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People are alive, no matter what you do, how many books you have read, how many places you have visited, how many parties you have attended... the purpose is nothing more than hope Add value to yourself, save your contacts, have a smooth future in life, have a comfortable life in a small life, have a bright future, and show your value to the public.
So we have to face three kinds of relationships when we are alive: family, friendship and love; no matter which kind of "love" we are in, the core is to give "sincere" and treat everyone as our own.
No matter what kind of "emotion" you are in front of, the two words "get along" are inevitable; get along with others, rely on "feeling", "feeling" comes from the aura transmitted between people, although some When meeting for the first time, there are endless topics like an old friend whom I haven't seen for a long time; but when someone meets many times, they can't keep the same frequency.
social "can't share the same frequency" reasons are nothing more than two reasons:
1. Identity/level mismatch: Although everyone is equal, there is still a "stratification" between people. , For example, ordinary people and the wealthy circles of celebrities are destined to be incompatible. Different lives, different educations, and different topics are destined to be incompatible.
2. Identity/level matching: The details of the "aura" you release make others uncomfortable, and as a result, naturally you can't have the same frequency.
Remember, people are mutual, and your social purpose is also the purpose of everyone on the social field. You evaluate who is worthy of friendship and who should not be approached. Others have the same thoughts, so you Your speech, body movements, clothing, etc. will be used as the basis for others to evaluate you; if you want to be a popular "double-sided tape",You must pay attention to a few things:
When interacting with people, the most important thing is not only to consider yourself, but to care about the feelings of others; selfish people, no one wants to approach, and no one wants to have deep friendship with them. As far as the public is concerned, they just want to stay away, and no one likes it.
The ancients said that to see whether a person is worthy of socializing, you will know if you have a meal with him. It’s best to see a person’s self-cultivation at the dinner table, so there are a few points to pay attention to at the dinner table:
Seating: See who entertains the guest, if you entertain and you are not older or high in status If you are a person, then you can sit in the chair of honor; if there are older or high-status people, you should sit in the deputy chair of honor. If it's someone else, you can't sit casually for the head and deputy heads, unless the host specifically invites them.
Ordering: When ordering food, you should not "casually", because your "casual" makes others difficult. Is the subtext of "casual" expensive or cheap? Spicy or bland? Everyone has different tastes. When ordering, you should politely take the menu and order 1-2 dishes and then pass the menu to the next person; never grab the menu and order a bunch of dishes you like. People who eat may not like it too.
Picking dishes: keeps flipping to and fro on the plate to pick the dishes you like, so that the whole table will eat the dishes that have been stained by your saliva. The same is true for soup. Don’t use your chopsticks to put your favorite soup into the soup bowl or use your own spoon to salvage the soup bowl.
Chopsticks picking teeth: can’t continue to eat when it’s uncomfortable with the teeth,There are toothpicks on the dinner table. Stop picking the toothpicks and continue to eat. Don’t start picking the teeth directly by holding the chopsticks unscrupulously. Not to mention that the chopsticks are so rough and not picking the teeth, but the action will make people lose their appetite; If there is no toothpick at the big banquet, you should hold back, ask the waiter for help, or go to the bathroom and leave for treatment.
Mouth: It is a good thing to eat with relish, but all kinds of sounds are not good. It affects others and also reduces your own eating.
It is difficult for people to be dedicated to others, but they cannot be dedicated to themselves. You do not respect others and no one will respect you.
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Some time ago, the classmates gathered together. Several classmates who hadn't seen in more than 10 years ate at a seafood stall. They talked happily, and everyone toasted frequently during the dinner. To the friendship of the year, to the joy of being together.
took turns toasting during the chat and laughter to clear the customs. Just when the atmosphere was very good, a classmate invited the class flower of the year, and several male students greeted the class flower, and thoughtfully handed the menu to the class flower. After a few glances at the menu, he casually said, "The seafood in this place is not good. When I was a PhD student at school, I would go out with my tutor to eat the best and most expensive seafood in the area..." The atmosphere was very embarrassing. ; In order to alleviate the embarrassment, another male student raised a toast. Banhua looked at the beer and said with a look of disgust, "I don’t like beer. I only drink red wine. When I am a PhD student, I always drink red wine with my tutor and I’m used to it... .." once again pushed the atmosphere to an awkward position...
most admire a kind of person: get into the Michelin restaurant is also used to eating roadside stalls, even driving top sports cars. For bicycles, enjoy living in villas, do not dislike the thatched huts in the countryside...Clearly rich, well-established, and born at a higher education institution, he looks like a commoner.It's low-key without showing off, and it's totally unassuming, so it's so close.
friends/classmates invite you to dinner, just want to reminisce about the past and get closer to you, even if you don’t like the environment or the food or drinks, since you choose to participate in the game, you must give face to the players in the game, and you can’t just consider yourself Show off, completely ignoring the feelings of other people present.
People who can remember calling you on these occasions, in fact, you have a certain position in the other person’s heart. Don’t give yourself the so-called "face" blessing, and make those friends who have you in their hearts forced to live. Push away from the ground.
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There is no perfect person. What you can do is not necessarily what others do. This does not mean that others are fools. It is actually very difficult to promote yourself by slandering others. The truly capable people never achieve their goals by slandering. The truly powerful people use their own power to speak out.
The so-called "great wisdom is stupid", seemingly stupid may not be really stupid, and seemingly shrewd may not be really shrewd. Real masters are not sharp, and you will see his strength only at critical moments.
The stupid people are, the more they think they are smart; the more ignorant people are, the more they think others are fools.
What about others, don’t make comments, look at the strengths of others, learn from the strengths of others, and pay more attention to self-improvement is the key.
In addition, you also need to remember "a promise of gold"; as the saying goes: "get a hundred taels of gold, not as good as Jibu a promise". In ancient times, the wealth of a hundred taels of gold could not be worth the promise of Jibu ; This is a traditional Chinese virtue, passed down from ancient times to the present; "promise" is more expensive than gold,So don't make promises to others lightly. Whether it's a big or small thing, if you promise it, you must fulfill it.
Two or three years ago, I was entrusted by my colleague as an intermediary to help my colleague make a small order, which made my colleague earn thousands of dollars. I was so excited that the money was in hand. My colleague said he would like to have dinner to show his gratitude. Rejection, this is not enough effort. After that, my colleagues mentioned it several times. The editor felt embarrassed to refuse all the time, so I agreed. After agreeing, the meal has not been fulfilled so far, and my colleagues will never ask for dinner again.. ....
If you do not have the sincerity to do a certain thing or do something you are not willing to do in your heart, do not promise or mention casually. People who are really willing to help you don't really appreciate your return. If you make/promise, then you must complete it anyway, otherwise, no matter how good you are, no matter how capable you are, your "personality" will be defective in the impression of others.
People who go wrong can only be general acquaintances, unable to deepen friendship, and unable to rise to the level of commercial cooperation.
It is the so-called details that determine success or failure, and do not pay attention to details. Although it is currently taking advantage of it, it may not be a good thing in the long run. If you hope that your life will be different in the future, and you can go from source to source, then please pay attention to every detail of your words and deeds from now on, and respect everyone around you from the details.
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