I've seen a story like this. One person said to a group of little girls, "I have 5 candies on my hands, but you have 6 people. How do you think these 5 candies should be divided now?" This question is like a complicated Olympiad mathematics problem for girls. But soon, someone so

I have seen such a story.

One person said to a group of little girls, "I have 5 candies on my hands, but you have 6 people. How do you think we should divide these 5 candies now?"

This question is like a complicated Olympiad mathematics problem for girls.

But soon, someone solved this math problem in another way.

One of the girls said, "I know, I don't eat it, they are all divided by one piece of each person."

This idea was a different approach and successfully turned a math problem into a sharp turn.

The girls are all very happy.

This person also smiled.

Then, as the girl said, she took out the 5 pieces of candy in her hand.

The other girls were happier, and the girl who just replied that she would be enough to share if she didn't eat, her expression looked a little pitiful, even though she tried her best to do something that she didn't care.

After the little girls dispersed, the man looked at their backs and sighed, "Look, sensible girls have no candy."

Sensible girls are willing to sacrifice their own interests for others.

No one can understand whether she is really happy.

Since I was a child, I have been taught to be a sensible girl.

Therefore, you should take the initiative to do housework at home; you should take the initiative to help when you visit someone else's house.

The elders should not be disobedient; be patient and tolerant to others.

Later -

I grew up, but my sensibility in my bones still remains unchanged.

So, in the workplace, I habitually dare not shirk away from the tasks assigned by others, and take the initiative to show kindness to the people around me. I never feel embarrassed to refuse other people's requests.

And, until now, I went to a relative's house as a guest, I couldn't sit there with peace of mind because I felt like I did nothing and felt full of guilt.

However, behind my sensibility, what I gain is not necessarily all kindness.

In the workplace, her colleague who is very good at talking to her on weekdays has no time to help her handle a document, so she turned against her instantly and used her interpersonal relationships to tell her boss. Finally, in the eyes of the boss, I became the biggest villain, even though he knew that this job was not mine.

And my relatives who helped me in kindness began to instruct me to do things at will, and even urged me to do my own thing when I stopped to do my own thing. If I didn't help her, I would complain that I was lazy, and it seemed that I had turned this into my obligation.

Sensible girl wants to take care of everyone's emotions.

But no one knows how much grievances she suffered behind her back.

Sensible girls are always restrained, tolerant, and good at tolerating everyone and things.

But they often suffer all the grievances because of their sensibility. They were in their hearts, but in the end, they could only heal themselves secretly.

Actually, I want to say, girl, you don’t have to be too sensible.

You don’t have to care too much about whether others are happy or not, and whether they are treated as they deserve.

You don’t have to think about not helping yourself, how will they view you.

You don’t have to be too tolerant, you don’t have to curse others but make peace.

You don’t have to convince yourself with kindness, nor do you have to be seen clearly and you can’t refute it.

You don’t have to worry or be afraid anymore.

You don’t have to envy those doting children, they have the confidence to live freely.

In fact, you have the confidence, and your confidence is your gentle and powerful secret.