Heigen is Tang's adopted son and he trained him himself. Tang arranged for Heigen to negotiate with Walz, but Walz, who is not short of money and is very proud, doesn't take him seriously at all. He said proudly to Heigen:
is enough, a slick bastard, I tell you and your boss, I don't care who he is. I don't care how many black-skinned mafia bosses will emerge from the dark.
is obvious. Walz's disrespect for Hegen is just because he doesn't take Tang seriously. Hegen, who was taught by Tang, listened patiently to his threat to himself. "If I told someone to force me, you wouldn't know how to die."
Heigen remembered Tang's words, "Never get angry, never use threats, but reason."
In the face of Walz's mockery, Heigen still maintained a tiny and sufficient respect. After being insulted, he could still have a decent face without changing his face.
This was completely influenced by Tang. Once when Tang negotiated with others, his opponent was very arrogant and domineering, but Tang was not angry, but listened patiently and decently to him splashing for eight hours, and finally shrugged helplessly:
No one can reason with this guy.
When he heard Tang Wen say this gently, the other party was so scared that his face turned pale and asked someone to find Tang to forgive him for his recklessness, but two months later he encountered a disaster at the barber shop.
Tang used his gentleness to tell people: Gentleness is not weakness. It is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge for ten years, and it is not about getting angry and quarrels, nor about being overnight.
In psychology, this method of dealing with things is called "delayed gratification". If you want to properly solve the problem, don't use too many emotions, because emotions will only affect people's judgment.
Not arguing is the high emotional intelligence
not arguing, but the high emotional intelligence is the high emotional intelligence. Heigen uses words and deeds to explain the charm and effect of inconsistency.
Walz relies on his wealth and power, and did not take Hegen and Tang seriously at all, but Hegen did not show anger, but said politely:
I understand that you often deal with some people who think they are arrogant, and I am just the opposite. You might as well verify through our mutual friends. If you are willing to consider it, call my hotel. By the way, I admire you very much.
Facing contempt, Heigen did not argue, but he sent a signal in his gentle words:
First, the meaning of warning. Don't be too arrogant, it may be just shallow arrogance;
second, with a humble attitude, suggest that he investigate Tang's identity and background.
has extremely respect and humility. He has said a lot of compliments and has given him enough face. He even paved the way so that Walz regrets his current choice.
However, although Walz respected Tang and did not follow his advice. In his opinion, he was very powerful and had enough money, so he didn't have to listen to his advice at all.
But Heigen still expressed politely, thanking him for bringing himself such a wonderful time.
According to most people's thinking, people with status like Hegen and Tang have long used threats or "give some color" to intimidate when facing the rude Walz.
But they are always polite and respectful, which also gives the other party the illusion of awe. This is just Tang's way of dealing with things. Quarrel and quarrel, intimidation and threats will only aggravate the conflict and will not solve any problems.
Only by not fighting and giving in, and dealing with things with a polite attitude before the soldiers is a manifestation of high emotional intelligence.
People who have become great things know how to endure
As expected, Walz received a "gift" within a few days. In his heavily guarded home, Tang sent people to kill him 600,000 yuan at night to buy his favorite famous horse.
Fear and shock made him surrender to Tang, he was in the light, and Tang was in the dark. Those politeness and humility are not because they have no power, but because they have the opportunity and tolerance he gives.
You see, those who don’t argue are not admitting their conscience. People with high emotional intelligence will not be strong in everything and show off in everything, but hide their strength and solve the problem without making any noise.
Not arguing is the thinking of the strong, the true mind maturity, and the thinking that is necessary to achieve great things.
More often in life, it is a process of suffering and all kinds of unsatisfactory. If you are furious in the face of every discomfort and resistance, you will only make your life even more miserable.
In the face of conflicts and contradictions, it is more important to actively find ways to solve them, calm down and think in order to inspire wisdom when solving problems.
Franklin said: Only pain can bring learning to people.
People with high emotional intelligence will never vent their emotions because of dissatisfaction, but will choose not to compete and be humble, and then solve the problem rationally.
Because emotions will not completely disappear. Emotions are essentially anger at one's own incompetence. You can only take responsibility and solve the problem with a positive attitude.
does not seek temporary vanity, bitter first and then sweet, avoiding the pain and consequences of being quick and easy to take.
Only by facing it with the kindness of love and the bottom line of doing things can we solve problems without fear of favor and disgrace and high emotional intelligence.
