still want to talk about Zhang Wanting. Although this popularity has passed, and the traces of forced reversal in the later stage of the show are too heavy and I don’t see it. But I always feel that this girl represents many women in reality. Her performance in variety shows will remind many people that should not be the one who is both strong and miserable but not beautiful.
Zhang Wanting and others are not bad at heart, but they are not pleased; they always want to be good for others, but they gradually become shackles for others; they never forgive others in their mouths, but there is a black hole in their hearts that cannot be filled with love, weak and full of resentment.
They neither have their own stable worldview nor the truth, goodness and beauty that they want to stick to in their hearts. "winning" is their only motivation for living , because they have never felt that they have won, so they lack security in losing.
There is a debate team in your heart for every strong person. There are countless villains fighting, not only fighting with others, but also fighting with themselves. If others choose the positive side, she will choose the opposite side. If others choose the negative side, she will choose the positive side. When others are silent, the villain in her heart keeps setting various positions and engaging in internal strife.
It is difficult to get along with strong people.
Their security boundaries are too weak, and even if you don't touch them, she will choose to keep offending until she angers you. At this time, the villain in her heart would jump out and say: Look, I know you are such a person.
is weak when it is strong.
Strong people are inferior in their bones. does not confirm that they will be loved and respected, so they need to fight repeatedly to force the other party to clarify their feelings.
However, the sense of security is like passing clouds and fleeting for them. The black hole of inferiority complex will constantly absorb the newly established sense of security. When you are with a strong person, whether you obey or not, disputes are inevitable. Even silence is a sin, because silence represents coldness and arrogance and will anger the strong person to the greatest extent.
So the question is, why can strong people still get love? Are they naturally strong or have they been changed into strong people by inappropriate partners?
I prefer such people to have inferiority, suppression, and not loved well in their original family.
They grew up in adversity and did not show too strong aggressiveness at work, because work is task-oriented, and you know clearly what you want to do and how to achieve your goals.
When in love, most of the strong people are normal and even more organized. The reason is also very simple. Love can be dismantled into a task, and the ultimate goal is to get married.
Strong people cannot tolerate failure. Usually, they will initially be sober and calm, well-organized, and even take care of people and be able to take care of things.
But as the relationship deepens, they will show a paranoid side.
Zhang Wanting repeatedly emphasized that all contradictions should be resolved when she is pregnant. Gina didn't understand and felt that emotions were a lifelong relationship. This is the difference between strength and normal. Strong people need absolute control of . . If she wants A, she must get A, and if she wants B, she must get B. But the relationship is indeed a long-lasting and confusing account. If you want A, you have to allow BCDEFG to come in together.
This situation will make strong people feel out of control.
All the shortcomings of human beings will be amplified in a long-term partnership.
The long-term partner relationship is the most complex and difficult relationship in human beings. In this relationship, members need to work together to explore, rather than just one person always wants to be a driver.
Marriage is the day by day. The more relaxed you are, the stronger your sense of happiness. But strong people will turn it into work, need daily reports and summary, and need to see the other party's changes; in order to show their own sense of existence, they will also set up many tasks and require family members to complete it.
Strong people are not afraid of quarrels, and they may even fall in love with quarrels. What they are afraid of is silent and dullness. Everyone lives in their own comfortable posture. At this time, the villain in their hearts will shout: You see, they are living well without you.
Strong people have an attack for no reason, basically because of this villain. Their sense of security is based on the discomfort of others. The conflict is the most secure for him because they are confident of winning this battle in various ways.
How to change a strong person? I don't recommend being too optimistic.
All changes are from the inside out. If you do not have any motivation to change, the changes that external factors can make are very limited.
stay away, may be the best choice for ordinary people. A strong person will easily become a lonely person in the end. is not that others are ruthless, but that everyone must love themselves more. Life is short and cannot be consumed.
