Do you think you are living well?
Maybe many people have never thought about this issue seriously. They are busy every day, either going to work, taking care of their children and their families. They don’t spend time thinking about whether they can live well. They only feel very tired when they end their busy lives every day and lie in bed. When they think about the same day and the same life the next day, their hearts cannot relax.
But, is this really what life should look like?
Life is indeed a food, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, which is often heavy and so heavy that it makes people breathless. But life can also be as romantic as poetry and as pleasant as a sea of flowers.
Different people have made their lives look different. They are all mothers. Some mothers get angry every day because their children are naughty, while others can face these things with a smile. They are all ordinary workers. Some people always envy others' luxurious lives and luxurious houses, while others are satisfied with their own warm home. They are all in love. Some people become more and more confident in love, while others lose themselves in love.
So, what are the causes of these differences? Why do some people live better and better, while others always have a bad life?
In fact, some people have achieved the word "save" while others have not.
The concept of "death and leave" was proposed by Japanese Yamashita Eiko . Through years of lectures, she has indeed seen the changes that death and leave to countless people: people who originally lived in an unfortunate marriage left their husbands who betrayed their husbands through death and leave their future life and are full of confidence in their future life; ladies who originally felt that they were useless except for housework, knew that they could also be recognized by others in addition to their family. A wife who could not accept her husband's death could give up her obsession by quitting her, accepting this fact calmly, and starting a new life...
Because quitting her has brought changes to countless people, Eiko Yamashita wrote this book "Disclaimer". She hopes that more people can understand quitting her and live a leisurely and comfortable life through quitting her.
And the book "Duansheli" she wrote was loved by countless people as soon as it was published, and the sales volume was particularly good. It can be seen that too many people live in their heavy lives, and too many people want to be freed from this kind of life.
Let us understand the magic of quitting the world, why it has such great energy, so that so many people can live better and better after meeting it.
3block means cutting off unnecessary things that you want to enter your own home.
s is to abandon the junk that is flooded everywhere in the house.
3 is to get rid of the obsession with the object.
quitting is to understand yourself by organizing your own items, clean up your heart, discover your true needs in your heart, and then constantly give up what you don’t need, so as to live a new life.
Many people may never realize that the reason why we live so heavily is that we do not understand our true needs, we cannot give up many people and things, and we have always lived in our own obsessions.
The abandonment of true wisdom is not a simple cleanup, but rather allows you to learn to let go of your obsession and not be obsessed with people and things that have nothing to do with you at this moment.
Yamashita Eiko wrote in the book "Duansheli": "The protagonist of "Duansheli is not an object, but himself.”
In other words, it seems that we are sorting out the items, but in fact we are judging whether this item is useful or useless to us at the moment, rather than considering whether it can still be used from the perspective of the item.
Even if an item is intact, it can still be used, but if you can't use it at all now, even It may not be used for ten or twenty years. Will you throw it away or leave it behind?
is like a lot of clothes piled up in the cabinet at home. You don’t like it anymore. Do you throw it away or not?
Maybe you will say, maybe you will wear it occasionally, but do you really know how to wear it? Actually, you won’t, because you don’t like it anymore, and your So it is because you can't bear to leave it alone. It is either expensive, or it is given to you by someone else, or it is wasted in your opinion. Even if you don't use it, it means there is no waste.
It is because of this idea that your room is becoming more and more crowded and your heart is becoming more and more crowded.
Therefore, the mountain is under the mountain Yingzi would say that from the perspective of "I want to use" to consider the timeline, the timeline must be placed until now. Now you must let go of what you don't need and only choose the necessary things.
In this book, there is a saying that I was very inspired after reading it, that is, "Items must be useful only when they are valuable. "
So, I started to clean up the items at home and found that many things have been kept like this for many years. I always thought they were useful, but I have never used them. For example, the clothes I spent a lot of money to buy, some gadgets given to me by my friend many years ago, and many items in the kitchen, etc.
, is it really a pity to throw them away? I thought repeatedly at the time, but I finally took them out, and I gave them what should be given to others, and throw them away.
So after cleaning up all these things, do I regret it? On the contrary, I felt unprecedented relaxation, which was the real feeling in my heart at that time.
In the past, as long as I saw those things, I felt that they occupied every part of my house. I was always worried about cleaning them or the feeling of crowding that they brought to my house. Now many places in my house are empty, I feel very comfortable and I feel no more crowded.
At this time, I truly understood what Yamashita Eiko said: "Items are a mirror that reflects you, and what it reflects is the self that you want to treat as non-existent and unwilling to admit. "
There are many things that you don't like, but they keep them for various reasons. Do you like this kind of self?
Some people have left, but you still can't let go. They always think that that person may come back to you one day. Do you like this kind of self?
This is the real psychological state reflected through items. It is obviously useless now, and it no longer belongs to the present, but you just don't want to face this fact, making your life more and more painful.
Therefore, learn to judge which ones are truly useful to you at the moment, and let go of the rest. After letting go, you don’t lose a lot, but find a new path, a way that allows you to live a life that truly likes yourself.
Everyone wants to live the better. If you can achieve the three words "sacrifice", good luck will naturally come, and you can live the better.
I believe everyone needs the book "sacrifice" because sacrifice is not something that can be done in one go. It needs to be cleaned up repeatedly, abandoned repeatedly, and let go repeatedly, and finally achieve the ability to take and let go of everything, and this is the ultimate goal of sacrifice.
So, take this book "Duansheli" home, let it constantly guide you, let you learn to subtract your life, and finally meet your best self.
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