Many people have this feeling that the education they have received since childhood seems to be passing on a single value orientation to us:
A person must learn to unite and cooperate with the people around him, know how to be versatile, be able to speak well, and have a cheerful personality Extroverted;
If you treat others indifferently, you will be labeled as "arrogant and arrogant", which will determine that this person must have no future. Regardless of interpersonal relationships, career and family, he will definitely hit the rocks and suffer setbacks, and he will not be happy.
It seems that a person who is not gregarious is criticized and rejected entirely because of his bad personality or lack of ability;
In fact, being friendly to others is a cultivation, and being alone is a character;
A person who doesn't want to talk , and people who are always alone, rely on staying away from the crowd to restore their own energy and energy;
are introverted, not scary, introverted, rich in spiritual world, and peaceful in mood. We don’t have to be disrupted by external evaluations. Own rhythm;
Generally, people like this will be very good in the following three aspects, which are worth learning from.
The ability to endure loneliness
Audrey Hepburn once said:
I like to be alone, like to stay outdoors, like to take my dog for a good walk, look at trees, flowers, and the sky.
Everyone in society is eager to connect and interact with others. Only when they are among people can they explore and reflect their own value;
The difference is that extroverts are usually more nervous. They are not interested in the beauty of nature. Or they are not interested in relaxed, smooth and harmonious interpersonal interactions. What they long for and look forward to is lively social interaction, frequent communication, and all kinds of laughter and curses.
Introverts are more inclined to immerse themselves in their own world, and do not like superficial hypocrisy and enthusiasm;
In their opinion, those things are boring and false, so instead of searching among the crowds wearing masks, For people of the same kind, it is better to simply close the door and continue to learn and explore in the field you love.
Perhaps in the eyes of outsiders, they are a bit withdrawn, lack self-confidence, and are not good at words, but their inner world is very rich and they are often infected by books, movies, and art, from which they absorb life energy and feel the beauty of life. ;
Loneliness, for some people, is suffering and depression, but for introverts, it is normalcy, relaxation and relief;
Because they do not have to be bound by worldly vision and do not have to deal with outsiders often, they endure loneliness The ability to be alone is usually very high.
The ability to take risks
I heard that in ancient Greek mythology, there was a strong man named Antaeus who could defeat any opponent. The reason was that his mother was the God of the Earth, as long as his body touched the ground. , you can continuously draw strength from it.
Unfortunately, someone discovered this secret and chose to lift Antaeus high in the air during the fight. Soon, he was killed without any strength.
To survive in society, a person's power is limited. There are always areas you don't understand, and there are always unexpected risks and crises. If you are not strong enough, you can easily be defeated by setbacks or panic. Ask for help everywhere.
A person who chooses and is accustomed to living alone has long developed the superpower to resist risks and has become a team on his own;
When a crisis comes, they will not run away or move temporarily. Reinforcement means either preparing for a rainy day early or reversing danger relatively easily.
Some netizens asked: Under what circumstances do people grow the fastest?
In fact, when you have no one to rely on and live in a relatively closed and uncertain environment, both your mind and problem-solving abilities will be fully exercised;
no one can discuss it when things happen, and you have to make your own decisions. In emergencies, you should rely on your own instincts and existing strength to handle emergencies;
you can block them when soldiers come, cover yourself when water comes, and rely on yourself to do everything. Such people tend to have a stronger ability to withstand risks.
The ability to think rationally
Le Pen said in "The Crowd": As soon as people are in a group, their IQ is seriously reduced. "
A major feature of most of the environments we live in is that if you want to integrate into the group, you must give up some individuality and even rational thinking.
Because the group does not need rationality and does not consider facts, it only needs the power of the group , to incite everyone's emotions and fool others into losing their ability to think deeply and look at problems objectively.
Then, through this value "camp", people gain a sense of belonging and accomplishment, as if they have a very powerful force behind them. Support.
In fact, many slogans and opinions are paper-based and can easily be revealed based on logical reasoning.
Therefore, learn to stay away from the place of right and wrong and the noisy and emotional crowd. , is a sign that a person has begun to mature;
People who do not jump to conclusions easily, do not let their emotions dominate, and do not blindly take sides are people who know how to think rationally. They generally understand the essence of things more than others. Seeing problems from a far-sighted perspective should not be underestimated.
Therefore, don’t underestimate those people around you who don’t like to talk and keep to themselves. They may be more determined than anyone else and live a more fulfilling life than anyone else. When you meet them, you must understand them. Think of others and strengthen yourself
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