Luyao once said: "Life is always like this. People cannot be satisfied everywhere, but we must live enthusiastically."
In life, when dealing with people, there are inevitably grievances, comparisons, and frictions.
The greatest blessing is to be undisturbed by it, be calm and calm in your heart.
The best way to cherish one's life: be less serious, less comparison, less angry.
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Not serious
There is a saying that goes: "In life, you only need to try your best, and being serious will lose the fun."
Not serious is a state of mind. Most people who can do it will live freely.
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Because she hadn't come here for a while, she asked the boss: "Have you changed your location? I didn't seem to be here last time."
The store owner replied while doing things: "The previous boss saw that the business was too good, so he took the store back."
's tone was very peaceful, as if he was chatting about other people's homely gossip.
She immediately asked worriedly, "Will that affect your business? I remember not moving for long before."
The boss turned his head and smiled, "It's okay, now he is there, I'm here, so everyone is peaceful and have a bigger mentality."
Zhu Xi once said, "If the heart is big, everything will be understandable, and if the heart is small, everything will be sick."
Everyone has their own bitterness and pain in their lives. If they care about everything, it will only increase their burden on life.
If you take things lightly, you will complain less; if you relax, you will be more calm.
In 1958, " Song Poem Selected Notes " by Qian Zhongshu was published.
By chance, a friend sent this book to Hu Shi . After reading it, he did not have a high evaluation.
He also said to his friends: "I think this book is really bad. For example, Huangshangu, why didn't he choose "Inscription on Lotus Temple" and "Poems of Zizhan and Tao"? The few poems he chose are not considered good poems."
In addition, what is puzzling is that Hu Shi said he did not know Qian Zhongshu and the two had never seen each other before.
In fact, in 1948, Hu Shi had not only met Qian Zhongshu, but also three times. Although Qian Zhongshu was surprised, he did not care about Hu Shi's evaluation of his works and his rhetoric that he had never seen himself.
On the contrary, he also said to people: "I, Qian Zhongshu, recognize him, Hu Shizhi."
has heard this sentence: "If the heart is calculating, there will be complaints everywhere; if the heart is relaxed, it will always be spring."
Life is not a question of judgment, and not everything needs to be considered in order to be right or wrong.
Sometimes, the more serious the more things are, the more things are contrary to your wishes and you cannot live in peace.
is better to be confused, turn a blind eye, let others go, and let yourself go, and you will be relaxed and free, and everything will be fine.
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does not compete with
in the popular drama "Come on! In "Mom", Qin Wei is one of the mothers.
She was born in the countryside, with an average family background, and she had no capital to rely on her parents. The elderly on both sides could not help at all.
and her husband started from scratch, no house or car, and the family lived in a cramped rental house.
While the child can only take care of himself, he even has his study household registration under his relatives' name.
Although life is so difficult and difficult, in order to get his daughter to go to the gold medal kindergarten, Qin Wei disguised herself as a rich wife.
In the circle of full-time mothers, Qin Wei's economic level is at the bottom.
She lied that there was a gold mine at home, and she carried a fake brand-name bag, dressed up brightly every day, as if she had no worries and no need to worry about money.
In order not to let others see through, Qin Wei secretly took the bus home every day, and three meals a day are simple and simple.
worried that her husband's career and income were not decent enough. She suggested that her husband try not to attend parent-teacher meetings, fearing that the family is not rich enough.
The rich ladies can see at a glance that Qin Wei is deceiving herself and dislike her poverty and hypocrisy.
After being hit by dimensionality reduction again and again, Qin Wei finally let go of her competing heart, accepted reality calmly, and lived her own little life steadily.
Robert Frank once said: "The tiredness of life comes from survival, and the half comes from comparison."
The tiredness of survival is inevitable; but the tiredness of comparison is asking for trouble.
Franklin once said: "For people who are not satisfied, it is comfortable to have no chair."
The greatest sorrow in life is to compare with others all your life. What the comparison of
is not satisfaction, but endless troubles and anxiety.
Live in comparison with others, even if you have a wealth of wealth, you will be exhausted.
If you live for your own life, you will be content and always be happy, even if you are a simple meal, you will be happy.
Always contentment, self-consistent and joyful, step by step, life is a happy appearance.
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Don't be angry
In 2012, after Mo Yan won the Nobel Prize in Literature , his fame increased greatly and his value also increased. It is said that a calligraphy work can be sold for hundreds of thousands or even millions.
Mo Yan also held his personal calligraphy and ink exhibition, and his works were also collected at high prices.
However, many netizens do not buy it when Mo Yan's calligraphy works are sold at a high price.
They think that Mo Yan's calligraphy is very average, and the reason why he sells it at a high price is just a celebrity effect.
Mo Yan was not angry about netizens' doubts.
On the contrary, he said: "Some people criticize it to make progress, and their curses are like fat urging a big tree."
Later, he continued to add: "Writing books is the right way, and writing is a hobby. The right way does not delay, and hobbies are also needed. As long as I am happy, no one can care about it! "
Master Hongyi once said: "When a person slanders me, it is better tolerate it than to defend it; when a person insults me, it is better to transform it than to be able to prevent it."
In the face of slander and doubt, getting angry is instinct, not being angry is a skill.
Behind the lack of anger, there is a subtext that different cognitions do not need to be said.
Most of the time, being in a conflict, as if nothing is happening is the best counterattack.
The strong are as calm as water, while the weak are as angry as fire.
The best way to treat yourself well: be less angry, don’t compete, and be calm and you will be more comfortable.
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Maupassant wrote a passage:
"If a person can firmly think about what he wants and thinks about his own life well, he will be much happier."
When you don't get entangled with trivial matters and be less serious, you will feel better.
When you choose to let go of life, less comparison, less worries will be lost.
When you filter the sounds around you, get less angry, life will be smooth.
People with broad hearts are happiest, people with content are the luckiest, and people with free and easy are the happiest.
The rest of your life, I hope you will not compare with others or with yourself, your life will be clear and bright, and everything you encounter will be beautiful.
