My name is Wang Guohua, I am 67 years old. My hometown is in a village in Linyi, . I have a son at home who is 33 years old and married. My wife passed away when my son was in high school.
My job is to beg for food. A waste recycling station was opened in Zhifu District, Yantai. I deal with garbage every day. This job is very dependent on people and time. The child only has contact with me for more than ten days during the New Year. The rest of the time, his grandma manages his life. Because he has too little contact, the relationship between this child and me has not been very good since he was a child.
And because I spent too little time with my child, I felt very guilty inside, so I doted on him a little bit, especially financially, and I almost responded to everything I asked for. Collecting scrap products may seem unseemly to others, but in fact, in those years, the profits were relatively high. So I spent extravagant money on him so that he could have much more than other children of the same age, which also satisfied his vanity.
My son grew up under my doting care. Fortunately, he has always done well in studies, which makes me proud. But his character became very weird and he was a little selfish.
In 2009, my son was admitted to a key university in Hunan and made a local girlfriend. The two of them had a good relationship, so my son decided not to return to Shandong after graduating from university, but to find a job and live in Hunan.
He wants to take root in Hunan. He needs a house and money! It was the first time in his life that he came to Yantai and came to my recycling bin and looked for me. The purpose is clear, he needs money. I took out what I have earned over the years, which is more than 600,000 yuan. Gave it to him. As a result, he said: Dad, I just realized that you make a lot of money!
From then on, he really regarded me as a cash cow. He would never give up unless he drew tens of thousands of dollars from me every year. Anyway, there are ten thousand reasons waiting for me, and because I am getting older, my health is getting worse day by day. The scrap business is getting harder and harder now, and I have a sense of crisis.
After the epidemic started, the waste collectors were also losing money. Seeing that I could no longer do the work, I sold all the waste and returned to my hometown. The total money sold was more than 500,000. At this time, my son asked me for the 500,000 yuan again, saying that he would use the money to manage finances and make a lot of money.
But my thinking has changed now. In the past, I could make money by buying and selling. If you asked for money, I would give it to you. Now I am an old man taking care of myself. If I give him all my money, how will I live in the future? So I rejected his request for the first time.
Moreover, in order to stop his thoughts. I notarized it through the guarantor in the village and placed the money in my niece's hands. To be honest, I feel ashamed that it has come to this point. But I’m only 67 years old! I still have a long way to go, and I can't let myself be cornered just to spoil my children!
The child keeps asking for it! I never understood the difficulties of my parents. When they become a giant baby, parents actually have to learn to say: no.
A few days ago: My son informed me that the money is actually in the hands of my niece. If I don’t trust him, then he will not provide me with old age care. Besides, am I not short of money? Am I afraid of old age care if I have money? Look at how shameless he said it.
It is the father's fault if the son fails to teach. I did not educate my child well. Although he received a good education, this education did not help his character.
