Writer Tong Hua once said:
"Some people can hide malicious intentions under praise, while others hide their painstaking efforts in cursing. What is good to you is really good, and what is bad to you is really bad."
As the saying goes: People's hearts are separated from the belly;
Other people's thoughts are difficult to guess and understand; just like others may not necessarily know our thoughts;
Everyone has a different understanding of the same thing, and a word you say casually may become a thorn in the heart of others;
Even if the other party is calm on the surface, it is not guaranteed that he will not attack you or plot against you in the future;
When we were young, we did not understand the hearts of people, and could not tell who is trustworthy and who is not worthy of delivering sincerity;
So, we selectively tell the people we think we trust about our thoughts and privacy;
But in fact, human hearts are fickle, and adults often focus on interests and forget the promises we made to you;
So, smart people, don’t tell others about these three privacy, don’t wait until they are used or hurt, and then regret that you are too confused.
Don’t tell others about your bad native family
After entering society, others will unconsciously make judgments about us when they deal with us;
guess our value through our words and deeds to see if it is worthy of their respect and whether it is deterrent to them.
Most people in this world do not have a perfect native family, and even many of them have very bad native families;
However, for ordinary people, the native family is the last protection place for a person;
If others know that your family is not only poor, but also has a bad relationship with your parents, and they are indifferent to you. Then you are exposing your weaknesses to others;
When you confess your misfortune in your original family, others will understand your trump card and know that even if he hurts you and deceives you, you will not have the ability to resist;
Just like when we were watching criminal investigation movies when we were young, those who can avenge a person and save him in times of crisis are lovers and family.
If your family is too lazy to care about you and ignore your feelings, don’t expect them to stand up when you are in trouble and bullied by others.
So, don’t easily reveal your bad original family to others and complain less about your dissatisfaction with your parents. This is the most basic protection for adults.
Don’t tell others how to make money by yourself
Now you make a living in society. You will find that many industries and professions are very " involume ", and the competition is very fierce. The reason is that the threshold is not high, and ordinary people can make money by relying on it;
When you have a place in a certain field through your own efforts, don’t forget it, or underestimate the complexity of human nature, and tell everyone about your own ways and experience of making money;
It can be said that it is very difficult for any skill to make a living to continue to make money with it, or make a lot of money;
Looking around, if a person teaches others to make money, it is charged, or it is also exchanged values. There is no completely free lunch in the world;
So, please cherish the fruits of your labor and don’t tell others the money you have learned;
If someone asks you, you can simply talk about your experience and avoid talking about your experience;
Because even some relatives and classmates are your potential competitors;
If everyone knows your way of making money, you are just making wedding clothes for others, and your family and life are struggling.
people all need to protect themselves first. If you are careless and tell everyone you want to tell them, you are undoubtedly causing trouble for yourself.
Don't tell others the wrong things you have done
A person cannot do anything wrong in his long life, and no one is perfect;
Some mistakes only hurt their own interests and feelings;
Some mistakes involve innocent people and cause harm to others;
If it is the latter, then a mature person should sincerely reflect and repent after making a mistake, and make corresponding compensation to those who are hurt by themselves, tell yourself from the bottom of your heart, don't make the same mistake again, bring blows to others, and don't destroy other people's happiness again.
However, you can do these things yourself. Don’t mention old things from time to time when chatting with others;
On the one hand, others do not understand the ins and outs of things, and may make arbitrary decisions about you, thinking that you have a bad character, and refuse to interact with you;
or the other party has suffered similar injuries and will be angry The fire is venting your anger on you and holding a grudge against you;
Even some people with bad intentions will spread the wrong things you have done everywhere, with the purpose of making you look ugly and becoming the target of public criticism;
Even if you have corrected it and make up for your own mistakes, the other party will not let go, and then you will fall into uninterrupted trouble and cause trouble to yourself.
The basic quality of adults is to manage their own mouths;
Misfortunes come from the mouth, and some words are just put in your stomach. Don’t just say them to everyone, otherwise happiness will be far away from you and disasters may come.
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