When people suffer pain, especially when they are hurt, their minds will become narrow. It is best to shrink into a peach core, thinking that it will be safer to be protected by a hard shell.
But in fact, it will only make the heart more depressed and depressed. Stiffness
Kind people are soft-hearted, but those who are too soft-hearted are easily hurt
Indeed, no one wants to suffer or be hurt
But if we look around, we will find that even if we protect ourselves with a heart of stone, we will still be unable to avoid the invasion of pain
Therefore,
Buddhist practitioners choose to open up and completely open their soft hearts to the outside world.
When experiencing pain, they strive to maintain awareness.
See the changes in emotions and see their own reactions.
See vulnerability, resentment and panic. At the same time, try to open your heart as much as possible
Let yourself be exposed to pain and let the strong feelings disintegrate the deep-rooted concepts and habits in your heart
At this time, our original heart or the compassion, renunciation, and worldly bodhicitta reflected by it will have the opportunity to appear
Pain allows us to let go of our pride and see our own fragile side.
And through our own feelings, we can feel the fear, pain and worry of others.
The training of the mind can start with awareness.
Try to understand the activities of your own body and mind as clearly as possible.
Words , actions, feelings, emotions, and thoughts, over time the mind will become quiet and sharp
and gain a personal understanding of suffering, impermanence, etc.
Although you can train compassion anytime and anywhere in your daily life, walking, standing, sitting, or lying down,
but for For people who are not mentally strong and determined,
it is difficult to continuously increase compassion through scattered training in daily life.
We need to spend time to meditate systematically, such as spending half an hour every day to practice compassion.
The understanding gained And realize it and then practice and consolidate it in daily work and study.
Compassion is to hope that the other person will be happy, and to express it through friendliness, care, sharing, etc.
Compassion is to be willing to share or even suffer the other person's suffering, which requires great courage and tenderness.
Meditating on compassion usually starts with people close to you
Because you are very close to them, if you are willing
you can understand and feel their pain, joy, and fear more deeply, and understanding is the basis of compassion
Compassion Specifically, it can be divided into four immeasurable hearts: kindness, compassion, joy, and equanimity.
Among them, equanimity means equality. That is to say, in our training, the objects of compassion will start from people close to us.
will gradually expand to people we know but are not related to. , strangers, hateful people, and even all sentient beings...
At the same time, we must remember that whether sharing or sharing
should be done with equality between ourselves and others, and there should be no sense of superiority in morality or materiality
compassion Heart training makes our hearts broad, soft and strong, which is the source of happiness
