Uncle, go all the way
text/Dang Yanrong
nucleic acid sampling this morning, I have always been absent-minded. Although there are no mistakes in my job, I know that I did not get into the state of my work this morning, and I have lost my previous enthusiasm and care. Because this morning is the day of my kind and respectable uncle's funeral. Due to the epidemic and work reasons, I cannot send him the last trip. I feel guilty, self-blame, and helpless, and I can't breathe. Thinking of my ruthlessness and unfiliality, tears of sadness rolled quietly from the corners of my eyes, wetting the mask under the goggles.
The old uncle was unable to rescue him in the hospital the day before yesterday. He left his attached and helpless relatives and passed away. From then on, he went to a complex and troubled world without illness, quarrel, pain, and worry. For my uncle, his death is a kind of liberation, a kind of happiness, and the best destination in a sense.
In fact, my uncle is my husband's uncle and uncle. My husband's uncle is in northern Shaanxi. He was brought to northern Shaanxi when his grandparents fled to famine. Since then, he settled his home in northern Shaanxi. When my husband's grandmother fled to famine, my mother-in-law was married in the local area. Because my mother-in-law's family was far away, my father-in-law died early. The orphan and widowed mother were afraid of being bullied, so she recognized my uncle's mother as her godmother. From then on, my mother-in-law had a family member. My uncle and my mother-in-law were in the same village, with a mountain between them and the same surname, and the village man had no doubts.
The people in the mountains are simple and kind, treat others sincerely, and take family affection very seriously. Since the mother-in-law recognized her grandmother's godmother, her family has treated her mother-in-law as her own daughter, and the uncle naturally became her mother-in-law's brother. So much so that I mistakenly thought that my uncle was my husband's uncle. Until the day of my marriage, a strange middle-aged man who had never known each other and had a vitiligo on his face, brought back a fat black boy who was so angry that he was like a fat black boy. My mother-in-law told me that he was our uncle, and the fat black boy was my husband's cousin.
When I kowtowed to worship at the wedding, my mother-in-law asked the two families to worship together. As my daughter-in-law, although I only have my uncle, a family member, and out of politeness, I feel embarrassed to say that I will give red envelopes to kowtow to recognize my relatives. No matter who he is, they are all family members. My mother-in-law will kowtow to whoever he says he will kowtow to. Then the aunts and aunts will not recognize each other for a while, and I will be happy and make a fortune from outside myself. Why not do it?
The first time I met my uncle was the night before my marriage. When my mother held a wedding banquet for me, everyone else was drinking, stirring up the red envelopes, and playing with my family. Only my uncle didn't say anything, kept smiling and helping my family clean up the mess, occasionally blocking the "clients" who had drunk high, and then kindly discussed with my mother the customs of getting married the next day. He also said that I must marry from my brother's house in a grand manner, because my uncle knew that my father passed away early, and my mother and I lived in the home of my brother and sister-in-law. In order to give my brother and sister-in-law a face, the competitive uncle pulled his face and begged grandpa to sue her grandma. He borrowed a brand new red car from somewhere as a wedding car, which gave my brother and sister-in-law enough face and added the joy of marriage.
Later I learned that on the day of my marriage, I originally arranged for my uncle's car to pick up my bride. My uncle thought the car was old, but in fact, my uncle thought the car was black, which was unlucky. At that time, there were almost no private cars. The old black car was still the unit that my uncle applied for. It could only be borrowed after the instructions of the unit leader, and the borrowing must be the immediate relatives of the unit employees. The leader thought that my uncle worked hard and had never experienced any problems at home in his life. In fact, my uncle never told the work of his family to the people in the unit because he was afraid of trouble with his colleagues. The leader was willing to lend him the car because of his uncle's honesty and honesty, so that I could get on the small bridge and get married.
In the era when we got married, it was already a great thing to be able to get married by a small bridge car. According to modern fashionable terms, the second generation of officials or rich people get married by car. But I, a rural girl without a father, is already very satisfied and glorious when I get married on a small bridge car.My uncle was not satisfied, so he tried to find an acquaintance to find out that the ** unit picked up a new red car. At the risk of being punished, the raccoon changed the car and used it for a day. Undoubtedly, he is really my uncle!
