How to pursue and spend it, so as not to let our hard life down? It may not be that you really want a happy marriage and a successful career.
As long as our values and pursuits are in line with the logic of reality . That is, if our own understanding of ourselves, others and society is consistent with our real situation, we will have happiness. As some people say, happiness is satisfaction.
Can accept your ordinary side
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Only when you have hope in your heart can your life be more positive and fulfilling. But as the majority of "ordinary people", we must also have "ordinary people's awareness." What is the enlightenment of ordinary people?
As we grow older, the dreams in our hearts have gradually become blurred, and a more objective and real world appears before us.
All living beings, history will not record the lives of us ordinary people. But decades later, the traces of our existence in the world have been completely gone. There is really no need to waste your energy because of the momentary troubles and temporary frustration in front of you. There is no need to be proud of the sake of fame and profit.
You should look at the ups and downs of life with a normal mind. Allow yourself to fail and reserve at least 30% of trial and error space for your life. Don’t deify yourself. Even if you make wrong decisions, it is normal. Even if you are excellent or successful, you will still make mistakes.
We must not only strive to be a better person, but also always appreciate the imperfect self at the moment. I used to feel that I was not good enough and I wanted to break myself up and rebuild it.
people suddenly understand when they reach middle age, and better is an endless thing. It's too hard to rush and rush to the road in a hurry, and only use a result of progress to demand yourself.
accepts imperfections that cannot be changed by itself. Every ordinary person lives in this world with all kinds of heart problems and problems.
Do not have body anxiety, appearance anxiety, or sub-health anxiety. As long as you are anxious, you won't be better. Accepting yourself is a better start.
At the same time, you can have "leisure and leisure" to enjoy the dullness and small beautiful moments in life. As long as you are interested, a slow and simple meal can make people feel that the world is worthwhile.
Forgive yourself
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If you have done something that you are sorry for others, don't take it too seriously. Too much self-blame is like a shackle. When the mind is immature, everyone has done some stupid things.
There are both cooperation and conflicts and contradictions between people. This is inevitable. It is impossible for a person to live without offending others, and it is impossible to be liked by everyone.
If you have to do something important and correct, even if these things may offend some people, then offend them. Society is a jungle, and win-win is always the minority.
One day, when I realized that there were not so many people in the world caring about me, my life became much easier. As an ordinary person, living your life well is your duty. There is no need to put such great pressure on yourself. You must help others, or you must not be selfish.
Helping others can be a kind of cultivation, but it is not a must, nor is it our responsibility. When you understand this principle, although what you do has not changed, and although you will still help others, your mentality will change and your life will be much easier.
Forgive yourself for your occasional laziness, and don’t deify yourself, and allow yourself to fail. The most self-disciplined people also have times of decadence and procrastination and self-denial. No one has 365 days a year, and it is progressing day by day, and no one has a lifetime, and it is smooth sailing every year.
Forgive yourself for being cowardly or feel that you are useless. When we feel hesitant about something and don’t know how to make a decision, we don’t have to force ourselves to make a decision. You can keep your original state with an observation heart while groping forward. The information accumulated in and other places is becoming more and more, and the direction is clearer, and when enough information is accumulated, the road ahead will be presented to you.
You should like yourself from the bottom of your heart, enjoy the current life, love yourself, and be content with everything you have, it is more important than anything else. If you live a happy and comfortable life, it will not be in vain to come to the world.
Accepting the long loneliness
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Most of the time, no one will really understand you. When I was young, I always wanted to gain the understanding and recognition of others. However, the results always go against our wishes. We are facing walls everywhere and we are not understood and feel particularly lonely and wronged.
Later I realized that our lover or partner, our parents and brothers, our childhood friends or best friends who grew up together, cannot truly fully understand you. Living in this world, your true teammate is only you.
Spending alone in one person’s time. Even if you meet your beloved, you will eventually find that there will be many barriers. And you will eventually find that there is almost no way we can change anyone. Including parents, colleagues, pillows, or clients. All we can do is change ourselves and protect ourselves as much as possible.
does not expect to be understood by anyone, but paying for your own choice is the first step to being a real adult.
Do what you really love
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Learn to be sincere to yourself. The pain for many people is that they cannot sincerely face their failed lives. Can't compromise with yourself. Therefore, he is trapped in contrast with others all day long and is in such pain that he can't extricate himself.
People like this are very pitiful because they have lost the anchor of their life. People who have lost their anchor in life are wandering on the sea of destiny all day long, not knowing the direction and meaning of their own life, and when they see others' goodness, they feel lost. I always feel wronged and let my fate down.
You have to accept the fact that fate is unfair. Everyone gets different cards at the beginning. Some people have big cards in one hand, while others have bad cards in the other. Some people live in Rome , and some people struggle in the mud.
The good mentality is to play the cards in your hand seriously no matter what you get, and let yourself get as much happiness and joy as possible in this game.
How to play well? There must be a main line in all things in life. Put our energy on what we think is the most important thing. Everyone has limited energy, don’t be demanding the perfect life in the eyes of others.
If you are doing something you like with your heart and happen to be your favorite, it is already a near-perfect life.
is not a perfect life that makes sense. Only by liking will our lives really have hope. Like and love are the spark in your heart, which guides you along the way without being confused.
Everyone's energy is limited. In terms of process theory, the success of a thing requires us to devote great enthusiasm, invest a lot of time in the process, and give up a lot of beautiful things for it.
If you don’t agree with this from the bottom of your heart, it will be easy to give up halfway. Only by what you really love can you do nothing. When encountering setbacks and failures, we are still willing to move forward. When you feel tired and discouraged, you can still persevere.Only when I encounter temptation and interference can I be determined.
Just as smart people say: a successful life has only one definition: "waste" this life in the way you want.
