that I want to say but are too embarrassed to say; there are always some things that I clearly remember very clearly, but I always want to forget;
People mix in the society, whether in the workplace, in the family, or with friends, they are always inseparable from the word "love". Some people are trapped by love, some people hate because of love, and some people get better because of love.
has a kind of wisdom called "confused". When you are a human being, when you are "confused", many things will pass, and people will be able to deal with each other easily.
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When getting along with others, he pretends to be confused.
It is difficult to see oneself clearly, but it is easy to see clearly others. Moreover, many people are accustomed to using their own ruler to measure the words and deeds of others. Once the words and deeds of others deviate from your own thoughts, you will think that others are doing something wrong and that they are annoying.
I can't see the good of others, and I can't bear to see people who are worse than myself. It's actually a "psychological imbalance" and I can't understand myself correctly. Many times, we are accustomed to regard ourselves as the protagonist and others as supporting roles. As everyone knows, it is great wisdom to be a good supporting role.
Let others play the leading role, and you can really see others and control the situation by watching from the sidelines. If things go badly, you can get away with it. As the protagonist, although he is in the limelight, he bears more responsibilities, and when encountering things, he is often inseparable.
The protagonist and the supporting role each have their own strengths and weaknesses. Smart people tend to "stand aside" and regard themselves as outsiders.
As the saying goes: "The bystanders are clear, the authorities are obsessed."
It is wisdom to see others clearly, to see the situation clearly;
Many people, when they see something, will scramble to express their thoughts, or try their best to persuade others. The purpose of this is to hope that others will revolve around you, and you will fight for the position of the protagonist.
A person with great wisdom always looks like he can't see through, and he is also an unremarkable person in the crowd. He is confused on the surface, but he is very shrewd on the inside. When it is not critical, he will not express his thoughts or take action.
The sweeping monk in "Dragon and Babu" has been sweeping leaves in the Tibetan Scriptures Pavilion, and has seen through heroes from all walks of life, but he has been observing for decades without making a sound. But he turned out to be an admirable man and made a difference at a crucial time.
When interacting with people, you are very "confused". In fact, it is to allow yourself to "advance and retreat freely", try not to affect the development of others, and do not compete with others for the "protagonist".
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Treating his own grades, he "confusedly" forgot.
In the circle of friends, it is often seen that some people are "talking about", and they are all trying to show off themselves. For example, if you eat a bowl of rice noodles that cost tens of dollars in the early morning, you have to take a picture and post it on your Moments to let others know that you are rich; when you go to travel, you must post on Moments every time you go to a scenic spot. Let yourself be a beautiful landscape in the eyes of others.
Many people have the mentality of "reporting good news but not bad news", and they always put money on their faces.
Those who are truly wise will feel that they are not good enough, that they do not earn enough money, and that there is nothing to show off. He is very low-key, and he is confused and forgets about his original achievements.
A person who always remembers his achievements will become complacent, which will create resistance to his career development. If you are a little confused and take your grades lightly, you will find that there is still a big gap between yourself and high-level people, and you still need to continue to work hard.
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treats past grievances and put it down in a "confused" way.
The afternoon before yesterday, my colleague Lao Li and I went to work. I asked Lao Li: "Last week, you quarreled with Xiaoliu, what are you going to do?"
Lao Li said, "Did I quarrel with Xiaoliu? I don't care about this, and he probably won't either. I care."
Lao Li said something stupid, but he is really a smart person, and he downplayed the grievances between colleagues.
When colleagues get along, look down and see you. If you keep the grievances and grievances in your heart, you will make your life very embarrassing, forget the grievances and send hatreds, and your colleagues will get along well.
Of course, you should let go of your past graces and grievances. No matter if others hurt you, if you make mistakes, or if you have misunderstandings with others, you should laugh it off.
When is the time for retribution? If you remember hatred, your heart will be very uncomfortable. If you want to take revenge, then you may also do impulsive things, harm others and yourself.
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When refusing others, he was confused.
"Disqualification in the World" wrote: "My misfortune lies in my lack of ability to refuse. I am afraid that once I refuse others, it will leave unhealable cracks in each other's hearts."
When rejecting others, we often I feel that I can't live with face, and it is difficult to handle emotionally. Because we can't let ourselves down, we always reluctantly promise others.
Because you don't understand rejection, others will intensify harm to you, or others have been occupying the interests that originally belonged to you. Because you are always swinging between rejection and non-rejection, you will appear embarrassed and may cause a lot of misunderstandings.
If you're not good at rejecting people, then you learn to "fake".When dealing with someone who needs to be rejected, you will gradually distance yourself from him, and after keeping a distance from him, you will feel much more relaxed; when you are slow to respond to something that needs to be rejected, the matter will slowly "drag" over.
Leaves are not yellow in one day, hearts are not cold in one day, and feelings are not faded in one day.
You learn to pretend to be confused, then over time, many things that seem to be difficult to handle will be gone.
Of course, being a human being and learning to be "confused" is not a "confused" attitude towards everything. You should take the initiative to take responsibility for things that you should take responsibility for, and you should make decisions immediately if you should make a clean decision. . Everything has two sides, and it needs to be analyzed on a case-by-case basis.
Gu Long said: "Only those who can pretend to be confused and are willing to pretend to be confused are the most shrewd and most powerful."
The confused people are often the ones with great wisdom, but they just don't talk about it.
Author: commoner rough food.
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