article\Shi Er, Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
I don’t know if there is such a type of person around you, and you always can’t stand others’ good.
You insist on fitness and recorded a Vlog to show your gains. Many friends commented that you were just posing for photos;
You were promoted and raised by your salary, obviously relying on your strength and hard work, but your colleagues said that you were all obtained by flattering your leaders;
You bought a car and a house, and it was obviously relying on your hard work, but relatives were talking behind their backs that you were unfair income.
In life, there are always some people who refuse to admit the excellence of others, and these people are often people around you. If you can’t stand others’ life better than yourself, you always like to be sour and step on others and balance yourself.
If you are richer than him, he will be jealous, and if you are happier than him, he will be uncomfortable. People like
will always secretly try to make trouble for you and make trouble for you.
People who like to be sorry for you, getting along with them is a consumption of themselves, and only by staying away is the greatest protection for themselves.
01. Behind you is the bad nature of human nature
There is a dialogue in the movie " Three Idiots Make a Bollywood ":
"Your friend fails, you feel bad; your friend first place in the exam, you feel worse."
Sometimes, we all have a conflicting mentality about the people around us: I hope you live a good life, it is true, but I hope you live a good life, it is true.
Thinking of the TV series "Parents' Love ", Ge Meixia and An Jie are good friends in the play. Their family backgrounds are similar. They are both beautiful and knowledgeable women, but their lives are vastly different.
An Jie had Jiang Defu who cared for her very much, so he almost never suffered much in that turbulent era.
But because Ge Meixia was the daughter of a fisherman, she was a woman with poor family composition in that era, and no one dared to marry her. This made Ge Meixia not only difficult to find a job, but also became an older single woman.
friend An Jie lives a happy and comfortable life, but he has no idea about a partner. In contrast, Ge Meixia developed a jealousy.
Just at this time, Xia painter came to the island. She invited Xia painter to Anjie's house and wanted to take this opportunity to make things difficult for Anjie.
Before, Jiang Defu was very angry because An Jie was a model for Teacher Xia. At that time, rumors about the two people had already spread on the island.
So in order to avoid suspicion, Anjie deliberately kept a certain distance from Teacher Xia, but not only did Ge Meixia ignore Anjie's difficulties, she also took the initiative to call the rumored object to Anjie's house, which aggravated the gossip on the two of them.
Kego Higashino said in the book "Malicious":
"Some people hate for no reason. They are mediocre, have no talent, and are mediocre. So your excellence, your talent, your kindness and happiness are all original sins."
hit the nail on the head, and he said the bad nature of human nature.
is like Ge Meixia, who acts well with An Jie in front of others, but she is jealous of her life better than herself. On the surface, she was very close to An Jie, but behind her back, she had the greatest malice towards her. She thought about how to add some hindrance to An Jie's life anytime and anywhere to relieve her inner resentment.
and has An Jie ever harmed her? No, wouldn't you treat her well? No, but Anjie's happiness is the original sin. Ge Meixia just can't stand her happiness. If she doesn't destroy it a few times, she will be unable to sleep or eat. People like Ge Meixia are full of human nature. You should never try to use your efforts and dedication to get her good, let alone expect to move her and make her feel at ease.
You should know that there are always such people in this world who hate you and laugh at you for not having it; they think you are poor and afraid that you are rich. They are already so bad at the root of human nature. Only when you stay away can you not cause trouble for yourself.
02. Getting along with people who like to be sour you is a disaster
"You from the Stars" has this sentence:
"This is how human nature is. Seeing others climbing higher than you, it is not that I want to go there too, but to say to others, you come down and come to this quagmire."
Yes, in life, get along with people who like to be sour you, you may be dragged into the abyss of darkness and cause a disaster.
Once upon a time, although Feng, a candidate from Henan, scored a high score of 601 in the college entrance examination, he could no longer get his own notice.
Feng was originally able to enter at least one 211 university in Henan Province, which has more than 800,000 college entrance examination candidates. The moment he learned about his grades, the whole family was happy and proud of her. No one noticed this good news that made a relative in his village feel sad.
The day after filling out the application, Feng, who was alone at home, was dragged to an abandoned cave by this relative in the same village and was brutally killed.
