When I was born, my mother was twenty-four years old, and most of the girls who are twenty-four years old are still just graduated. Now my friends have only worked for two or three years, and are basically 27 or 28 years old, and have already started to be urged to get married. Seeing them step into the palace of marriage one by one, I couldn't help but ask: Why did you get married so early? Almost all of them say this: "My mother wants to hug her grandson", "Every time I go home, I am urged to get married", "I am thirty years old this year, and I am not young", "My boyfriend's family is in good financial condition", "We have been in love for a long time, and I just thought about getting married"
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Modern society's romance is similar to the factory assembly line, and the way of love is similar. Most people's dates are similar: shopping, eating, watching movies, and going out for a long holiday. There are very few couples who have spiritual communication, as long as they are happy, they can be happy. Then the parents of both sides met and talked about the details of the wedding and house purchase. Everyone reached a consensus and it was OK, so let’s get married. Therefore, the divorce rate is quite high now. Because too many men and women don’t know what marriage is and don’t have enough understanding of their partner, they get married and have children in a hurry.
Although both parties are very happy when talking about friends, this is just a sufficient condition for marriage rather than a necessary condition. The essence of love is a process in which both parties understand each other. During this period, there is no need to avoid a running-in process, and disputes may occur, but this will make us more clear about the other person’s character. In the process of falling in love, lifestyle habits will be assimilated because two people are together for a long time. However, a person’s three views are not likely to change. If both parties have different three views, it will be difficult to continue to work together. Therefore, before getting married, we must first understand each other's outlook on life, world and consumption. Two people with different outlooks on life really cannot live together. For example, one is proactive, the other is just thinking about playing every day; one wants to go out for a trip, the other just wants to lie down at home; one wants to go out to work and struggle, the other just wants the woman to take care of her husband and children at home. There is no wrong or right view of life, but the things and directions that two people pursue are different. If they force themselves together, there will undoubtedly be no good results. Two people with different worldviews can hardly understand each other's behavior. If you cannot understand each other, you will only get further and further. If two people with different consumption concepts get married, the quality of life of both parties will definitely decline sharply. One likes to save money, the other likes to consume, and talking about money will cause conflicts and chatter. On the other hand, people's thinking is generally divided into two types: self-reflection and shirk responsibility. It is very necessary for us to recognize the way of thinking of our partner.
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People who can reflect on themselves are usually very rational and will analyze the entire event. First, start from their own perspective, consider their own shortcomings, and then figure out the essence of the event, and then communicate well with the other party to resolve the conflict. Girls are more emotional and value feelings. There are inevitably some small emotions in life, and I will do it for you from time to time; but girls are eager to be pampered, so when encountering small problems, boys can just coax them. However, those who shirk responsibility will only escape when encountering difficulties and shirk the problems to the other party, resulting in the escalation of the conflict. So if girls meet a boy who shirks responsibility, no matter how good his appearance and family conditions are, it is recommended not to consider being with him, as this will only cause scars on your body. In addition, it is also important to understand the attitudes of men and women towards marriage. Some men think that getting married is just a casual life. If I make money to support my family, you have to take care of your husband and children and do housework; while some women think that as long as they have good financial ability and are handsome, they can get married. Who knows that these two ideas are taboos in marriage. A woman who doesn’t want to struggle will give her the rest of her life to a man. If she loses the ability to be independent after marriage, she will most likely be disliked by her husband after being old and old.
Modern society is really not fair to women. If you only know how to take care of the elderly and children at home and have no independent financial ability, then you can only pay for your living expenses based on your husband's face.Girls should know that marriage and love are not the whole of life, it is just a stage in your entire life. Love is just your social interaction, not your life; marriage is your life choice, not your life. If you only want to get married when you are old, then there will definitely be more unhappiness in the second half of your life. This behavior is also a manifestation of irresponsibility. When you meet a boy, his views and words and deeds will tell you whether he is really your "true emperor". After getting familiar with it, you can spend 9.9 to receive the small red book. I hope that when you ask again why when you get married, you can say to me: "Because we love each other, we are very compatible in all aspects, not at the age of age." I hope that in the future, you will meet the person who you love him very much and he loves you very much. You have similar views, your soul can communicate, and your body has passion.
