Brick by brick, with affection and love, this is people's "home". people can't live without home throughout their lives. They grow up in their parents' small home and then establish their own homes in society. people come from home and go from home all their lives. No matter how far away wanders, it is like a kite that never breaks. always has a place at home in a corner of its heart, constantly giving people warmth and energy.
People often hear various sounds at home, which may disturb people's peace, but this is the most vivid daily life. Being too quiet will make people feel cold and numb. The ancestors also said about this "A home without three voices is not a home." Only a home with these three voices echoing from time to time is a happy and harmonious family. What are the three voices that is talking about? This also requires us to carefully understand its profound meaning.
The first sound: Wife’s nagging
In the feudal society for a long time, the division of labor between husband and wife under the roof was different. The man planned a career outside and accumulated family property, while the wife stayed at home and took care of all the household affairs. Well organized. Under the ideological concept of "men are superior to women", wives cannot discipline their husbands when they are away from home. So when they come home in the evening, they will often nag a few more words. But such disciplinary words are not used in many cases. The husband seems to be very noisy and may even have disputes, causing the family to be disturbed.
Husband and wife are in the same boat, and they work together to make the business stable and prosperous. If the two heads of the family are unhappy with each other, it will only end up filling the whole family with hatred and making people want to escape. " The prime minister's belly can support the boat ". As the head of the family, a man must be more tolerant and tolerant. He must not argue with his wife's kind nagging words, otherwise it will be difficult for the loving couple to grow old.
There is a saying in Confucianism that sums up the way of husband and wife exquisitely, that is "In the past three generations of kings of Ming , they must respect their wives, and there is a way. The wife is the one who loves her. Dare to disrespect her. " In history, the kings of the Xia, Shang and Zhou dynasties respected their wives very much, because although the wife was at home, she had to serve her parents and educate their children. Her responsibilities were very important. A good wife can make her husband prosperous. In the family, only when a husband is tolerant and respectful to his wife can he keep the family harmonious for a long time.
The second sound: the cry of a child
Since ancient times, China has attached great importance to the continuation of bloodline clans. Confucius and Mencius also said "There are three types of unfilial piety, and having no heirs is the greatest." If there are no heirs in the family, it means that the family is entangled. If there is no one to take care of it, the business will just drift away in the wind. In the ancient farming society, ordinary people guarded one-third of an acre of land. Only by spreading the branches and leaves can more labor be available to solve the problem of food and clothing at home. This is very realistic.
On the birth day, the family celebrated together. With the arrival of the child, the family showed unprecedented vitality. The immature couple learned to be parents. Even though life was tiring, it was always gratifying to witness the growth of their children. But for the children at home, parents always have expectations, hoping that their children will become dragons become phoenixes. But there is no guarantee in life. Parents can only help their children to walk by carefully educating them when they are young. On the right path.
Education can achieve a child's life, and parents, as their children's first teachers, have a far-reaching impact. The famous writer Ouyang Xiu of the Northern Song Dynasty was born in a poor family. His father passed away early, and he and his mother depended on each other. However, his mother firmly believed that people are poor but have ambitions. She had no money to buy pen, ink, paper and inkstone, so she used the sand as paper and the reed stick as pen. In these simple strokes, cultivated Ouyang Xiu into a talent and passed the exam. Fame, become a great generation.
The third sound: the laughter of the old man
People often say " filial piety comes first ". When treating elderly parents at home, we must take on the responsibility of supporting them. Let parents be happy in their later years, naturally. radiating a smile. "An old man in a family is like a treasure." The old man has experienced the ups and downs of most of his life, and he must have some wisdom in dealing with the world. If he practices it respectfully, it can help his life avoid detours.
Secondly, if there is always laughter and laughter in this home, it is a reflection of family harmony. It shows that several generations are broad-minded and can get along with each other in a friendly way. In such an atmosphere, people are peaceful and peaceful in society. Easier to get things done.
Summary
Our ancestors often said that "a home without three sounds is not a home", which is the motto of family management. In fact, the happiness of family business is not far away, it is around us in life.
The wife’s nagging, the child’s cry and the old man’s laughter are very ordinary sounds in life. The key lies in how people create and respond to them. Only when people in the family treat each other with tolerance and kindness can we welcome each other. Come to a truly happy life.