My uncle learned to drive in the army. After transferring to the local government department, he was assigned to an amazing unit in all aspects of salary and benefits, and he had a son and a daughter. When we got married, my uncle's son was in elementary school and my daughter had not yet gone to school. Logically speaking, my uncle has a job, good unit, and his salary is not bad. A son and a daughter can be regarded as a living god, but my uncle is too honest and filial. After listening to my grandmother's advice, he divorced his original aunt. Later, in order to take care of the children, a widow was taken, who is now the aunt, the following aunt.
It is said that the aunt of my uncle before divorce was the doll ordered by my grandmother for my uncle. My grandmother lived in a mountainous area and was very remote. My grandmother was afraid that my uncle would not be able to get his wife when he grew up, so she broke the family fireworks in her hand, so she exchanged a bunch of grain for my uncle dozens of miles away, climbed several mountains, and crossed several beams of my aunt.
are all from the mountains. The simple and kind qualities and honest and trustworthy style of the mountains have made my uncle, a smart and studious student who has walked out of the mountains, and has never given up on the revolutionary team that the old man has ordered for him—my ex-aunt. After three years of joining the army, I got married with my ex-aunt when I went home to visit my relatives.
After marriage, my uncle left for many years. My ex-aunt had to be filial to my parents-in-law and raise a pair of children. My ex-aunt had to do all the work inside and outside by my ex-aunt. I feel tired and nagging for a few words, and my grandmother, who has been strong all her life, doesn’t like to listen. Over time, there will inevitably be verbal conversations and conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I understand why my grandmother, who has been confused for a lifetime, is so confused and can't tolerate her daughter-in-law. She doesn't miss her old love, but just wants to speak quickly and relieve her hatred. When my uncle comes home, he adds salt and jealousy to complain about her ex-aunt, and says that her ex-aunt is worthless. These uncles can tolerate them. The reason why my uncle finally decided to divorce his ex-aunt was: my grandmother said that his ex-aunt was unfaithful to his uncle and sneaked into the bachelor of Murakami, and said that his uncle's daughter was not his biological daughter, but a bachelor of Murakami and the bachelor of Murakami. The honest and kind uncle could not tolerate his wife cuckolding him no matter what. He divorced his ex-aunt without asking any questions, and in anger he adopted his daughter to the next brother who had not started a family.
In fact, the "wild man" of my grandmother mentioned in the former aunt was the cousin of my ex-aunt. He saw that my uncle joined the army outside, and his cousin was a weak woman. He could not bear the work at home and outside the home. He couldn't bear it and couldn't get tired. He felt sorry for his cousin and took time to help his cousin do some important work to reduce the burden on his cousin. He was petty and suspicious, dissatisfied with his ex-aunt's grandmother taking the opportunity to make a big fuss, which led to his uncle and his ex-aunt divorce.
After the divorce, in order to take care of my cousin, my uncle transferred from the army to work in the city, and transferred his cousin who was studying in a mountain primary school to the city to go to school. Of course, after the poor cousin was labeled as a "brother" by his grandmother, his uncle and his family never looked at her again. She wanted to go out to the city to go to school like his brother. I'm afraid it was a whimsical idea. My uncle didn't kill her and let her escape to survive. It can be considered as the benevolence and righteousness that she had the greatest consequences. No matter whether it is a false accusation or an unfair accusation, that honest and honest man cannot stand the woman who is unfaithful to him, and the so-called "mangbang"!
Although my uncle has soft ears, obeys grandmother's slander and divorces his ex-aunt, my uncle's work is never sloppy, which may have a lot to do with my uncle's profession. My uncle is a driver and drives his leader with very good driving skills. He is cautious and careful, speaks less and steady, serves the leader in front of him and takes care of him comfortably. The leader also valued my uncle very much. He asked his uncle to drive for his car when he went on business trips, meetings, and going to the countryside. The uncle couldn't take care of his family or his cousin.
