is too gregarious, is it really good? Do you always give up some of your own principles and bottom lines, or put away your edge and personality, and choose to cater to others because you are afraid of being isolated and excluded?
If things go on like this, maybe you will really become a person who makes you feel very strange and lose yourself.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with being alone. It can make you more stable, more focused, and simpler. It also allows you to find yourself, no longer lost, no longer confused, and enjoy the tranquility and the excitement of interpreting your own journey.
The hustle and bustle of the outside world, although colorful, cannot bring you a true sense of spiritual fulfillment.
Let yourself calm down, and you may find that you don't need such excitement and excitement. On the contrary, after such excitement brings short-term satisfaction, it will make you more and more impetuous, sensitive and lonely, and then you will search further and further away from the fragrance deep in your heart.
people, if they really understand life, they like to be alone. Apart from the needs of life and work, they leave a quiet space for themselves.
- 1. The more people there are, the more boring it becomes.
Schopenhauer said:
"In this world, there are really only two ways for us to choose, either to enjoy loneliness or to fall into the secular world. Whenever people gather together, the main topics are nothing more than three, roundabout showing off oneself, Adding insults to others, snooping on each other, and gossiping about each other are a waste of the most valuable time and energy. What people really need can never be obtained here.
You think you like it, but if you think about it carefully, you may not really like it.
The more people gather together, the more boring and uninteresting they become. They discuss and magnify their feelings with each other, and talk about who is good and who is bad. Sometimes you laugh at me, and I laugh at you again. We all have no doubts about helping each other, but when we actually encounter things, we will understand that words are just words.
Completely ineffective social networking will only waste time, money and emotions. Even when you are really ready to do something, these so-called friends will become your resistance.
- 2. The joy of pleasing yourself.
People are most relaxed when they get along with themselves. There is no need to look at anyone's face, no need to consider anyone's feelings, and no need to accommodate anyone. This sense of relaxation is a kind of baptism in the spiritual world, allowing you to gradually have a quiet space of your own.
The more people you know, the lazier you will become. You don’t want to know anyone anymore, and you are tired of it. I have probably seen the so-called social relationship clearly.
From the emotional acquaintance to getting along, in the end it is just a relationship of value exchange.
In addition, in the process of getting along, you always have to be a little forced on yourself and have many difficulties. It is better to devote yourself to a kind of real freedom.
- 3. Stay away from unhealthy things.
No matter the person, relationship, or relationship, as long as it is unhealthy, I no longer want to change it, and I am too lazy to argue with anyone anymore. Staying away is the wisest choice and the most responsible choice for yourself.
is no longer so serious about life and work, and likes to care about others. He responds to other people's opinions and mistakes with a calm smile.
Calmness and calmness are a kind of temperament cultivated in solitude. Things other than yourself, your family and your health are no longer so important.
Loneliness can also be enjoyed. You start to stay away from the crowd, and you no longer ask others to understand you, let alone have expectations for others.
In the past, I often regarded other people's affairs as my own. Only after I learned to be alone did I realize that in this world, I had nothing but my family.
- 4. People are complex.
It is difficult to have a pure relationship between people. On the contrary, contradictions, suspicions and doubts are the norm. likes to be alone, not necessarily because he is indifferent to "people", but because he wants to focus better and more feelings on himself and his family.
When you really understand it, you will feel how ridiculous your previous thoughts were.
You want others to understand you, and you want others to trust you. In fact, no one can truly understand you. Those words of comfort are all wise people who have figured out that they are what you want to hear.
From the moment you start trusting and relying on others, the danger has already occurred.
Even if it is a relative relationship, there will be alienation, there will be intrigues, and in the end it will become a burden to you. Most relationships between people are as plain as water, so one's own strength and independence are the key.
- 5. Treat society rationally.
people, if they truly understand, they will no longer have the very radical thoughts and behaviors that they used to have. Be able to treat society rationally, see the rules clearly, and respect the rules. For friends, you can chat enthusiastically for a few words when you meet, but you will no longer miss them when you wave goodbye.
Even if the problems of human nature are slowly unfolding in front of him, he can still maintain inner peace and calmness.
no longer distinguishes between right and wrong, black and white, because we understand that in this society, everything is either black or white, right or wrong. Many times, between black and white and right and wrong, there is gray.
The opposite of white is not necessarily black, sometimes it is also the opposition between white and white.
When you understand and accept it, you will prefer to be alone, no longer so cynical, and more tolerant and rational towards society. Those who still have violent reactions may have understood it, or they may have only scratched the surface.
Perhaps, people have to experience something before a huge change in their mood can occur. Thinking of the lively and crowded self in the past, I felt bored and childish. So to a certain extent, I now understand that real life has just begun.
is like what many people think of as maturity, but it has been rounded off by the world and has become worldly and practical. Such sophistication is more like premature aging of spirit and premature death of personality.
Only when you can create a peaceful world for yourself, enjoy the tranquility and warmth, and achieve spiritual results and harvests, can you be considered truly mature.
This kind of maturity cannot be faked, such as deliberately pretending to be an aloof and worldly expert. Don't think that being alone means having few desires and no desires. It's just that you have changed your attitude towards life and begun to pursue an independent space and a true freedom.
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