01 A person's true self-discipline does not mean forcing himself to do something, but whether there is someone to supervise him or not. The playwright Bernard Shaw once said: "Self-control is the instinct of the strongest." It is true that only by controlling yourself can you mee

01

A person's true self-discipline does not mean forcing oneself to do something, but whether there is someone to supervise it.

Playwright Bernard Shaw said: "Self-control is the instinct of the strongest."

It is true that only by controlling yourself can you meet sincere friends, gain the trust of others, and get the most practical help.

Not procrastinating when doing things, not talking too much, and not feeling lonely when alone is a very high state and a manifestation of self-discipline.

02

Don’t delay in doing things, just do it.

There is a saying that an inch of time is worth an inch of gold, but an inch of gold cannot buy an inch of time.

Time is the building block of life. If you procrastinate, your life will be wasted and things will never be done well. Those who are waiting for your "news" will leave with a chill. Over time, no one will trust you.

During the Eastern Han Dynasty, diplomats Ban Chao and Guo Xun went to the Western Regions together. According to the arrangements of the imperial court, the two were jointly responsible for this diplomatic activity.

When a group of people arrived at Shanshan , they had a good chat with King Shanshan.

Suddenly, the Xiongnu envoy arrived. King Shanshan was more willing to make friends with the Xiongnu. Should

wait for King Shanshan's arrangements, or should King Shanshan change his attitude?

Ban Chao said: "If you don't enter the tiger's den, you won't get the tiger's cubs." He meant that he wanted to murder the Huns' envoy to show that he was strong enough.

People traveling with him said, "We need to discuss this matter with Guo Xun."

Guo Xun was indecisive and often procrastinated. Therefore, Ban Chao did not change his original intention and came up with the strategy of "kill first and then play later".

The Huns' envoy disappeared, King Shanshan's attitude changed, the credit was also given to Guo Xun, and the matter was resolved satisfactorily.

Not everything has to wait and be slow. As the saying goes, the opportunity must not be missed, and the time will never come again. We must advance steadily according to the situation and do not neglect at all. In this case, things will have the desired effect.

A self-disciplined person works vigorously and resolutely. If he doesn't agree, he will get it done if he agrees. Even if it doesn't work well, there will be feedback. From him, we can see the spirit of "grasping iron will leave marks, stepping on stone will leave marks".

03

doesn’t talk much, but speaks carefully.

Shakespeare once said: "Not all that glitters is gold; not all beautiful words are good words."

Many people like to talk and praise everyone, and they will be very enthusiastic about who they deal with. If you were very close to him, you would think that he was an omnipotent person.

In fact, people who talk a lot tend to talk nonsense without turning around or using their brains.

In the crowd, we often see people like this - they don't talk much, but they can get to the point; they are often silent, but they can always express themselves clearly.

There is a story about Tang Dynasty poet Wang Bo in "Eternal Words to Awaken the World".

On September 9th of a certain year, Wang Bo arrived in Hongdu and walked into the house of local celebrity Yan Dudu.

The mansion was full of guests, all of whom were local celebrities and Confucian scholars.

Governor Yan said: "The scenery here is beautiful, but there are no calligraphy works by famous people. Therefore, I would like to ask everyone to write "Tengwang Pavilion" and carve the inscription to pass it on to future generations."

Everyone here understands that Governor Yan's Son-in-law Wu Zizhang is talented and the best candidate. Therefore, the pen and ink were pushed around, and no one took it.

Wu Zizhang did his part and recited a long poem on the spot, which won the applause of the whole house.

Wang Bo stood up and said, "This is the poetry of the ancients, not yours." After that, he wrote out the poetry of the ancients for everyone to see.

As the saying goes, talking too much will lead to mistakes, and disaster will come from the mouth.

As a human being, you must control your mouth. Don't care about whether anyone cheers at any time, don't speak in an exaggerated manner, and don't think that you are "highly talented".

Self-discipline does not mean not saying a word, nor does it mean pretending to be deaf and dumb at all times, but it means talking less, doing more, and listening more. Remind others at critical moments and make suggestions when needed.

If you grasp the standards of language accurately, others will be able to accept it, and you will be loved.

When Socrates was educating his disciples, he proposed that no matter what he says, it must pass three screens - whether it is true, whether it is well-intentioned, and whether it is important.

Habitually filtering words will naturally improve the control of words.

04

Don’t be lonely when you are alone and exercise self-discipline.

There is a short clip in the TV series "Glory Ping Pong ": it tells that the protagonist Xu Tan would sit alone or hide alone during the breaks when he was studying and practicing his ball skills.

Everyone thinks that he is working overtime to practice. It was later discovered that he was taking notes on the sidelines, writing down the recent practice and the skills of the players around him.

The right way is to know yourself and the enemy, and you will be victorious in every battle.

When a person is alone, observe others, reflect on himself, find gaps, and write out ways to surpass others. This is the true style of a strong person.

As an ordinary person, he may not achieve much, but he must strictly demand himself. As long as he surpasses himself yesterday, he will be very good.

There is a word called "Be cautious about independence", which tells us that whether there is anyone to control us, we must use moral laws as the yardstick to restrain our own words and deeds.

Being alone does not allow you to escape the supervision of others, but allows you to develop better habits and gain the trust of society.

In "Eternal Words to Awaken the World", there is a monk named Zhihui. When he was traveling in Hangzhou, he met a beautiful woman and his heart was moved.

Deep down in Zhihui's heart, he was eager to fulfill his fate, but he did not do so. Instead, he chose to return to secular life before forming a fate. In the end, he missed his fate, but he avoided mistakes.

The ancients advised: One mistake will lead to eternal hatred.

Only when you are alone can you feel a person's true temperament. If loneliness can be regarded as enjoyment, the level of self-discipline will be higher.

05

In life, there are things to do and things not to do.

Whether you do something or not, it may seem like others are restricting you, but in fact it is your own decision that plays the main role.

Plato said: "Self-control is a kind of order, a kind of control of happiness and desire."

When you are strict with yourself and take the initiative to tolerate others, you will find that life is easy, happy and free.

There is no fixed pattern for a good life, but you cannot break the rules and affect the happiness of others just because you pursue your own happiness.

Time flies, cherish it and don’t waste it.

Author: Commoner.

Pay attention to my words and enter your heart.

The pictures in the article come from the Internet.