A person's behavioral performance hides a person's character, quality and class. Birds of a feather flock together and people are divided into groups. The love and interaction between people are extremely subtle. Everyone will make friends based on their personal level and quality needs. People who are like-minded to you.
We all hope to be a capable and promising person, because only in this way can we become more popular and the road will become wider and wider. However, if a person often exhibits these behaviors, it will be difficult to be promising in this life. , I hope none of them are too heavy.
I habitually make excuses
My grades today are not good because I didn’t sleep well yesterday. I didn’t succeed this time because my partner was too stupid and couldn’t cooperate well. I made mistakes today because I didn’t perform well because I wasn’t feeling well...
I believe that in life, everyone has heard similar excuses countless times. To put it simply, all failures are not your own fault, or they happen for a reason.
Everyone has the desire for success, so when facing setbacks and failures, they usually have a set of " psychological defense mechanisms ", but this defense mechanism formed spontaneously is not necessarily positive, mature and beneficial to oneself.
Once you fail and find a "scapegoat", you will habitually shirk responsibility. You will be forgiven by your own excuses and feel at ease to avoid self-blame and embarrassment.
can make excuses for everything, which will not solve the current problem, and will continue to prevent oneself from improving and changing. It will also create huge resistance in interpersonal relationships, because no one likes to be involved with a person who does not shoulder the responsibility.
"Making excuses" is a person's instinct, but the attitude of finding solutions to problems requires higher-dimensional thinking and tolerance to be able to control yourself.
Therefore, when a person habitually makes excuses no matter what happens, instead of solving the problem and changing and adjusting himself, then this person is destined to have difficulty in developing and changing well.
Fear of failure, hesitation
Fear of failure, what is lost is the courage to try, what is lost is the chance of success.
In fact, most people in this world are ordinary or even failures, and the success of a very small number of people cannot be achieved overnight. They are the final results obtained after accumulating experience through countless failures.
The fear of failure will have a huge negative impact on us, making it difficult to get out of our comfort zone if we hesitate to move forward.
gave up the opportunity to move forward and change under the hypnotic suggestion of fear. It may not mean that will succeed if he tries, but there will definitely be a chance of success if he tries.
Habitual procrastination
In fact, everyone may have the experience of procrastination to a greater or lesser extent, but if a person habitually procrastinates, it will affect his or her life.
Procrastination is a manifestation of weak willpower. Regardless of whether the initial cause of procrastination is laziness or perfectionism and wanting to do better, in the end the habitual procrastination will become a pattern of inertia. Once a person enters this loose state It is difficult to change.
When things that are inherently difficult or that you are not good at are postponed indefinitely, what is delayed is the immediate thing, and there is room for improvement. Therefore, a person who habitually procrastinates will find it difficult to forgive himself in the future because it is too easy. made substantial adjustments.
People who are arrogant and do not respect their partners
There is a type of people who we usually describe as people who are arrogant at home. They are quite amiable to outsiders, but when they get home, they are very strong and lack respect for their partners. This kind of people have the worst prospects. It is difficult to achieve great results.
As the saying goes, everything will be prosperous when the family is in harmony. Whether the person next to you becomes a support or a stumbling block depends entirely on whether you have put in enough love and patience. A person who lacks respect for himself in his family will have a hard time making progress in this life, because in the end, The people who should be his help will also become the biggest obstacle because of disappointment, coldness and anger.
can't live without her every day, and it's hard to live a good life. This kind of life naturally becomes the biggest obstacle on the road to development.
Three-minute heat
Some people make up their minds to lose weight, but start to slack off within a few days, and even find countless excuses to give up and never reach the final destination.
Therefore, many people’s failure is very similar to losing weight. The difference is not their own IQ and ability, but their lack of endurance.
Everything changes in three minutes. Even if you are very talented, it is difficult to develop well in the field you are good at.
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(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), specializes in the restoration and repair of love relationships, marital conflicts and disagreements, and the healing of spiritual trauma caused by original families. In the lonely journey of life, we listen to your grievances and pressures, help visitors improve their skills in getting along with each other, win back their lovers, manage their relationships well, and strive to become a happier person.
