Many people say, "Suffering losses is a blessing", and they all want to reach this state of suffering losses, but in a person's life, it is impossible to meet kind people. If you read thousands of sails, you will find that when you convey your kindness to everyone, what you get may not be good.
Although it is said that harming others cannot be done, it is necessary to be wary of others. In the face of the sincerity and kindness of others, it is okay to suffer a little loss, but you cannot blindly lower the bottom line and tolerate others trampling on your dignity at will. You will find that some losses are not worth eating.
Most of the time, you will be willing to sacrifice your own interests for others. Even if there is no return, you are willing. However, if you have no bottom line kindness, you will take the precautions and let others hurt you. When you are really hurt, it will be too late to regret it again.
However, people often experience it after personal experience. Some harm needs to be suffered personally in order to firmly firm their principles without hesitation.
does not want you to reject kindness, but kindness that cannot be without bottom line. When your kindness becomes without standards, others will use it to hurt you.
Therefore, many times, after suffering less than three kinds of losses, I realized that people should not be too kind.
1: The loss of love
When a person devotes himself to a relationship, he will love the other person wholeheartedly and think about the other person. However, in love, people should not be too kind. Some things that should be taken care of should be taken for granted. Otherwise, all your efforts will be taken for granted by the other person.
And your kindness and your disregard will only make the other party do whatever he wants, and even betray you in love, without being condemned by his conscience.
Because in the eyes of the other party, you don’t care about these things, and at this time, your kindness becomes the reason why others hurt you.
Of course, you can give for the other party in your relationship or use a new one to manage this relationship, but you need to have a tough principle. The premise for you to make these efforts is that the other party can also devote yourself to you. If the other party changes his heart, you must also stop the loss in time.
Many people often suffer from the loss of their relationship and find that people should not be too kind.
If you are a very picky or even very strong person in your relationship, although I may have many conflicts in your relationship, he will never dare to ignore your emotions as he pleases. Instead, he will be shocked by your authority and have to take care of your emotions.
But when he gets used to your kindness, he will know that no matter what he does, you will eventually forgive and will not scold him too much, so he will have this mentality, irresponsible for his feelings, and has no sense of responsibility to you.
Therefore, you must maintain the bottom line in your relationship. Each relationship should be equal. You have the right to be kind and have the right to fight for the reward you deserve. Use your hard attitude to protect your kindness. Such behavior is worth pursuing.
2: Loss in the workplace
Many people know that the workplace is like a palace drama, full of intrigue, and everyone's goal is for their own interests.
When the goals of two people are inconsistent, it is easy to have differences. If you meet a villain, the other party is likely to use any means to fight for his own interests.
So don’t be too kind in the workplace. Only when you have truly suffered losses in the workplace will you find that not all kindness will be treated sincerely.
When you remain kind and simple in the workplace, you will remain kind even for those who are close to you with ulterior motives. If your colleagues who are with you day and night betray you, you will not blame them. Even if someone turns the blame on you, you will bear it silently.
Slowly, you will find that it is because of your kindness that you have entered a dead end of being bullied, and they do not think your kindness is warm. They think that your mentality can be used, so such kindness without bottom line is unnecessary.
3: The loss of life
In life, all kinds of different things may happen at every moment, and every change may change your life. When you maintain excessive kindness in life, those with ulterior motives will have an opportunity to take advantage of it.
Only when you suffer such a loss in life will you understand that not everyone in your life deserves sincere treatment.
Some people even if they cross thousands of mountains and rivers just to send you a ride, but some people will not treat you sincerely after spending ten years with you.
So even if you are kind, you must be prepared. When you have the strength to protect yourself, you will talk about how to treat others kindly and warm others' premise. This is to be able to hold the future in your hands and not be influenced by others.
When you are confused on the way forward, you should thank you for meeting warmth and kindness around you, "put it on the wood peach and repay it with Qiong Yao", but when others are maliciously facing each other, you should also let go of kindness and protect yourself firmly.
