Before going to bed last night, a fan sent me a message. He said: "Teacher Wang, can you explain to me what a wrong life is? Apart from crime and failure, are there any other wrong life patterns?"
people committed crimes, which must have endangered the interests of others or the interests of the collective. Then, he was punished and squatted in prison. This is indeed a mistake in life and a regret in life. Also, people fail due to personal mistakes or other people's mistakes, which is also a wrong life.
But besides these two wrong lives, are there any other wrong lives? has! And there are so many things to show!
I think there is a very simple way to distinguish whether our life is right and whether our whole life is right:
First, what you are concerned about, the object you are doing is correct.
Look at the object first. For example: If you drink wine every day, your partner is wine. If you make friends randomly and make friends with people who are both irrelevant, your partner is a person who is both irrelevant. When you read books every day, your object is books.
First look at the object you are following, and see if what you are doing is right or wrong? of course, right and wrong are relative under certain conditions, but some mistakes are immutable, such as wasting their years, such as swearing intently cursing others and doing things that harm others and benefit themselves... This is not allowed in any country's moral and legal system!
Second, where do you spend your time? If the time you invest is not good for your mental and physical health, nor for your relatives around you, you will not get any financial rewards. The things you invest in when you spend your time are either boring or wrong!
In this way, there are two standards for wrong life . First, it depends on whether the time you spend is valuable. The highest value is beneficial to mental and physical health. Happiness comes naturally. Happiness is actually a companion of mental and physical health. Second, look at the person you are following and whether you are doing things right. This is very simple.
We jumped our thinking to the programs we usually watch and the short videos we watch. If you have always liked and followed a person who has been talking big and talking, it is very attractive to you. Please summarize: I watched it for a year from last year to this year, what have you got? If it is just the satisfaction of curiosity, if his words only fill your empty heart and pass your boring time, your life is likely to be wrong!
Because the first correct thing is to be beneficial to your mental and physical health. So you should read more about health care knowledge, some training thinking, some that will make you move towards health and nobleness, understand what true beauty and true goodness are, and have a deeper and more correct understanding of these aspects.
These wisdom and experience are beneficial to your mental and physical health and to your life.
If the things you are looking at don’t mean to you, they don’t mean to the people around you. Then what do you think it does, what do you do?
You might as well turn off your phone and do something for the people around you:
Mom, I will wash your clothes for you today, Mom, I will take a walk with you today, Mom, I will tell you a story today, Mom, I will tell you a little health knowledge today. This is what is good for your mom.
You accompany your child to learn a piece of ancient Chinese and read a biography of people that are beneficial to the growth of children. It is beneficial to the people around you.
We people should do things that are beneficial to ourselves and things that are beneficial to the people around us every day. The most important thing about this benefit is that it is beneficial to mental and physical health, and to development and growth. We must condense the correct life into a small range. If we allow this range to be expanded, it will be messy, and you may not know the things or the choice.
There is a great person who said this: Don’t let many people be your masters, I’m afraid you will be lost. If you want to follow this, that needs to follow this, this needs to worship, and that needs to worship, you will be lost.
What people fear most in their lives is to lose and waste their years.
Every morning I wake up and turn on my phone, and major video platforms will constantly push various programs to me, and I spend a long time blocking them every day. The content of is boring and has nothing to do with my physical and mental health. Those who take advantage of the hot topics will be blocked and not read any of them!
Because it is not a waste of my time, it is depriving me of my time and snatching my time! I'm going to get my time back, I have to block them!
Some people you don’t look at, but you are still calm in your heart. When you see it, you feel annoyed because it’s either boring or nonsense. You have to distinguish what is boring and what is not very helpful to you.
We have to buy the best things when we buy things. We have to go to the best school to go to school. We eat the best food and the food with the highest nutritional value. We have to read the most classic and best books. When we watch videos, why not read randomly?
Is your time worthless? Do you really don’t understand some short videos, some people who are boasting about robbing your time? How precious time is, it is gone forever!
Everyone should have learned " Hurry " written by Mr. Zhu Ziqing . If you haven't learned it, you can search online. I admire Zhu Ziqing very much. His articles are important. His articles seem plain, but they are actually very talented!
I think his articles are much better than many famous authors of the same era. You can read "Hurry". Zhu Ziqing's perception of time: it is gone forever, you can't buy it, the past is over...
Confucius stood by the river and said: The dead are like this, never leaving the day and night. We really need to cherish our time and don’t look at valuable things.
"Do not look at anything that is polite, do not listen to anything that is polite" . Confucius's two sentences are so great. "ritual" can be interpreted here as moral principles. You can see these things that reflect moral and ethical values at a deep level, but they cannot reflect ethical values. What do we think of them? !
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wang Guorong, a psychologist, independent scholar, writer, the founder of China's holistic psychotherapy, and the first person in China's evidence-based psychotherapy.He was once the chief academic consultant of the Psychologist Magazine and a senior psychotherapist at Shanghai Boai Hospital . He is one of the most powerful and talented psychologists in China.
has published more than ten influential psychology monographs. Among them, " Breakthrough Treatment for Student Psychological Problems " was listed as a collection of books by hundreds of domestic universities such as Peking University , Tsinghua University , and other Tsinghua University . "50 Psychological Treatment and Adjustment Methods" won the Most Popular Book Award for Readers in the China University Press Alliance, "The 10 Most Important Relationships in Life" was listed as a Psychological Master Series by China Culture Press , and "Shaking Hands with Depression" won the Most Popular Professional Book Award for Readers.
