In today's impetuous and noisy fast-paced era, people are walking in a hurry every day, running around and not having to have time for a moment. Being carried forward, being overwhelmed by life, living in the form of what you hate, an out-of-control life... These are gradually becoming the life labels and melodies of many people. This is exactly what the saying goes: I've been busy all the time, and I'm in vain.
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John Lennon said: When we are running for life, life has left us. How long has it been since you had a good meal? Do you remember the last time you spent your family well?
was fascinated by the bustling and prosperity. We took many detours and lost many precious things. It’s time to calm down, slow down, listen to the voices deep in your heart, find the key to a good life, and turn our out of control into life.
Lin Qingxuan said: When our hearts calm down, our worries are noisy, like the mud in life, but we are also waiting, or there will be a lotus, some pure wisdom, which blooms from the corners of ignorance and unknown.
Insight into your words has the power to soothe people's hearts and can make people calm down. His new book "Insight into a Different Self: 60 Wisdom Tips to Reduce Detours" selects 60 high-quality articles, starting from the five major themes of cognition, self-discipline, cultivation, interpersonality, and emotions, helps us wash the sludge in life, see the wisdom of life in silence, and become a better self.
01 Say goodbye to low-level diligence, find the right direction
Two interns who entered the company at the same time, A works overtime until 12 pm every day, and B leaves on time every day, and the final assessment is that A leaves. Why is this? When A is busy with trivial matters every day, B is studying the company's strategic level issues. During the formal examination, the two people's internship reports were obvious. A was a long-term discussion and was just a proper one, but B was clear and focused.
Why do some people work diligently but achieve nothing? Because he was either busy and busy, rushing around like a headless fly, or using fake diligence to decorate his unbearable life, and ended up with an empty ending.
Life without thinking is not worth living. We need to take off from the trivial busyness, leave a space for ourselves to think, listen quietly to the voice deep in our hearts, and find the path that can best realize the value of life.
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Zengzi said: I examine myself three times a day. Reflection and review are the good recipes for self-improvement that people have always advocated. They can enable us to capture personal growth points from the complexity and improve the quality of our lives. Meditation and reading are also highly recommended ways to improve oneself.
No matter how busy we are every day, we must leave some quiet time for ourselves to reflect, meditate and read. Calm down, grind yourself every day, find the right direction of your efforts, and you will eventually achieve something.
02 Reject invalid social interaction, focus on growing
Endless wine, endless meals, endless gossip... In the end, we have only a life that cannot see meaning. In order to "society", we seem to have been kidnapped by invalid social interaction. Even though we don't have much free time, we still have to chase all kinds of meaningless fun. Blindly sociable will only lose yourself; being good at being alone will naturally make your heart full.
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Thoreau far away from the prosperity and hustle and bustle of the city, lived a minimalist life, lived alone for two years, and wrote the popular " Walden "; Madam Curie pursues a simple life, there is only one dining table and two chairs in the living room, without the intrusion of human relationships and world, and finally reached the peak of science; Zhou Guoping likes quietness and does not like to participate in various excitement. He feels that reading and writing at home every day and staying with your family is the happiest day.
The truly powerful people are avoiding ineffective social interaction, being calm and abstinent, and living independently and soberly. Yang Jiang said: The world belongs to oneself and has nothing to do with others.
What level you are at will, you will know what kind of people you are at. When you are not strong enough, following the crowd and rushing to the bustle is a waste of life. At this time, what you need to do is to stay away from unnecessary circles, cut off unnecessary material desires, simplify life, focus on growth, and enrich your heart. If you bloom, the butterflies will come.
03 Get rid of emotional out of control, solve problems
10% of life consists of what happens to us, while the other 90% is determined by how we react to what happens. This is what the famous Fistinger law explains, which tells us that emotions can determine 90% of life. Whoever can manage emotions well will be able to control life.
There is an donkey accidentally fell into a dry well. The owner racked his brains and couldn't save it. The donkey kept wailing in pain at the bottom of the well. Finally, the owner decided to fill the well to relieve the donkey's pain. When the owner shoveled the dirt into the well, the donkey realized his situation and cried miserably, but soon the donkey became quiet.
The owner couldn't help but look down. The scene in front of him surprised him: when the soil fell on the donkey's back, the donkey would shake off the soil and then stand on the pile of soil. In this way, the donkey rose to the wellhead little by little with the help of the soil and successfully saved himself.
This donkey did not let himself indulge in negative emotions, but instead found a way to solve the problem and finally regained his life.
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Problem will cause emotions, but emotions are not the same as problems and cannot solve the problem. A mature person must learn to mute his emotions, separate his emotions from problems, and put solving problems first. Especially at work, things are more important than emotions is the basic consciousness.
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Zhou Guoping said: The best state of life is rich and quiet. Quietness is because we have escaped the temptation of external false reputation. Richness is because of possessing the treasure of the inner spirit.
Live in this society with material desires and impetuous people. If we want to avoid being swept away by the general environment, we need to cultivate the ability to be quiet. Leave a pure land in the prosperity so that we can be ourselves and become better selves.
Insighting Jun's "Insighting a Different Self" is an encyclopedia that helps us seek a better life in silence. I hope this book can make you feel the power of silence and slowly live the way you like.
