See a picture: a sudden heavy rain, the crowds on the street are scattered, and the vendors at the fruit stalls have nowhere to escape, so they can only curl up under the cart, and only survive the heavy rain. There is a heartbreaking sentence in the comment section of
: people have reached a certain age and are the ones they are, and they can no longer find another place to hide from the rain.
Before, I always thought that people had reliance. When they were young, they had their parents and their children to rely on. When they grew up and had their children, they had their spouses and children to rely on.
As we grow older, we will truly understand after retirement that when a person reaches a certain age, he can only rely on himself. Only by being his own eaves can he not be eroded by the wind and frost of life. Because no one will give you a place to hide from the rain, only by becoming an eaves can heal the wind and rain for the rest of his life.
My parents are old, and their children fly far away
For various reasons, I haven't returned to my parents' home for half a year. When I knocked on the door and saw that my father's back was bent and his mouth was flat without teeth, I still felt an inexplicable feeling of sorrow in my heart. The father who once gave me warmth was old.
Every time at this time, I will tell myself that I will only report good news but not bad news. I will only tell my father what I have done. Other bad worries will be temporarily stuck. When there is no one, I will slowly heal my wounds.
used to feel that I had encountered grievances and injustice in my life, and would go home to chat with my parents about . In fact, it could not solve any substantial problems. But after I finished speaking, the silence of my mother and the frown of my father made me feel their concerns and worries, so I no longer talk about my unhappy things.
Parents’ aging is an inevitable rule, and children’s growth cannot be stopped. I thought my daughter had grown up and matured and could do something for us, but later I found out that the children who were not around told her that our parents were in poor health or had troubles at home, not only could they not solve the actual problems, but would also make children traveling far away worried and anxious.
After retirement, I understand more and more that in the rest of my life, I can only be my own roof and shelter myself from the wind and rain. I hope I can have a support, that is not possible. When parents grow old, we want their eaves; when children grow up, we also want their eaves. This is the meaning of our visit to the world. treat our parents who have given birth to us well, take good care of our children, send the elderly away, and raise our children to us, and our tasks will be completed.
The companions around me will not only change their minds, but will also leave you forever
After retirement, what happened to a few sisters around me has made me, who have been dependent on the people around me for half a lifetime, have a new understanding of life.
A sister's wife chose to divorce her after she retired, and it was the kind of divorce after transferring her family's property. The family had no savings and only a welfare house was left for this sister. It is useless to sue, and in the end, I can only sigh: How bad can human nature be? People who have been with me for decades can be so bad that they are inhumane.
There is also a sister's wife, who is a "virtuous husband" that everyone praises. She not only takes care of housework, but also is very motivated and able to earn money to support her family. Such a perfect wife did not wake up in her sleep and left her in her sleep.
I thought that people would shed their storms when they got married, but who knew that the storms of life were actually the brought to me by the people around me; I thought that I could enjoy the best life and watch the sunset with my wife, but I thought that people walked halfway quietly. The only one who can cover your roof with wind and rain in the rest of his life is to hide his storm.
Yesterday I saw a short article where a girl paid 6,000 yuan and transferred 5,000 yuan to her boyfriend as soon as possible, saying that she could not save the money, so she asked her boyfriend to help her save it, so that the two of them would save money together to buy a house and a car.
I was still very moved when I saw this, and then I saw the girl’s boyfriend saying that I had met my girlfriend after practicing the blessing of three lives and that I would not let my girlfriend down in this life.
I was still touched in my heart. The beauty of the oath lies in the moment, and it really cannot be regarded as a promise for a lifetime. In ancient times, so many examples tell us that no matter how deep the relationship is, we must first learn to love ourselves, otherwise there will be no "angry and sinking into treasure chests" and selling wine in the street, as well as the song " White-headed Song ", and the tragedy of the 18-year-old cold kiln waiting and the 18-day queen. These stories tell us that women are infatuated and resentful in the end, and only by living sober can we live better.
When people reach a certain age, they will understand that no matter how beautiful the oath is, it is just a vow. How beautiful the relationship was, when encountering the real interests, the sacrifice will always be women. Then there is accidents and tomorrow. No one knows which one will arrive first. women must learn to be their own roof. Don’t expect or wait for someone to shelter you from the wind and rain.
can only rely on themselves to make their roofs for the rest of their lives.
Buddhist scriptures say: , all kinds of things are suffering, and you can only save yourself. self-suffering is a kind of wisdom and a kind of growth. In this life, no one holds an umbrella for you, only you are your own roof!
People are old and retired. We need to be our own roof for the rest of our lives. learn to love ourselves and shelter ourselves from the wind and rain, and do not rely on anyone or who we rely on in everything.
After all, parents will leave the world first, and their children will fly away from us. Even if they are by our side, they have their own lives. If we place our lives on our children, we often get resentment from each other. In the end, everyone will be exhausted, and in the end they will not be grateful but resentment.
Madam Curie said: The road must be walked by yourself so that it can be wider and wider. In the rest of your life, instead of "waiting, relying, and seeking", it is better to be your own redeemer. Only by giving yourself a sense of security will you live a wonderful life and a beautiful life. is your own roof, shelter you from the rest of your life and live a good life for the second half.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
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