This girl has been gritting her teeth and struggling for the college entrance examination for more than ten years and is as beautiful as a flower. She is carrying her infinite yearning and expectation for college. What she didn't expect was that she had surpassed more than 800,000 people, but she did not avoid this person who was sour.
In fact, there is no grudge or dispute between the two families. An insider talked about this matter in an interview and only said two words: "jealousy".
This relative and elder in the same village is disabled and has a bad life. The reason why he became an executioner was because he was jealous when he saw that the other party was living better than himself and his child was admitted to a good university. So he became brave and committed a sin.
In addition to grief, we can't help but recall that if Feng's family had discovered the abnormality of this relative in the same village earlier, they might have escaped this disaster.
There are not many people in the world who really expect you to be good, but there are many people who can't stand you good. We must always be alert and stay away from these people with bad consciences, because once they are angry, they will be unrecognizable by him at the least, and at the worst they will lose their reputation and even their lives.
A person who always hurts others is mostly dark and extreme in his heart, short-sighted and narrow-minded. When you get along with such a person, you will inevitably be plotted against and backfire. Therefore, if you can be far away, you will be far away, and if you can be far away, you will be far away.
03. Staying away from the person who hurts you is the starting point for improving yourself
Russell In " Road to Happiness " said:
"Beggars are not jealous of millionaires, but they will definitely be jealous of beggars with higher incomes."
Many times, a person will not compare himself with those who are on the clouds, but will be jealous of those around him because of those who live better than themselves.
We often meet such people in life. If we are not motivated, we just want others to act like him and fall into depravity.
Some time ago, my friend Zhang Yue complained to me about something that happened in the previous company:
Since she and Li Lin are the same group of newcomers to the company, they have many topics and are of the same age, so gradually they become good friends.
After joining the company, she has made her mark among the small staff with her own hard strength. I have made several plans in succession and have been praised by my superiors in public.
, and Li Lin often takes advantage of the situation when she is working, so her performance is not very good, so she is often compared with Zhang Yue by her superiors.
Li Lin became jealous of Zhang Yue, feeling that Zhang Yue was working hard on her back and always looking for opportunities to say Zhang Yue a few words sarcastically.
When Li Lin got off work, she passed her seat and suddenly said, "Do you want to do this? The boss has gotten off work, who do you work overtime to show it?"
When she saw that there was a certificate-testing book on her desk, she sarcastically suppressed her: "Is the certificate-testing useful? Can you get you promoted and raise your salary? A waste of time!"
Zhang Yue was originally a little "pleasant personality", and she always felt a little guilty, so she explained to Li Lin in every way, but Li Lin was still sarcastic. I told Zhang Yue, don't be afraid of offending her, because people who can't stand you, have you ever felt guilty when offending you?
Zhang Yue listened to it. She no longer explained too much, but focused on the certification exam.
Finally, Zhang Yue obtained the certificate, and her salary and salary increased a lot. In the end, she was sent to the company headquarters by her boss. She was very glad that she stayed away from Li Lin.
Confucius said, if you repay your grudges with kindness, then what do you use to repay your kindness? Yes, if someone can’t stand your good deeds and makes things difficult for you everywhere, then he must be unhappy. Why do you want to apologize for this?
Isn’t it good to use the time of reflection to enhance strength and improve yourself? Life is an endless practice. Try to live the way you want. Only when you are far superior to others can you win the respect they cannot match.
We cannot control the behavior of others who like to be sour, but staying away from those who like to be sour, can help us avoid many open and hidden guns, reduce unnecessary slander, save valuable energy, and gain a calm mind to pursue our own goals. So why not?
04. Mei Niang said
John Dunn once wrote:
"No one is an isolated island, you can do it yourself."
Life is not a one-man show. If you choose to be with, you will often encounter what kind of life you will encounter. What kind of person you will become is sometimes determined by the people around you.
When you get along with someone you see are good to you, you can support each other. Even if the other person lives better than you, you will think about how to help the other person.
On the contrary, being with someone who is sorry for you not only has the risk of being cheated, but over time you will also become petty, always compare others with your own lives, and even become a bad person with no strengths.
The rest of your life is very expensive. I hope you know how to stay away from those who love you, and not be sour for others. You will have kindness in your heart and live a bright and bright life!
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