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Now children have their own opinions on many things, and they often like to do something different.
But the practice of some children makes parents feel worried and puzzled, because a "game" has become popular among children, that is, drawing "scars" on their hands.
Although these scars are fake, in the eyes of parents, the child's practice is still confusing.
However, many people have suggested that what a child does is not for no reason. This kind of "scar" that seems to be a joke is actually the child sending some signals.
What signals might the child’s strange behavior send out?
1) Children have encountered unpleasant things
Speaking of "scars", I believe that most people's first reaction is pain and bleeding. In fact, this can explain why children like to draw scars on their hands or other parts of the body.
When a child is in school or outside the home, parents cannot always protect the child.
So if parents find that their children suddenly start to like to draw some bloody scars, or make other strange behaviors, then the parents must first consider whether their children have recently encountered unpleasant things on campus.
2) The child feels depressed
Elizabeth Cooper Roth once pointed out: “If the child’s ignorance, anxiety, fear and sorrow of death cannot be properly guided and adjusted, once it encounters an event related to death, Psychological pain and emotional depression will cause children to reflect in abnormal behaviors and special ways.”
Although the child encounters not necessarily the time related to death, the act of drawing scars on the hands has been It's a rather abnormal behavior.
Therefore, when parents find that their children have some strange or abnormal behavior recently, they need to realize that it is the children who are silently telling their feelings that they are very depressed. Parents must have this awareness.
3) Children urgently need attention
In some families, parents are very busy at work and spend less time communicating with and disciplining their children.
But parents are the guides for the growth of their children. If parents are always busy with other things and ignore their children's feelings and needs, then the children may attract their parents' attention through some abnormal behaviors.
As parents, they must be very concerned about their children. When they see "scars" on their hands, they will definitely be very nervous and keep learning about the situation with their children.
After a child gets the attention and concern of his parents, he will think that this abnormal approach can attract the attention of his parents, so whenever the child feels the need or attention, he will release the signal through some strange practices.
Since the child has released signals to the parents through some abnormal behaviors, the parents must not only know how to receive these "signals", but also take certain measures when they find that the child has abnormal behavior.
What should parents do when they find that their children behave abnormally?
First of all, understand the current situation of the child.
Since parents cannot know the child’s situation in school in real time, when parents find that their child has some abnormal behavior, the first thing to do is to understand the child’s current situation.
Parents can ask the teacher if the child has encountered something unhappy at school or if he has been bullied.
or you can patiently ask your child whether he has encountered difficulties that he cannot solve recently.
Only by first understanding the child’s situation, can parents judge whether the child’s scars or other abnormal actions are really for "fun" or whether the child is really in trouble.
Secondly, learn more about the child's thinking.
It is undeniable that when adolescent children do a lot of things, they are only for the pursuit of excitement, for the pursuit of trends, and even the absence is purely for fun.
Therefore, when the child has some unusual behavior that the parent cannot understand, the parent might as well take this opportunity to learn more about the child’s thoughts and know why the child feels something like "painting scars"Interesting. Through communication, parents can not only learn more about the thoughts of adolescent children, but also draw the distance between them.
Finally, pay attention to the child's mental health.
Nowadays, children are under great pressure to study, and adolescent children are inevitably a little sensitive.
So when parents find that their children have some abnormal behaviors, they can first observe the children's recent emotions and pay attention to whether the children have psychological problems.
Children’s mental health is equally important and cannot be ignored. Only when the child’s mentality is positive, will he not really make some abnormal behaviors that may hurt himself.
Summary
Adolescent children will inevitably make some behaviors that make their parents feel puzzled, and they will also have some thoughts that parents cannot understand. But parents must pay attention to the changes in their children in time and don't let the children digest these emotions by themselves in loneliness.
Ask every day: What confusing behavior has your child done ?
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