The uncle and his ex-aunt divorced were only in their 30s. He was a bloody man with Fang Gang. Due to the needs of life, the uncle had to find a stepmother for his son and a companion for himself.After many twists and turns, I met my current aunt by someone, referred to as the queen aunt for short.
Later, my aunt was a lady from Chuandaoli, Xixiang. She had seen the world and was with a man who had a job. She died of work and had a child under her knees. She was originally a woman, but after her death, she was helpless, pestered her, petitioned everywhere, complained everywhere, and developed a verbal speech that was wise and changed her mind to the wind, and finally got a job. It’s not a shame that he is a lady from the Sichuan Road. He has also met the leaders during his visits. He speaks one by one and acts decisively and vigorously in his work. Such a powerful woman is my honest opponent to my uncle?
Shortly after meeting with my uncle, I moved into my uncle's family building less than 70 square meters without getting the marriage certificate . In the 1980s, I could divide a family building in the city, and it was a family building with two bedrooms and one living room. It was a very background-related talent, and my uncle got it at that time. Because my uncle is the driver who drives for his leader, in order to facilitate access, the leader assigned a family building for his uncle on the first floor. Perhaps, the smart and scheming aunt was working for her uncle's house and then hurriedly moved into her uncle's house.
At first, my aunt performed very well, was considerate to my uncle, and took care of her cousin meticulously. She lived a life of people. Whether she was relatives or neighbors, the relationship was handled very well. When relatives and friends praised whoever they met, they all said that my uncle had vision and had a virtuous woman who was both virtuous and could live a life, and could make money. My uncle Cui got married quickly, so that he could save his dreams from long nights!
My uncle didn't expect that he would meet love in the middle of his life, so he couldn't wait to get a marriage certificate with his aunt.
The aunt whom I just met after marriage was completely different from the aunt I had just met. Not only did she not take care of my cousin, but she also did not take care of my uncle as patiently as before. She often didn't go home at night, but also left for a year and a half on the grounds of going on a business trip. At first, my uncle even said a few words to her and occasionally quarreled. Is the stupid uncle arguing against my aunt? He also had a fight and had a divorce, but my uncle was afraid of laughing at people and saying that he treated marriage as a joke, so he endured humiliation and wanted to live a life with the help of his anger. It is said that my uncle and my aunt divorced later, but after divorce, they just stayed at home and refused to leave. For my uncle's family, they were just a hotel where they could rest. They would come whenever they wanted, and leave whenever they wanted. It was the same as not leaving. Later, my aunt's son grew up and needed to recruit workers. When the qualification review was conducted, the requirements for family relationships were taken into consideration. Later, my aunt remarried her uncle again.
Most dew couples live together, and it is difficult to form a heart together. When they are combined together, you will always be yours, I am mine, and I will be very clear and I often quarrel over yours. My uncle's family is no exception.
In this way, I lived for more than ten years in endless conflicts and quarrels. Fortunately, I was alive to raise the children of the two combined families, start a family and live their own lives. But I almost never interacted with each other. Occasionally, when I got together, my cousin and aunt were like two white flints, burning as soon as they were rubbed. Of course, my uncle is inevitably caught up with him and is angry. My uncle is also a person who is not good at speaking. He suppresses his anger for a long time and accumulates worries and causes illness. He is heart disease, emphysema, , , hypertension, and other diseases are heading towards my uncle.
My uncle fell ill. My uncle, who had a pension of several thousand yuan per month, had no money for treatment and refused to go to the hospital for fear of spending money. When my husband and I visited my uncle, my aunt pretended to ask us to persuade me to be hospitalized for treatment and told her difficulties. The implication was that she blamed my uncle for giving the money to my cousin. We asked my aunt to buy medicine and supplements for my uncle. Later, my aunt winked and said a lot of reasons, but in the final analysis, she still had no money. Where was my uncle sleeping? His skinny body could not be connected with his big face that looked obese due to swelling, but he still struggled to squeeze his eyes with only one slit, as if he was still smiling, and said weakly, comforting us: "Don't listen to your concubine's nonsense. I have money, I'm buying medicine, and I'll go to the hospital in a few days, so don't worry."
