Everyone hopes that they can become a person who stands tall and is willing to be a person with backbone, but they do not understand the principle of "the tree is in the forest, and the wind and fire are rewarded." The most fundamental purpose of being a human being is to survive better. Of course, this does not mean that you have to bow your head, but that you must know how to bend your back appropriately, avoid the limelight and then move forward.
There is a girl who just graduated from college and her work is not going well. Some workplace rules are different from what she imagined, which makes her a little depressed. When she went home during this holiday, she told her father about her distress.
After hearing this, my father said, "You can not bow your head, but your back must bend. Only by lowering your head can you have the opportunity to reserve your abilities and raise your head." She still didn't understand very much after hearing this.
The next morning, my father asked her to get up and took her to the wild. A strong wind last night made the place a mess and a little more bleak. When the father heard her sigh, he knew that she had only seen the cruelty of the strong wind and did not find anything. He said to her: "Look, yesterday's strong wind caused some trees to fall, but those reeds were fine. Do you know why? That's because when the strong wind came, the reeds bent down as much as possible, even parallel to the ground, so that they could survive in today's sunshine."
She thoughtful after hearing this, nodded and said, "I understand."
What did the girl in the story understand? She understood a principle of being a human being. When you are at a disadvantage, you must know how to bend your back and leave yourself room for survival and development, rather than striving to be a strong person or a capable person. Someone once said: "If you want to become a talent, you must be a slave first; if you want to be a personality, you must first embarrass your personality; if you want to be straight inside, you must be round outside." Although this is a bit exaggerated, it is not without reason. Simply showing off one's strength will inevitably lead to good results. But if we are strong in our hearts and bend in appearance, the effect will definitely be better.
When it comes to strength in the heart and bend in the table, then Yue Wang Goujian is one of the most successful people.
1 Spring and Autumn , Yue Kingdom was defeated by Wu Kingdom , and King Goujian of Yue was captured and served as hostage to Wu Kingdom, and was enslaved by King Wu Fuchai . What a big gap this is from a king of a country to being a servant! But Goujian did not use suicide or other methods to fight for the dignity of a king, but bent down and really became a servant. Could it be that Goujian has no dignity as a ruler and is willing to live a life of silence here? Of course, he just used bend down as a means to paralyze the other party and got up from the camera.
After arriving in the Wu Kingdom, Goujian was arranged to live in a cave. Whenever Fuchai went out, he would personally lead the horse for him. Even if someone humiliates him, he will never retaliate. Once, Fuchai was sick, and Goujian secretly asked someone to ask him about it behind his back and knew that Fuchai's disease would be cured soon. So Goujian went to visit Fuchai, and tasted Fuchai's feces carefully, and then said to Fuchai: "Your illness is almost cured." Fuchai asked him, "How do you know?" Goujian said, "I once studied medicine with famous doctors. As long as I tasted the patient's feces, I knew the condition. Just now, I tasted the king's feces and were slightly bitter, so your disease will be cured soon." Sure enough, Fuchai was really cured in a few days. He thought Goujian was more filial than his son and was very moved. So he put Goujian back to Yue Kingdom.
After Goujian returned to China, he still lived a hard life. When he was sleeping, he layed out firewood and hung a bitter gall in the room. He tasted it every day. This is the source of the idiom " sleeps on firewood and tastes gall ". He did this to win over his subjects, and to accumulate strength and avenge his shame.
King Fuchai of Wu thought Goujian would lose his vigilance again, so he relaxed his vigilance against him. Goujian took the opportunity to restore national strength and prepare for his troops. Later, when the two countries fought decisively in the Five Lakes, the Wu army was defeated, and Fuchai was captured alive, and the great revenge was revenged.
The humiliation that Goujian suffered can be said to be the limit that human beings can bear, but he bent down and took it on his shoulders. As a result, he not only avenged his revenge, but also became a generation of overlords. This is his path to success.Throughout history, there are many people like Goujian who bent their backs when necessary for a bigger goal and finally straightened their backs.
Liu Yong in the TV series " Prime Minister Liu Luoguo " once laughed at himself: "I have been an official for decades and have never been straight, and I am getting more and more hunched. Otherwise, don't say that I have accomplished nothing, even my head has moved long ago." In fact, Liu Yong's self-mockery is a way of being strong inside and betraying the outside.
"Although a person can not bow, but he must bend his back." This is not only a strategy for being a human being, but also a tactic for dealing with the world. As long as you master the skills and measure, you will find a shortcut in the complex jungle of human nature. This shortcut is to leave a way for yourself. Of course, this is also a temporary solution to avoid suffering in life.
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