text丨The West Chamber of affection
Time has not been long, I hope you will meet in my words!
Variety of life, each with different features. Some people will like you, some will hate you; some will look down on you, and naturally some will look down on you.
As the saying goes, "If someone does not offend me, I will not offend others. If someone does not offend me, I will return it." When facing someone who doesn't like you, you don't need to force a smile, let alone cater to others humbly.
Because, you don’t owe anyone, so you just need to be responsible for yourself. When facing those who don’t look down on you, you can choose to ignore or stay away from them.
So how do you select those people who are different from each other and look down on you in secret? We all know that a person's words and deeds are determined by the heart.
So, those who like to reply to your message with these 4 sentences really don’t like you. For such a person, after seeing his true face, he must learn to stop losses.
"You won't dislike it, right? After all, these things are something you can't afford."
I have to admit that poverty will really make you look down upon, especially those who like to show off your wealth and oppress you.
In their opinion, any help they give you is a reward for you. You can only give them the best reward with a grateful heart and absolute obedience.
Despite this, they will not say anything good in their mouths when giving you a gift, but instead they will all kinds of sarcasm and ridicule.
So, "You won't dislike it, after all, these things are something you can't afford" has become the catchphrase of these people.
If you don’t refuse, you will be greeted with endless sarcasm and dislike, thinking that you are pretending to be noble.
Getting along with such people will only make you feel less confident and feel inferior because of poverty. But in fact, there is no need for this at all.
As the saying goes, a person who is poor has no shortcoming ambitions. You don’t need their charity, and what you get through your own hands will make you happier and more satisfied.
So, in the face of such a strong person, you must boldly say "no". Let them know that you are not a soft persimmon that can be controlled by others, and you don’t need their false pity.
"Stay away from me, I am not familiar with you."
"Stay away from me, I am not familiar with you." People who can say such words will not look down on you from the bottom of their hearts.
, but because of their personality, they are all more straightforward. It will not hide your dislike and despise you, but will show it directly.
When facing such people, you should take the initiative to keep your distance. Because, no matter how you change, it is difficult to erase the prejudice they have against you in their hearts.
And the more you want to cater to them by changing yourself, the more they will look down on you and think that you are someone you can despise.
Otherwise, how could you keep coming to him even though you know they hate you?
So, instead of making self-interesting, it is better to turn a blind eye to the point of interest. After all, except yourself, everyone else is passers-by in life, and you don’t need to please anyone.
What's more, people have dignity, why bother throwing their dignity to the ground and letting others trample on it?
"Recognize the reality and don't daydream there all day."
People have dreams, but there are always people who think that your dream is delusional and daydream.
Because in his opinion, your ability is very different from your dreams. Or, it is even more impossible for you to do something that even he can do.
To be honest, getting along with such people will hit your confidence. Because no matter how hard you try, he will be worthless and will laugh at you as a delusion.
You should know that the environment has a great impact on people. If you believe his rumors and doubt your abilities and efforts, it will really ruin you. The best way to
is to choose to ignore and stay away. If he still slaps you unyieldingly, then slapping him in the face with his strength is the best way to shut up.
"Are you questioning me?"
There are always people who are overconfident and cannot listen to other people's advice, especially those he looks down on. He will feel that you are insulting yourself and dare to teach him how to do things.
Even if you are just a kind reminder, in his eyes, he will be meddling in other people's business, which will make him hate you even more.
And when you have any differences about his words, what he says the most is: "Are you questioning me?"
Then, he will spare no effort to humiliate you, and will ask you to take a mirror to look at yourself, and you must weigh your own weight before speaking.
In fact, from this sentence, it can be seen that his strength and unquestionable. So, even if your idea is right, he will be beaten back without looking at it.
If you insist on thinking that you are helping him, he will definitely find a way to stop you and constantly humiliate you.
After all, everyone's starting point for thinking about things is different. What you think is good for him, but in his opinion, it may not be really good for him.
So, it is better to have less things than more things. Since he doesn’t like your suggestions, you don’t have to be obsessed with it anymore.
In fact, no matter what others look down on you, you are the only one who can change it.
Since they don’t like you, they will naturally not change this idea because of your initiative to please.
Furthermore, this is an era when the strong are kings. If you explain it thousands of times, it is not as useful as you become the existence they look up to.
So, when faced with others' despise, you don't need to explain and you don't need to worry. Just work hard, wait for the future, and speak with your strength.