When I went out, my husband asked me to withdraw 30,000 yuan and press it under my uncle's pillow, and repeatedly told me to go to the hospital for a look. Because my aunt said that my uncle was sick, she asked us to persuade her uncle to be hospitalized. We know that it is difficult for me. My monthly salary is to pay my aunt's living expenses, and I also care about my aunt's food, drink, defecation, and pleasing my cousin. It is not easy to mess with on both sides, and it is impossible to offend them, so the salary of several thousand yuan is broken and I can't save much, let alone hospitalization is a considerable expense, so where can I get it?
My uncle saw us keeping the money for him to be hospitalized, so he insisted on it. He said he had money and wanted to take the money out of the pillow several times to return it to me. He was so exhausted that he didn't even have the strength to raise his hand. It made people feel pity and heartbreaking.
The night after visiting my uncle, my aunt came to my house with four gifts and told us with a smile that my uncle was hospitalized with the money we left behind. After repeated instructions, my aunt must come and tell us in person so that we can rest assured.
In fact, we know my uncle. He asked his aunt to tell us that his hospitalization was secondary. The main thing was to thank us for lending him money to the hospital. My uncle strives for friendship all his life, and would rather suffer losses than take advantage of others.
In the past few years before marriage, every year during the Chinese New Year, we would go to pay New Year's greetings to my uncle. Given the special environment at my uncle's home, we usually don't take children when we pay New Year's greetings. We understand that if we take children to my uncle's house during the Chinese New Year, our uncle will definitely give them New Year's money . So my husband and I always go to pay New Year's greetings to my uncle after dinner, so I don't bother with my aunt cooking for seven plates and eight bowls. In fact, we are also passionate, and my aunt will not treat us kindly at all. She just wants to avoid embarrassment, comfort herself and give herself a way out.
Whenever I wish my uncle a happy new year, I complain that we don’t take care of the children. In the past, the children used to make excuses that they were afraid of the cold and said that it was inconvenient for them to go out. Later, when the children grew up, they took them to play in front of my uncle’s house several times, but my uncle certainly didn’t know. Because we lied to my uncle, saying that the child did not come back at my brother's house, it reduced unnecessary trouble and self-blame for my uncle.
Every night three or four days after we greet my uncle, my uncle would suddenly attack our house and "visit" with something ten times more valuable than the gifts we brought him. This made us very embarrassed as juniors, so that after the Chinese New Year, we didn't dare to go to greet my uncle for the New Year, for fear of making such a "small fight to the sky" and not being cowardly.
We don’t wish my uncle a New Year. My uncle still comes to my house to greet us every year during the New Year, and said with confidence: Relatives should go around more, otherwise the relationship will become distant.
This time, my uncle passed away because he was not hospitalized in time and delayed the best treatment time. This was what I heard from my uncle's sister, my aunt, when I was mourning last night. My aunt said that my uncle was seriously ill two days ago. Later, when my aunt and cousin discussed that my uncle was hospitalized, they had a disagreement and had a fight, so they fought. As a result, both of them were holding their breath and ignored my uncle. The hospital was not in full swing, which made my uncle feel a little frustrated. I saw that my uncle was almost out of business the morning before yesterday, so I sent my uncle to the hospital. Before the procedures were completed, my uncle quietly left in sorrow and pain.
My uncle is such a stubborn, honest, honest, kind, and strong, loyal to others, enthusiastic and kind, and has no opinion or position towards himself, especially when he should be indecisive about his own marriage. For example, for my ex-aunt, he should not follow his grandmother's prejudices and divorce his ex-aunt. It should be not too late to make a decision after investigation, so he will not fall to this point later.Later I realized that the reason why my uncle obeyed my grandmother's advice was not that he was cowardly and incompetent, nor was he a mother-in-law, and had no position or opinion. It was because my uncle was too filial and would rather live alone and suffer alone than hurt the mother who gave birth to him and raised him!
Poor uncle, the cowardly uncle, and the once glorious uncle, I hope you can go well all the way to a heavenly world without worries, no right and wrong, no concern, no contradiction, no secular world, rest in peace!
nephew: Silently wept on the rainy night at 12:00 on September 29, 2022
