Introduction
Nowadays, when young people get married, houses and cars have almost become standard equipment. When Xiao Li got married, he also faced requests from his wife’s family to buy a house. However, Xiao Li’s parents told her family that they had no money to buy a house. But in the end, Xiao Li still got married, and Xiao Li and his wife also moved into a new house.
01
I am Xiao Li, I am 29 years old, and I have just been married to my wife for half a year. My wife and I met in college. We are from the same city, but my family is in the countryside of the county, and hers is in the city. Our conditions are very different. But when we fell in love, I didn’t think too much about it. After we graduated from college, we returned to the city to work, so we could be closer to home.
During this period, I took her back to meet my parents. My parents were naturally very satisfied with her. Before leaving, my mother gave her a red envelope, and it was 1001. This was the biggest red envelope for my family. Shortly after meeting my parents, she took me to meet her parents. Her parents were not too enthusiastic about me, but simply asked me about the situation at home.
After leaving her home, I felt a little uncomfortable. She comforted me and said, "Don't worry too much about my parents' opinions. After we get married, we will live together."
02
Later, when we were talking about marriage, her family This poses a problem for my family, that is, we need to buy a three-bedroom house in the city. This is indeed a certain difficulty for my family, because besides me, I have a younger brother. My parents are more thoughtful. They have only earned some money from working over the years, but they have also paid for the two of us to go to school.
Originally, my dad planned to renovate the house at home instead of buying a house, because they couldn’t afford the money. In addition, I had short working hours and no savings. But when my dad expressed his idea, his family rejected it. Her mother said: "We only have one daughter. We cannot wrong her when we get married. If we don't buy a house in the city, then forget about the marriage."
She and I have a very good relationship. I don't want our marriage to end because of buying a house, but I really didn't know what to do at the time. In this way, our two families failed to reach an agreement. I said to her: "You also know the situation of my family. Our family really can't afford that much money to buy a house, but I will work hard to make money and buy a house that belongs to us." She said to me at that time: "Okay, let's work together." After listening to her words, I felt a little uneasy, afraid that she would give up on our relationship.
03
Later, her parents asked me to go to their home. After I went, her parents said to me: "We agree to your marriage. If our daughter's heart and eyes were not full of you, we would not agree." I was very happy at the time, and then her father said: "Although, your family is not required to buy a house, but the bride price is I still have to have it, just a gift of 66,000, no problem." I immediately said happily: "Father-in-law and mother-in-law are fine, I will definitely arrange our wedding."
After I went back and told my parents, they were able to accept it, and just like that, my marriage with her was finalized. Later, when we got married, I learned that her family had given her a house, and it was fully paid. This surprised me, and my parents were equally surprised.
After we got married, we lived in this new house that our father-in-law bought for us. I also learned from my wife that the origin of this new house was that the parents-in-law had already shown a house to their daughter, but did not tell her. It wasn't until their daughter got married that they transferred the ownership of this apartment to their daughter, who is my wife. They also decorated the new house. When I thought about it, considering my wife's family conditions, it would not be difficult for her parents to buy her a house. I was able to take advantage of my wife.
04
Later, when my parents came to see the new house, they were very satisfied. When my wife was cooking in the kitchen, my mother pulled me aside and said to me: "This house is now written with your wife's name. You should ask your wife to add your name to it. After all, you are a family now." I said hesitantly: "This is not good."My mother said: "Your father and I are doing this for your own good. You can make up your own mind. I'm just reminding you." "
After my parents and brother left my house, I said to my wife: "Let's discuss something. My wife said, "What's the matter?" "I saw that my wife was in a good mood, so she said: "This is the house, isn't it in your name now? Do you think you can add my name to the house book? "
As soon as my wife heard what I said, her expression changed and she said, "Maybe you want to buy my house and you are not sincere to me. "I immediately said: "No way, I must marry you because I like you, not because I want your house. My wife said, "My parents bought this house for me, and you didn't pay a penny. If you want to add your name and ask your parents to buy you a house, your name will be on the house book, and I won't let you add my name." "When I heard this, my wife was angry, and my wife's words made me feel uncomfortable.
Indeed, because my family has no money to buy a house, I now live in my wife's house, which is already downgraded. I want to get angry at my wife, but what my wife said is the truth, and I have nothing to refute.
I said: "Wife, I was just joking, don't think too much about it. "After this time, I never dared to mention the house again. I was afraid that this matter would affect the relationship between me and my wife. When I went back to my parents' house to pick up things, my mother asked: "Is it done?" "I said, "Mom, please don't give me bad ideas in the future. You almost killed me. I don't want to get divorced just after getting married. I just want to live a good life with my wife and buy a house by my own ability in the future. "
My dad said: "Son, you are so ambitious. Dad, I support you. Your mother just listened to other people's nonsense and gave you a bad idea. Don't blame her. She is doing it for your own good from the bottom of her heart. "I said: "I know. "After I left my parents' house, although my wife and I were already married, I also knew that if I wanted my parents-in-law to recognize me, I had to prove it with actual actions. I believe I can do it.
Mo Ran Huanchen said
Xiao Li and his wife's family terms The difference between the two cases can be said to be due to the wrong family and the wrong household, which is why his parents-in-law did not agree with their marriage at first. Although they later got married, they were given a house as a dowry by their parents-in-law, which seemed like a surprise, but it also made Xiao Li feel aggrieved.
Xiao Li’s mother’s advice to Xiao Li almost hurt him. In the marriage, this house was originally bought by the woman's parents and has nothing to do with Xiao Li. The request to add his name to the house book is really an excessive request.
If Xiao Li had been asking for this, then he might have faced divorce. Fortunately, he stopped the car in the end. Such a request itself was wrong.
Therefore, people cannot be too greedy, and they cannot take advantage of everything, otherwise the consequences will be unpredictable. When faced with this situation, for women, they must stop their losses in time.
