Everyone will have pressure in life. I wonder how you face your pressure? One of the ways people face pressure is to choose to work hard to overcome the difficulties behind the pressure. If the boss requires a certain amount of performance, then work hard to achieve the number he requires! Anyway, when you encounter a challenge that you can't overcome, you should try to use more efforts and more methods to solve the problem. It is true that solving the problem is the most direct way, but in the process, have you accidentally made yourself a person who works too hard and neglected to take care of your own emotions?
Life is stressful and makes us breathless
When we face stress, we usually have two coping strategies. The first strategy is problem solving. When faced with difficulties, try to analyze the problem, find a solution, and eliminate stress by solving the root cause of the problem. The second strategy is to reduce emotions by expressing emotions or taking some actions to change emotions. , such as listening to music, watching movies, relaxing, so that you can have more energy when facing pressure. Both of these methods are useful in dealing with stress, but if you are a person who works too hard, you may only use problem-solving strategies. You will solve the problem however you want, and taking care of your emotions is not something they care about at all. .
People who work too hard really want to do things well, so no matter what difficulties they face, they will move forward bravely, and even if they are under great mental pressure, they will grit their teeth and complete what should be done. With hard work and hard work, people who work too hard can usually complete things satisfactorily in the end. When they finally breathe a sigh of relief, their hearts are finally liberated. No matter how much hard work it takes, they will still bite the bullet the next time they encounter pressure. Teeth thrust forward.
However, sometimes things cannot be solved completely by fighting. This is also the most difficult moment for a lifestyle that works too hard. For example, if the exam you are facing is a year later, things will not end in an instant anyway. People who work too hard may fall into pain because they have to coexist with anxiety for a long time. Another situation is that the pressure faced cannot be changed by hard work. For example, if a loved one is sick and hospitalized, maybe trying to take care of their health and buying a lot of health supplements is one way, but it cannot change the fact of the illness itself. .
For those who work too hard, their pain is indescribable, because at least you can prepare for the exam, but health cannot be changed by doing more. The feeling of losing control will always remain in their hearts, which may force them to do more things, but it cannot eliminate the sense of loss of control and anxiety caused by the stress source.
But even if you don’t talk about this situation, when you usually face pressure, the tense feeling is swallowed back into your stomach, and when you suppress anxiety, panic and uncertainty and continue to fight, it is actually a kind of hard work. Sometimes Their bodies have also sent out warning signals, but people who work too hard are usually too accustomed to it and don't realize it.
For people who fully use problem-solving strategies, what they need to learn is that taking care of their emotions does not mean giving up. It does not mean that you can take a break, find someone to express your feelings or complain, but it means procrastination, irresponsibility and irresponsibility. If a person just stops for a short rest, he will be immediately cut into pieces by a thousand knives full of responsibilities and doubts. This kind of self-indulgence Responsibility may force people to take a few more steps for a while, but in the long run it will only make it difficult for them to move forward.
People who try too hard can try to look at . What are the thoughts that force me to keep going every time I stop or turn my head? Do I like them myself? Maybe you can try to accept yourself. Stopping does not mean bad or irresponsible. You deserve to take a break when you are tired, and the goals you want to complete will still be completed later.
Coexisting with anxiety is also a lesson that people who work too hard need to learn .Maybe the presence of pressure in the mind makes people feel uncomfortable, or even makes people panic and want to do something quickly, but in fact anxiety is just a feeling and does not really make us lose control. Even if the anxiety cannot go away, we can You can still let yourself stay in your feelings and see how many things you can do and how many things you may have to let go of.
Completing things and taking care of your emotions are not extreme choices that you can only choose, but can coexist. Sometimes, maybe instead of focusing on how to do things or how to finish them early, you may want to take care of your emotions a little bit. If you take a few slow steps to see what's wrong with you, you will be able to walk longer.
