When I was young, I felt that there was true love between people and friendship in times of hardship, and I gave my sincerity, and I thought that was the true nature; as time went by, the years grew older, reality tells us that it was a disaster to get too close to people.
In the world of adults, there are fewer "intimacy" and more, instead "distance produces beauty". Especially when we get along after retirement, we still have a good distance between us. is not harmful to others, but we must be cautious about others. .
Never feel that "when a person gets old, his heart becomes softer". Many times, we are as stated in "The Godfather": soft heart without boundaries will only make the other party gain more and more; mercy without boundaries will only make the other party do whatever he wants.
Some people say that every disaster in will come to us inadvertently. When I was young, I always felt that I was amazing and was not afraid of all the problems in life. When I reached a certain age, I suddenly realized that is actually so "powerless" in this world.
When we are with others after retirement, please stay with us, so as to leave a good way out for our old age.
People who have a deep conversation should not believe
Chi Li said: "Reliable, it is simple to say, but complicated to fall down; it sounds like a feeling, but it is the principle to do it."
In the vast sea of people, we will get along with many people and have interactions with different people. Who are worth dating, and who are just people with shallow relationships and love are needed to learn to distinguish.
After retirement, we need to learn to protect ourselves. "Zengguang Xianwen" says: "If you only say three parts to others, you can't just leave it alone." When interacting with others, you should speak according to your relationship, rather than just speaking it out of your heart when you meet others. This will often make you fall into a passive situation.
In fact, most of the dates after retirement are people who have not known each other for decades. The more you say, the more opportunities you will be taken advantage of by those with ulterior motives. Only by mastering the proper measure of speaking can you avoid causing trouble.
0 The 56-year-old sister Fan in our training team is a warm and hospitable person and is kind to everyone. However, her kindness is often used by others and even hurts herself.
Before a competition, someone found Sister Fan and wanted to know her game routine. They just praised her and asked her to give her some advice on her routine. Sister Fan became serious and explained to that person bit by bit from basic skills to the transformation of boxing posture. As a result, when it came to the game, they appeared earlier than Sister Fan, but they played with Sister Fan's routine.
Only then did Sister Fan realize that she had been "routine" by others, and finally knew why the master told her to talk less, read more, and think more. For those who have a deep conversation, you should learn to be perfunctory and not believe others' words easily. It is often a "routine".
Speaking is an art, and it is also a kind of depth. For us retirees, language is a bridge of social interaction. Telling "heart" to unfamiliar people is to give the other party the right to hurt you.
Many times, the degree of your speech determines whether you have a way out. is a social unspoken rule for self-protection .
Invite people to invest, don’t get involved
A writer once said that when he was young, he thought money was very important, but now he is old and deeply agrees that money is really important.
After retirement, our ability to make money has decreased, so we must learn to keep our savings and never be cared about by those who are interested.
When someone asks about your income and family property, learn to only say three points, especially those who invite you to invest, as far away as they are.
people like html not only have good words, but also can act. Sometimes we ordinary people cannot withstand their "temptation", and the way to protect ourselves is to stay away. Never think about it, I will try to invest less. Often, it is this mentality. If others give you a little sweetness, you will invest all your wealth.
68-year-old Lao Li invested 50,000 yuan at first, and received a high monthly interest rate. He told everyone that this was true and he invested all his pension money. In less than half a year, he couldn't find anyone, so what if he reported the case? It's not that many people are still in the sea.
is the one who gets angry, and is the one who is blamed by his family. This is typical greed in human nature. As long as we don’t greedy for those little profits, we will not have the idea of trying it out and will not be deceived.
I can’t stand others’ good, please stay away from
Higashino Keigo said: "The most difficult thing in the world to look directly is the sun, and the other is the heart of the people." There are always people in life who can’t stand people who live better than themselves. When they hear others praise their children for their filial piety, they tell others that their children are filial because they rely on their parents; when they see others have new jewelry, they will say something sour and sarcastic about others, and they must be the best in every way, and they cannot stand others’ good.
After retirement, we will participate in group activities in the community or square and meet people we have never met. This requires us to learn to seize others. Those who always like to blame others and say bad things in the crowd should stay away from them. Don't offend her directly, and don't trust her easily. Although she has no intention of harming you, says people who are right and wrong must be right and wrong .
Remember there is a clip from a movie where you put more than two crabs in the basket, so you don’t have to worry about them crawling out. Because, whenever a crab wants to climb out, the other one will drag it down. This is the "crab effect" in psychology. In life, there are always people who live like crabs in a basket. When sees the people around you who are living better than her, they try their best to say bad things about others.
After retirement, when you meet such a person, you must learn to stay away from alienation at all, otherwise your kindness may be ruined, and your kindness will be treated as a donkey by such a person. Not only will it not be of any benefit to you, but it will also cause trouble for nothing.
No matter how good the relationship is, you must know that there are boundaries in terms of measure
Bondalev said: "The root of all human suffering comes from the lack of sense of boundaries in ." When people get along with each other, no matter how good the relationship is or how strong the friendship is, you must also learn to keep a sense of boundaries in terms of limits, which is to leave a way out for yourself.
After retirement, we have withdrawn from the workplace. When interacting with others, we must know that should not be too extreme and learn to leave room. Don’t make your relationship with others too close or too distant.
Learn to keep a sense of distance from others is a kind of wisdom for us after retirement . No matter how good the relationship is, don’t be “no restraint”. People who always use “no intention” as an excuse will only make people bored and will not have true friends.
56-year-old Zhang feels that she has a close relationship with her friends, speaks directly, and always interferes in her friends' housework. If she talks too much and does too much, she will not only not get thanks from her friends, but will instead make her friends farther away from her. She feels that Sister Zhang not only has no sense of responsibility, but also crosses the line. Just manage her own family well. If she interferes in other people's housework, she will often only attract hatred and not be grateful.
On the road of life, good relationships are all achieved through management. Smart people are good at keeping a sense of proportion when they get along with others. does not embarrass themselves or others are uncomfortable.
Conclusion:
After retirement, learn to be careful with others. In fact, it is to leave a way out for yourself. See more, think more, talk less, and do less.
Only when you don’t say what you have in your heart with someone who has a shallow relationship will not be hurt; only when you don’t interact with someone who invites you to invest in will not be deceived; only when you are not with someone who is jealous will not be consumed unnecessary;
No matter how good you are with someone who has a good relationship, you must have a sense of proportion and boundaries so that you can keep your mouth, keep your money, do good deeds, recognize people, and live a peaceful and peaceful life in complex interpersonal relationships.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
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