put it down in a single thought, everything is natural.
As a human being, between giving up and gaining, you need to find a foothold and a balance. You must not be too persistent, and you must not be stubborn in thinking.
People with real brains often have these five characteristics, and the more they live, the more comfortable they are. Don't do things that go against your heart, don't set limits on your life, just go with the flow and do more things that go with the flow, so that you can follow the trend.
01
Don't be too obsessed with feelings.
When fate gathers and fate separates, you are not alone. The person you are pursuing may not necessarily like you; when you speak out loudly, maybe the other person will not give you a serious look. Those who marry you will not necessarily accompany you to old age; those who are divorced are not without happiness for the rest of their lives.
Love is a beautiful thing, and it is also a thing that can't be figured out. There are many unexpected situations that you can't figure out. You try to keep a person, maybe in vain, all your efforts, others will not take it seriously.
attaches great importance to friendship and righteousness, and there is nothing wrong, but it depends on who the other party is. You should learn to let go of people who are destined to leave you. No matter whether the other party has hurt you or helped you, the moment the fate disappears, it changes. If others are good, just remember them, and don't bother others; if others are bad, just let them go, and don't repeat the old things.
Whether it is love or family friendship, you should adjust your mentality and actions according to the changes in your feelings. It's not your fault for giving up a relationship, you're just freeing yourself.
02
In pursuit of ideals, we must know how to "turn in time". There is nothing wrong with
being obsessed with ideals, but some ideal goals are the things that come to mind when they are "hot-headed".For example, when we were young, we wanted to be scientists, and when we said it, we were ambitious, but when we grew up, most people had to change their ideal goals, and they couldn't "single".
has some ideals, and even if you try your best, you won't realize it. Not just you, but the combined forces of the whole world, can't make it happen. For example, driving a spacecraft to the surface of the sun; traveling to outer space, etc. There is an essential difference between
ideal and whimsical. You need "realistic" ideals, not fanciful ones.
A person with a brain, has the courage to stick to the ideal, and knows how to adjust the direction in time, and even change his ideal goal. When the time is right, if the ideal goal is adjusted, there will be fewer hurdles and hurdles encountered in the future.
finds the ideal that suits you and the things you are interested in, so you can do it more smoothly and the effect will be more obvious.
03
Tolerating and helping others requires setting a "bottom line".
Suffering is a blessing, and helping others is a blessing. Learning to tolerate and help others is to magnify your own pattern, but if you tolerate others too much, you will easily suffer a big loss.
My classmate Lao Li, while working in Dongguan, met a fellow villager, A Liang, who came looking for a job. As the saying goes: "Kiss or not, people from the hometown." It is also reasonable for fellow villagers to help fellow villagers.
Lao Li introduced Ah Liang to work in a toy factory through an acquaintance. Ah Liang is in his hometown and has developed the habit of being sneaky. Every day when he gets off work, he puts the scrap copper in the workshop in his pocket and brings it to the dormitory.
When A Liang's "evil deeds" were discovered by the factory, he was fired. Later, Lao Li helped A Liang again and recommended him to work in a hot pot city.
Ah Liang is unrepentant and unemployed again. From then on, Lao Li refused to help Ah Liang introduce his job. Ah Liang said: "Old Li, you are too boring.You don't have any hometown feelings at all, I'm really misunderstood. "
I really didn't expect that A Liang's rake was a rake, and Lao Li was thankful for his efforts.
There is a dialect in the countryside: "There are only three things. "That is to tell us that it is enough to help others once or twice, not to help others for a lifetime. If you help those who "can't help", he will drag you down instead. The "bottom line" will not be trapped because of other people's words and deeds.
04
Ambition should be moderate.
Some people say: "Be a wolf, not a sheep. "
Only people with wolf-like nature can do great things, pursue their ideals with all their might, and make money hard. A person works hard like a sheep, although he has the character of being "honest and honest", but he lacks the spirit of fighting, it is difficult to achieve greatness
In real life, many people want to make a lot of money, live in a big house, and expect their children to be prosperous. As for desires, it seems that there is "no ceiling". Snake swallows elephant. "
If a person can't control his ambition, he will not be happy no matter how much he gets. Because of excessive greed, it may also lead to random investment, resulting in "no return".
A person with a brain is good at controlling himself "Desire". Controlling desires can bring hope in life. For money, it is an attitude of "more money, less money, just enough"; for material things, it is an attitude of "simplicity is happiness"; for status , At the right time, choose to give way to people. Go further, you can make more money, take a step back and enjoy life, and move forward and back freely, you can be free.
"Rely on your parents at home, and rely on friends when you go out." We hope that the more friends the better, if you have made friends in all walks of life, then you can stand firm and develop steadily in any industry.
In fact, you make too many friends, but it is a burden. There are too many friends, and useless social interaction is growing at the same time.
For example, some people have hundreds of friends in WeChat Moments. But how many friends can you trust? When you are sad and sad, maybe there is no one to chat with.
The bigger your circle is, the more circles you join, but it becomes a burden. You comb through the circle and find that there are not many friends in the circle.
"There is no such thing as a banquet in the world." For friends, learn to throw while walking. Making new friends and cherishing old friends is an ideal state and cannot be taken too seriously. When people reach a certain age, they also need to subtract from the circle of friends. It is enough to have three or five friends who resonate at the same frequency.
has a couplet: "How can life be more fulfilling, everything is only half-satisfactory."
should see through life and look down on it, asking for something and not asking for something.
Learn to let go, nothing in the heart, and light as a swallow.
Author: commoner rough food.
pay attention to my words and walk into your heart. The pictures in the
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