People often say that the harder you work, the luckier you will be. It seems that as long as we work hard, we can live a better life, but is this really the case?
In most cases, hard work can indeed help us achieve better life expectations, but not all efforts will bring good results.
Even if sometimes we get what we have always expected through hard work, the result does not seem to bring us much happiness. Instead, we often fall into the vicious circle of "the harder we work, the more anxious we become."
At this time, do you still feel "lucky"?
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Why do we sometimes become more and more anxious even though we have worked very hard? There are only three reasons: desires are not satisfied, various halo stimulations of social media, and the direction of efforts are not specific enough.
01 Unsatisfied desires are the root cause of anxiety
Bernard Shaw said: "There are two tragedies in life. One is that your desires are not satisfied, and the other is that your desires are satisfied."
Desire is Like a bottomless pit, when you fill one part, there is another one waiting for you to fill it.
When Xiao Li first entered the workplace, his monthly salary was more than 4,000. After deducting rent, water, electricity and living expenses, he could not save much money at all.
Later, with the improvement of his work ability and the appreciation and promotion of his boss, Xiao Li's salary finally reached a monthly income of over 10,000 yuan. However, his life did not feel satisfied, but became anxious.
Because in Shanghai, even if he works for several years without eating or drinking, he still can't afford a house. He thought it would be great if he could earn four to five million a year. Relying on the contacts he had accumulated in the past and his flexible mind, he started his own entrepreneurial journey.
Now he has a millionaire and a car, but he still feels unhappy. As the person in charge of the company, he worries about more and more things and his anxiety becomes more frequent.
Xiao Li's struggle from an ordinary wage earner to a company CEO with an annual income of millions is a legend that many people envy, but why does he still feel anxious when he has a successful career?
In the final analysis, the desire stemming from his heart has never been satisfied.
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There are many people like Xiao Li in life. They always think that after making a certain amount of money, their hearts will be satisfied and peaceful. However, desires are endless. When the goal is achieved, they will continue again and again. Work toward bigger goals.
As time goes by, I forget the original intention of working hard at that time, and it is also difficult to realize the joy and happiness brought by success.
Therefore, when we are constantly pursuing and satisfying our inner desires, we should not forget to set aside a place for ourselves to relax and rest.
Desire, there is no most, only more.
As the saying goes, a person with few desires will self-purify.
When a person’s inner desires become fewer, worries and anxieties will naturally decrease a lot.
02Your happiness may be gradually being swallowed up by social media
Have you ever experienced such a situation, scrolling through Douyin, Xiaohongshu or a certain social platform every day, and you can always see others struggling from ordinary ordinary people to amazing people? With an envious look, the per capita income on the Internet can easily exceed 10,000, 100,000 and hundreds of thousands per month.
At this time, even if you think that other people’s income is not necessarily true, you still can’t avoid such stimulation in your heart.
Even sometimes when I check Moments and suddenly see a former classmate living a better life than you, I can’t help but sigh, how come this person is living so well? They are all the same age, how can they be ahead of me? So many? Then you feel as if you're stuck in anxiety.
Everyone of my peers on social media seems to have achieved something, but I am still doing nothing.
Anne Baby wrote in " The Flower of the Other Side ": "Those fears hidden in the heart will slowly turn into soft ropes over time, and then tie us up."
As the saying goes, comparing people to others will make people angry. .
When you start to get caught up in the dazzling inspirational life, high income and happiness creation on the Internet, it is easy to produce anxiety and fear. They make your life confusing, but you don't even know it.
Sometimes, being too eager to be like others may not be a good thing! Because this can easily make us ignore our own value and push ourselves into a cycle of endless anxiety.
In this social media that is full of high-scoring answers, it is easy for us to fall into a whirlpool of anxiety because of other people's words or a status display.
In fact, each of us has different growth experiences, backgrounds, cultural knowledge, professional skills, and comprehension abilities, and the results of our efforts will naturally be different.
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Bian Zhilin There is a poem that goes like this: You stand on the bridge and look at the scenery, and the people who are looking at the scenery are looking at you on the bridge!
When you envy others' excellence, others may also envy your tranquility and indifference.
Each of us has our own place to shine. Others are great, and so are you!
Don’t let social media swallow up your ordinary happiness, and don’t let the various successes on social media take you away.
Don't be too envious of what others have, and don't be too anxious to deny your own value. No matter how good others are, living your own life in a down-to-earth manner is the best state.
03 Because the goals are not specific enough, I fall into anxiety for no reason.
Japanese writer Yataro Matsuura said: "Those who are often troubled by insecurity and anxiety often have the problem of 'thinking too much' about the future."
In most cases, The reason for our anxiety is not that we don’t have a goal, but that we don’t have a specific and feasible implementation process. The biggest problem for
people is that they think too much and do too little.
thinks about how to get promoted and get a raise, and how to improve his performance all day long. In reality, no action plan has been seen.
I don’t know how many people have been ruined by the talkative ideal, and I don’t know how many people have been sent into a cage of anxiety.
For example, if you want a promotion and a salary increase, how can you achieve this condition? What favorable conditions should you prepare for this in advance?
When you have a specific plan for your goal, you will know what methods and approaches to achieve it. At this time, you will no longer feel confused and anxious!
Jack Ma once said: "Think of a thousand roads at night, and wake up in the morning and walk the same path."
Therefore, we must learn to face ourselves and reduce the bad habit of hesitating and hesitating over and over again. Focus everything you want to do on the specific thing itself.
Conclusion
The recurrence of epidemics in the past two years has caused the economy to fall into a downturn. There are also constant reports on the Internet of layoffs in major companies. Employment difficulties have become a problem that many people have to face.
I think, to some extent, most of us have felt anxious, confused and worried about this.
But what I want to say is that everything has its own rules, and everyone has their own rhythm.
In this increasingly competitive environment, even if we face difficulties, we should not let it disrupt our pace. Be patient, do what we should do at present, and prepare for future development in advance. Opportunities are for those who are prepared.
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The absence of the thing you are anxious about may not necessarily affect your life, but the thing you are anxious about must be telling you in another way that you may need to stop now. Look back to see if you went too fast or in the wrong direction.
Only by learning to embrace anxiety and accept your imperfect self can you face your own trajectory and get out of the cycle of "the harder you work, the more anxious you become and the less powerful you become"!
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