Just live a good life (Tenants in Seventy-Two Rooms No. 62)
2022-12-28
The story I want to tell you today is both inspiring and uncomfortable. It is the story I least want to tell.
I met her by chance, because we met her in Shanghai before, but we didn’t cross paths. When we met again here, although we said we had crossed paths, it was not at all how I wanted to know her.
She is from Lu'an . When I met her, she was working in Shanghai, probably in the service industry. I don't know exactly what she did, because it was just an event that brought everyone together. Although we knew each other, it was just a casual acquaintance. It's just that we haven't seen each other for many years, but we still know each other, and we will become familiar with each other later. If we have been in the same city and have known each other for a long time, maybe even if something happens, we should not become familiar with each other later!
When I met her, she must have been relatively young, either seventeen or eighteen years old. I was curious about the fact that she was in the service industry, but I didn’t say anything. After all, it had nothing to do with me. I just felt sad that she was quite older. Later I learned that he had a boyfriend at that time, who was a semi-gangster. They fell in love and they got together as soon as they got mad. Then they got pregnant, and then they gave birth to a child, but they were not married yet because of their age. Later, it was considered that we were going to get married, which was just to get a certificate, because there was already a banquet at home, but it was only at the husband's house, and the husband was from Jiangxi, because the woman did not agree.
Although I don't agree with it, there are still goings-on. It's not like what I said before, and I didn't give you a chance at all. But in fact, when she was in confinement, she felt that her husband's family was too arrogant and thought her child was great. She just wanted to have a relationship with their family, although even if they were related, there was nothing special.
A contradiction arose in this way. Although this was just a one-sided statement, she must have been completely disappointed by her appearance. But for the sake of the children, she still persisted, and then she got married, but the marriage was just a formality, because there were already conflicts by then and she had already returned to her hometown to live.
During that free time, her mother took care of the children. Under the introduction of her best friend, she studied design and industrial design. Because her best friend was doing this, she had great resources to learn. I studied very well and developed my own system. Later, I worked at my best friend's place. The salary, time, etc. were relatively sufficient, and I was considered stable.
At this time, although the man came to see her many times and admitted that he was wrong many times, she just tried everything. But basically every time when it comes to parents and principles, the man is the same as before. She was really shocked, so she decided to separate and divorce. The separation was agreed, but the divorce was not. Then she came here. It was still introduced by her best friend, and it was still the same job. Everyone knew her experience, so there was no advice.
Just like that, he settled down here, taking care of his children with his mother.
Although she is still not divorced, it is considered good if she can separate and leave according to her wishes. She is now thinking of various ways to make money. After all, her child will go to elementary school next year, and all kinds of expenses and interest classes are expenses. She also has to support her parents. After all, she has two daughters at home.
So every time I talk to her, I can clearly feel her purpose. This is understandable, after all, it is inevitable. It's just that her mentality is a little bad, because she always says that it's better to live, which is better than just living, but it still feels a bit awkward, although it seems that she already lives a much more relaxed and casual life than many people I know.
Maybe that's just an illusion, the influence of those years still affects her!
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laugh at the past and laugh at the present, laugh at the east, laugh at the west, laugh at the south, laugh at the north,
laugh here and there, laugh at your original ignorance.
Observe things, observe the sky, the earth, the sun and the moon,
Observe up and down, and observe others. There are always highs and lows.
