Gentleness is never about whispering, nor is it about being weak. Gentleness is kindness to the world and love for life. It is the courage to accept oneself, the determination to face the past calmly, the quality based on understanding and tolerance, and the power of all warmth.
"Gentle" usually refers to a person's temperament gentle soft. I have always believed that gentleness only describes a person's gentle and supple character, which is an innate quality of a person.
I didn’t know until I read the book "Gentleness in the World" that gentleness is actually an ability, an ability to digest negative emotions by oneself, an ability that is neither humble nor arrogant, and born towards the sun.
"Tenderness in the World" is a collection of warm works jointly written by 31 domestic contemporary prose masters including Bi Shumin, Fan Xiaoqing. They use gentle words to discover the warmth and kindness of the world, and directly touch the readers' hearts. soul.
"Tenderness in the World"
The book is divided into:
"The body is in the world, the heart is in the paradise"
"The bright moon shines straight into the sky, no intention to guess"
"Not bothered by the world, full of joy"
"The heart has mountains and seas, quiet and boundless"
Four parts.
The author discusses these four parts with readers through short articles:
Family love, friendship, long-lost hometown, and lost time.
tells readers a very warm truth: since
has come to the world, he should strive to become a warm person, neither humble nor arrogant, clear and kind. What are the soul-touching articles in the
book?
01
The author Liu Chengzhang tells the story of his vibrant student days in "Qingqing Yanzhongcao" in simple and unpretentious language. He fondly recalls his school days in Yanzhong. Although the conditions were very difficult, his heart was full of infinite hope and he was grateful for the training of his alma mater. and cultivation.
In this prose, the author vividly compares himself to a "little pony". He said:
It was "Qingqingyanzhongcao" that fed his "little pony", which ate grass, ran and circled freely. Look around. It was the times and my alma mater that provided me with a growing environment where the sky and the earth were vast, the clouds were rolling, the wind and rain were timely, and the water and grass were abundant. The "little pony" of the past is still nostalgic for the "green grass" campus.
The phrase "Green grass spreads across the grass" is both a title and appears many times in prose. From another aspect, it illustrates the author's memories of his youth and the fact that his alma mater is always a vibrant scene in his heart.
What is your alma mater?
There was a popular saying when I was a student:
"My alma mater is where I have been complaining about something that is not good, but I don't allow others to say a word."
My alma mater has sweet and bitter memories in every student's heart, and they sometimes complain when they are there. Studying is hard, school conditions are poor, teachers are harsh, and homework is never finished.
After entering society for a few years, and recalling the school life back then, my heart will be filled with peach blossoms. At this time, there will be a warm feeling in my heart. My time at school was both bitter and joyful.
As a person grows up and experiences more, he will find that those negative emotions in school will dissipate unconsciously. Like the author, what remains is gratitude and memories of his former alma mater. The
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02
I remember that there is an article "Country Complex" in the high school Chinese textbook that begins with this sentence:
"Everyone has a land that dreams about in his heart. He thinks of it when he is proud and thinks of it when he is frustrated. Every year and every festival. , touching the scene, thinking of it anytime and anywhere."
The author - Zuowang said in the essay "Rice Noodles, Still Nostalgia":
"When I think of my hometown on the tip of my tongue, everything is still vivid in my mind. I am still the girl I was back then, happily eating breakfast at the rice noodle stall, stepping on my feet. Hot Wheels is busy and indulges in all the things he loves, and occasionally bursts out laughing like a barbell. "
This is a portrayal of a small part of the author's nostalgia, and it is also the presence of warmth in her heart. Even though she did not have a warm native family, her childhood and adolescence were spent in her parents' quarrels and mutual hatred.
But many people who left their hometown Even though I painfully want to escape from my hometown every day, I still miss something about my hometown many years after I left. I can't tell whether I miss my former self or the plants and trees of my hometown.
Maybe my relatives and friends in my hometown have been scattered all over the world, and maybe the scenery of my hometown has been blurred, but there is always a feeling that will never be forgotten - —That is the mark of living in my hometown, which is the starting point of life.
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03
Sometimes we always give our patience and gentleness to strangers, and our bad temper and small emotions to our parents. When you reach a certain age, you will know that in fact, we should give gentleness and patience to the people closest to us - our parents.
The author Wang Xiaomao talked about three things in "I am willing to understand you":
01 Whenever I send In the circle of friends, my father would always care about my updates and make long remarks.
02 My father would always follow my footsteps and only care about my own updates in the circle of friends.
03 Later, I talked with him. After communicating with my father, I realized how much my father wanted to understand me.
“Because in the world of family love, there are only two of us. He was getting older and his approach to me was getting more awkward, so I wanted to wait for him. I am also willing to seriously understand Dad. I want to tell him that I have never been alienated from him in my heart. ”
If your parents are here, there is still something to come in life. Filial piety comes first, care more about your parents and complain less. The more you are a relative, the more you have to show your best and warmest side to them.
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The truth of life may not be perfect, and fate may be unfair, but we can still live happily and gently, discover the kindness in the world, accept the unpleasantness in life, and eliminate negative emotions.
So how can we eliminate negative emotions by ourselves. ? Make yourself gentle towards life.
01 If you feel that you have nothing to do with "gentleness", the book "Gentleness in the World" is worth reading carefully. It contains many insights into the warmth of life.
02 The thing itself. It will not make people have negative emotions, what matters is your mentality and your view of things, so
When something happens, you can choose to solve it in another way.
03 Maintain kindness towards the world, The reason why children's perspective is beautiful , it is precisely because they believe in the kindness of the world.
04 Exercise can indeed reduce people’s emotional attention, secrete endorphins , increase the body’s neurotic secretion, make people feel happy, and relieve unpleasant moods. Let yourself be immersed in the busy life. Over time, you will find that things that were once unsolvable will naturally no longer be a problem. If you can't solve something at the time, you can let time tell you the answer.
06 Keep it up before going to bed. The habit of reading, reading more books and reading classic books will help you deal with your own emotions over time.
Gentleness is a self-ability, a person's ability to grow and improve while walking.The
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