We all yearn for happiness and hope that happiness can accompany us for a long time. But many times, finding happiness is a very difficult thing. So how can we "get happiness from now on?"
philosopher said that he had really thought about the question of "how can you achieve happiness". He first thought that for himself, the greatest misfortune is that he does not like himself and thinks he has no value. When people have a sense of contribution that I have useful to others, they will feel that he is valuable and like him.
Contribution is not to deliberately pursue the recognition of others, but you can also experience "I am useful to others."
For example, teachers are teaching their children to learn cultural knowledge, and they do not need parents to praise how good they teach every day, because they themselves know that through their own teaching, children have learned a lot of knowledge. This is a sense of contribution, and through teaching and educating people, they have also gained recognition of themselves.
Youth says people get happiness because they have what they want to have and realize their dreams. For example, you get a good job, have a rich income, meet a lover you like, etc.
Philosopher Helping Youth Analysis said that people who seem to be their ideals will have happiness, but we are ordinary after all.
For example, every child initially hopes that he is "specially excellent" and uses it to get praise from his parents, but when this goal is not so easy to achieve, he will instead hope that he is "specially bad". Whether it is excellent or bad, he has achieved the purpose of "special existence".
is like a problem child in the eyes of parents. He hopes to gain the attention of parents in the least effortless way of naughty and mischief. This is a kind of "cheap pursuit of superiority." Therefore, when we find that there is a problem with our children, we need to reflect more on whether we are not paying enough attention to our children.
The way to make fun of others is obviously undesirable. Although we all want to be paid attention to by others, it is impossible for everyone to be "specially excellent". At this time, we must be clear-headed and accept that particularly ordinary self in a normal way.
Just like when we were young, we always thought that we were a special existence, and we would definitely succeed when we grew up and make a big career. However, as we grow older and our knowledge expands, we finally realize that we are just the most ordinary one among the countless people.
Philosophers believe that there is nothing wrong with ordinary and ordinary. Only when we have the courage to be willing to ordinary can we understand better: we are ordinary, but it does not mean that we are incompetent. Therefore, there is no need for us to show off our superiority specifically.
Does life need goals? Young people think it is necessary, otherwise being content with ordinary means affirming their lazy self. A lofty goal is like people aiming at the top of the mountain when climbing a mountain.
philosophers refute the youth that if life is for climbing a mountain, then the real life will only begin when climbing the mountain. Then the journey of climbing is a temporary life. If the person who fails to reach the mountain due to an accident or illness, wouldn’t the life of the person who fails to climb a mountain be interrupted?
However, our life is not a line, but a continuous point. Our life is a continuous moment, and we can only live in "this moment".
But many people don’t know this. People, like young people, think that they all live a line-like life. When they were young, they went to a good school, studied hard, obtained a good diploma, entered a good company, and lived their ideal life. All this was like a line.
Only when the goal is clear can we plan our life and continue to move forward along this goal.
However, philosophers tell youth that a planned life is not necessary or not, but is simply impossible. Because what we do not live in life on the road, but in "this moment".
For example, a person who dreams of becoming a violinist can only focus on this song, this section and this note, and it is not certain whether he will definitely become a violinist in the future.
is like a person who keeps spinning and dancing. Dance itself is the purpose. No one knows where he will jump to in the end, but he will eventually reach a certain place. However, the process of continuous dancing determines that the dancer will not stop in place.
Take mountaineering as an example. If our purpose of climbing is to climb the top of the mountain, if we take the elevator, we can climb to the top of the mountain, stay at the top of the mountain for 5 minutes, and then take the elevator back. The goal of climbing to the top of the mountain has been completed, that is "potential life". If the purpose of climbing is not the top of the mountain but the experience of climbing, that is "real life".
"Potential Life" has many possibilities, and "real life" needs to be completed carefully every moment of the moment.
Our happiness is in every moment, and our lives are connected by continuous moments, so we should pay more attention to every moment in the present.
What is the meaning of life? We will continue to talk tomorrow.
