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A person is truly powerful, and he is strong inside.
Writer Feng Tang once said: "Every great man has a certain core, so that he will not be easily blown away by the wind in the universe."
The certain core is a strong heart.
Some people panic because of a little accident, some people fall down because of a little difficulty, and some people are anxious because of a little discomfort. If you can't keep your heart stable, the uphill road will also be taken downhill road.
After all, no one can always have a smooth life, cannot withstand the test of wind and rain, and never see the last rainbow.
It can be said that if you want your life to be smooth, you must first develop a strong heart.
So, what kind of behavior do people with strong hearts do?
In fact, the way to distinguish is very simple, and you can see from your words and deeds, just like those who are always gentle and firm in dealing with people, most of them are strong inside.
Only when the mood is stable can you be gentle
I once read a topic: What kind of people are the most gentle?
When I thought gentleness originated from a good family background, higher education, and personal personality, my high praise answer gave a different answer.
answerer @ Yu Fei said: "The so-called gentleness is not about delicate words and rich emotions, but about having a heart that is not afraid of thousands of difficulties."
Think about it carefully, it is indeed the case.
The famous writer Yang Jiang Mr. Yang Jiang experiencing the ups and downs of his life, has been sought after and has been suppressed, but no matter what situation she faces, she can remain gentle.
has such a performance, not because Mr. Yang Jiang is outstanding, but because she understands that there is no other way to face many things in the world except to choose to face them gently. When
was openly shaved, she was not hysterical, but rushed to make wigs overnight; when
was arranged to wash the toilet, she did not complain, but completed the task as soon as possible and worked hard to create time for reading.
Romain Rolland once said: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, to still love life after realizing the truth of life."
After realizing the truth of life, some people are in a slump for this, some are in a difficult situation, and some give up on themselves, but people with strong hearts are willing to accept all this and face a not-so-perfect life calmly.
With such a mentality, nothing can cause a large emotional fluctuation. You will not be at ease because of trivial matters, so that you can always maintain the gentleness you should have.
To put it bluntly, the so-called "gentle" is the calmness and elegance when the heart is strong.
Only by not afraid of discussion can we be firm
So, what kind of people are firm in their hearts?
There was a friend who worked in sales who divided customers into three types of "animals" according to animal types - tiger, peacock, koala .
Tiger customer has more personal ideas and is very enthusiastic about doing things;
Peacock customer is anxious to prove his charm and likes to be at the forefront of fashion;
Koala customer is always undecided and hesitant when making a choice.
has different sales methods when facing these three types of customers. For tiger-type customers, choose products she likes to recommend, and for peacock-type customers, you should improve the charm of the products; for koala-type customers, you should learn to guide your purchases.
From the perspective of sales, the one who is firm in his heart is often the person who has personal ideas, and those who care too much about their personal image and have no opinion can easily be misled.
is placed in life, and similar principles are reflected in all aspects.
Some people are not firm enough. A random suggestion can make them shaken. A random joke will make them begin to doubt themselves. A random guidance is enough to make them change their minds.
The root of this is that you are not firm in your heart and don’t know what you want. Only then will you live in the eyes of others until you lose your true heart.
It can be said that another explanation for being unstable in dealing with people and things is actually that it is not strong enough in the heart.
Because only when a person knows what he wants and what kind of life he wants can he not be afraid of others' discussions and find his own way.
Many times in life need to be spent alone; many choices need to be decided by yourself.
cares too much about others, so it is easy to ignore yourself.
Gentle and firm are a good recipe for curing problems
I really like a sentence on Weibo: "In terms of dealing with people and things, if there are too many edges and corners, it will be repeatedly blocked. If it is rounded to the point where the boundaries are lost, the center of gravity will be unstable."
"Gentle" and "Finality" are both manifestations of inner strength, but the two are not completely independent.
To be precise, people with strong hearts often have the characteristics of "gentle" and "firmness", so that they can live a round outside and square inside. People like
have a gentle attitude but a firm stance.
Because of a gentle attitude, you can see the world clearly and communicate effectively with others; because you have a firm stance, you can keep your heart and protect your own interests.
Everything is too much or too little.
"Gentle" and "firm" protection can exude all its charm; only by firmly being "tender" decorate can you avoid being too special.
So, most gentle and firm people are strong inside.
May we all find the origin that can support our gentleness in this world, and then live firmly.
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