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We, do we really understand what "rich raises ourselves"?
I once read an article, which was the general idea that your life was not satisfactory, and it was caused by not knowing how to support yourself.
is reluctant to spend money on lipstick for yourself, and your husband is reluctant to buy it for you in the future;
is reluctant to buy high-end clothes for yourself, so that you miss your job opportunities because of your clothing during the interview;
is reluctant to travel around, so that you have no energy to want to travel when you are old.
These words sound quite reasonable, but if you think about it carefully, this may just be a trap constructed by "consumerism".
is called "rich support" and stimulates others' desire to consume, making people only pay attention to material "rich support" but ignores the pursuit of spiritual enrichment.
In the end, it hollows out the body and the future. This is not "rich support", it is falling into a trap.
So, what is the real "rich support" yourself?
is not not not using a brand-name, nor is it not not not to check in with a non-Internet celebrity, nor does it mean that you don’t buy non-luxury goods, but to do these two things.
"Self-discipline"
Someone recorded a process of getting along with literary master Mr. Liang Qiushi . When eating together, the cold cut was brought up. Mr. Liang said that he had diabetes and could not eat . After a while, rock candy elbow was brought up, and Mr. Liang still said that he had diabetes.
Finally, there is a plate of Eight Treasure Rice . When people thought Mr. Liang would not know how to eat it, he picked up the chopsticks.
A friend asked him curiously: "Don't you have diabetes? Can you eat this?"
Mr. Liang said: "I know, so I didn't eat it before, just to eat this. I have high blood sugar in and I must avoid eating it. All the shares are left to the Eight Treasure Rice."
After eating a few bites of Eight Treasure Rice, Mr. Liang put down his chopsticks again. The friend said: "You can eat more, and finally have something to eat." He returned: "No, keep it for the next time."
was deeply touched when he first read this story.
Among some people who advocate timely enjoyment, if you want to eat, you should eat immediately, if you want to buy, you should buy as soon as possible, and if you want to go, you should go quickly. It seems that this is not to be wronged.
But if you think about it carefully, if you really don’t feel wronged, maybe you are learning to make plans for the future and truly treat yourself well, you are “richly support”.
is like exercise. Many people love hot pot and barbecue, but they don’t like exercise.
Every time I don’t go to exercise, I will find various reasons, saying that I am tired, saying that I am not in good health recently, and saying that I am too busy.
seems that the real happiness is the lazy person who is not exercising.
But in fact, self-discipline is the real love for yourself. A person who knows how to love yourself must hope that you will become better. Being self-disciplined is the beginning of nourishing yourself.
"Alone"
Someone once asked a writer: "What kind of thing will you spend a lot of time every day?"
When people thought the answer must be writing, he smiled and said: "Being alone, all my writing, thinking, and planning are completed in this process."
"The Magic of Early Wake Up" writer Jeff Sanders once said that the most luxurious thing he does every day is to be alone, and leave a blank space for himself after getting up early.
In this process, people can do what they want to do, not be influenced by other people's emotions, not be distracted by trivial matters of life, and build a spiritual back garden that completely belongs to them.
What many people lack in life is the time to be "alone".
People always feel that sociable people are happy. They get the most happiness in the group. They don’t need to think too much, and they can pass the time.
But the negative impact of societal group may be greater than expected.
Sociologist Pon Le once said: "As soon as a person reaches a group, his IQ is seriously reduced. In order to gain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong and use their IQ to exchange for a sense of belonging that makes people feel safe."
The happiness that many people gain in the group is not real happiness, but the happiness created by the environment.
Because in the group, if a person shows dissatisfaction, he cannot integrate into this group, so many people just societe for the sake of being in a group and are happy for the sake of happiness. "Grievances" like
look full of joy, but in fact it is a consumption of themselves.
is actually those who are good at it. People who are alone are willing to share time with themselves every day, leave their energy to themselves, be able to do what they want to do, read books they want to read. This is the real "rich support" and the optimization of the spiritual world.
I read a topic before: Why do people need to support themselves?
The high praise answer at that time said: "In order not to make up for life, once many things start to make up for life, life will only get more and more together. Living". The concept of
is correct, but unfortunately many people misunderstood "raising wealth" and "making work".
Just like some people think that not making money is material willingness. You have to be willing to buy yourself a few thousand yuan in clothes in order to earn a higher level of pursuit in life.
In fact, as long as a person is good at being alone and can be self-disciplined, he is already "raising wealth" himself. No one will be looked down upon when he is so demanding on himself.
What people fear most is never to betray themselves, but to only focus on satisfying low-level greed and forgetting their original intentions.
"indulgent" rich support is emptied out a large number of people. True rich support should pay more attention to their spiritual world than to pay attention to what to wear and what to eat.
does not treat their own spirit and future unfairly, is responsible for themselves.
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