It's the season to change again, will your troubles come with it? "I can't even put clothes in the closet, but I still can't find one that I want to wear or can wear." I want to buy a few items decisively, but looking at the full wardrobe, you back down again - "Buy again, there's no room for clothes to be put."
For clothing hoarders, there are far more than one worries. They have to face the pain of "not willing to throw away", and they have to experience the entanglement of "not knowing which piece to wear", and they also have to spend time and waste space.
When you are staring at the clothes full of the cabinet, you may not realize that is being constantly being consumed and wasted, not only your emotions, but also your emotions.
If you want to save yourself from the torrent of debris, you just need to learn to "get rid of it".
As the promoter of "resigning and leaving", Yamashita Eiko extracts the "resigning and leaving" thinking mode from the yoga practice philosophy "resigning and leaving the practice", and uses it to organize daily life.
"Shut off: Ending procrastination" is a new psychological inspirational book by Eiko Yamashita. The author believes that many troubles people have because they think too much and do not act. They always delay judgment, decision and action, and Shut off is the philosophy of action that breaks the deadlock. For example, when facing a messy home, only by decisively throwing away unused debris can a virtuous cycle be created.
1. The messy at home will reveal many problems
A foreign psychologist once pointed out that the messy at home will cause a person to have problems such as irritability, anxiety, irritability, fatigue, weakness, distraction, and decreased self-esteem.
The family is always as chaotic as a pigpen, and it also exposes a person's pressure. He is neglected to manage his life and is disordered in life. He also means dissatisfaction with himself.
2. The "future-lossing"
I can't bear to throw away the unused debris, and I always feel that I will use it in the future; when the paper I bought last year was not used up, I took advantage of the big discount to buy unused daily necessities in advance; shopping bags and used cartons for buying things are piled everywhere, occupying the originally neat space...
Are there such people around you?
People who are anxious about the future will maintain a sense of security by over-stocking of items.
But the truth is, things you don't need now will not be needed in the future.
There are only a few clothes I often wear, and most of them are just eating dust in the wardrobe;
Items do not have to be stocked up until expired, and it is time to buy them now;
People with truly strong mentality are neither entangled in the past nor anxious about the future. They will only focus on the present, and they will live a good life and the future will not be too bad.
3. The "escapist" type who is lazy to think and act
. People who always think about "not throwing it away for the time being" and "doing it later" are the "escapist" type people who are lazy to think and act.
is actually not as difficult as you think. If you feel that the whole house cleaning is too stressful, you can try to do a little at a time.
Maybe just throwing the garbage into the trash can, occasionally cleaning up the books on the shelves, and organizing the clothes in the closet in a certain gap, so as to keep the room clean and orderly without spending a lot of energy.
While changing a little bit, maybe the mood will suddenly become clear.
4, "persistence in the past"
Whether it is the clothes that I once liked and deformed, or the feelings I was once familiar and distant, blindly indulging in the past will only prevent you from entering the future.
For those who "have to be careful when they stay together" and "feel uncomfortable just by saying something", it is time to break up.
If you want to enjoy life happily, you must abandon people and things that make you physically and mentally exhausted .
Say goodbye to the messy and tired past, and then you can free up space in your heart, encounter a new life, develop new relationships, and reshape a healthy body and mind.
Life abandonment not only means discarding the debris in life, but also brushing away the dust in your heart.
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Say goodbye to the messy and tired past, and then you can free up space in your heart, encounter a new life, develop new relationships, and reshape a healthy body and mind.
Life abandonment not only means discarding the debris in life, but also brushing away the dust in your heart.
When you are calm and quiet, it is this great world. #I'm creating the second issue of Toutiao#
I am @psychologist Jialan , welcome to leave a message to follow~
