilial
On the road of life, it is difficult to see the reality clearly and it is difficult to live independently without suffering or suffering.
Moreover, it is difficult to improve one's own abilities, it is difficult to assume the ability to support one's parents, and it is difficult to control one's own life.
These two new types of unfilial piety are "rising", and many young people are consuming their parents in this way.
The first type: don’t work hard and consume parents’ pension money
A well can easily dry up if it takes too much water. The same is true for parents' love and money.
Many non-independent children do not have the courage to go on their own. They will become more and more accustomed to asking for their parents, and even seek more and more.
If parents have strong ability to make money, they have a generous pension in the second half of their lives. If they do not have too high desire to consume, they can basically meet their children's needs for eating, drinking and having fun at home.
Then children will get used to this kind of life, hide in their comfort zone, and are unwilling to come out.
is like Jiang Nansun’s father in the TV series " Golden Years ". Because his family is rich, his mother’s pension money is like a small treasury, so he can live leisurely at home.
Even if the family is not able to make ends meet, there is still a house that can be sold.
However, in a family, there is no source of money to make money, and it is easy to be poor and lose.
People who do not work hard will not be able to solve the difficulties themselves and are only used to consuming their parents' pension money.
In fact, as parents, if they let their children work hard to make a living outside, they will only have all kinds of discomforts and hardships some time ago. As long as they are reminded to protect themselves and their bodies, children will always be able to stand alone soon.
If the children let their parents "limit their parents" and spoil them, once the parents no longer provide support, the children will be out of society for too long and they will forget the knowledge and skills they have learned. Then, how he survives has become a big problem.
The second type: the pressure of competition is high, and the time and energy of parents are chewing on the society, which is a process of development.
If you lack the courage to grow when adapting to society, you will become more and more afraid that the pressure of competition will overwhelm yourself.
and even, there is a new way of unfiliality: because of the social pressure, I have to go out to make money, ask parents to help take care of and raise their children, and consume their time and energy in their later years.
Many children, after getting married, cannot bear the burden of a family because of their low abilities.
has no money to raise children, nor does it have time to take care of children. In order to live, I had to work hard and invite my parents to the house to help take care of the children.
In fact, asking parents to help take care of their children is not a kind of unfilial piety. Unfilial piety is often manifested in that when parents take care of their children, their children do not take good care of themselves, they cannot see their parents' efforts, and treat their parents as nannies.
When you get home from get off work, you don’t care about your children or help with housework. All the housework and the burden of taking care of your children are all on your parents.
Parents live with their children, and they must take into account their children's feelings in everything, but their children cannot hear their parents' voices. cannot understand how much sacrifice the parents have made.
Parents will continue to squeeze time and contribute to their children during the days they should have lived for themselves.
Sometimes when parents are sick and tired, they not only do not care about them, but also feel that they are burdensome. Let parents feel that when there is no value in use, they will not be valued by their children.
The real unfilial piety is to take advantage of the time and energy of parents, but never give them care and companionship, or give them happiness and happiness.
04, Speak to hiding autumn sounds
Life is like an bamboo , you need to have the determination to stand firm. As children grow up, as parents, you must learn to let go and let them grow better.
And children should also learn to keep working hard, be self-sufficient, and endure the storms that should have in life. And, keep an upward heart and live positively and hard.
Only when children can truly make a fortune in society or in their studies can they live up to their parents' affection and high expectations.
Parents will also grow old. We must understand that although parents’ love is selfless, children also have obligations to make them live happier.
No matter how competitive pressure is, children should not regard "living their parents" as the norm. Only by facing their lives bravely will the future be full of hope.
In life, you must cherish it if you are destined to be a family with your parents.
Parents are old, and their children are also please work hard to make them live a decent and happy life.
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About the author: Hearing the autumn voice, using his words to make a living. The autumn wind boils rain, a glass of sake, a story of three or two, and you are with you on the lonely road.
