In 2014, I was in Xi'an and I was so stupid that I bought a pre-sale house. I won’t say the name of the community anymore. The core word is in , Baqiao . Everyone in Xi’an knows the remaining information, and even some people in the country know it.
Buying this house uses all my savings and my husband and I, as well as the tens of thousands of yuan I borrowed from my relatives, with a down payment of 200,000 yuan, and I bought a three-bedroom and one-living house. The ideal at that time was to allow my son to go to school in Xi'an in the future. There is a very good primary school next to the community, Dongcheng No. 6 Primary School . Unfortunately, we didn’t live in a new house when we knew my son was in college.
is right, I have a loan of 15 years and I will pay back 2,000 yuan a month.
At that time, my husband and I had a total income of 4,000-5,000 yuan a month, half of which accounted for half of the mortgage, and there was also a 500 yuan rent payment.
We are from other places, our ancestral home is Lantian County . There are no primary schools in our village, and the kindergartens are all in the town. When I was going to school for my child, I bought a pre-sale house regardless of resistance because it was cheap.
Buying a house is the beginning of the tragedy. My idealism has caused my husband and I to fall into the economic crisis .
Save for 5 years and pay back the money I borrowed, but I haven't lived in the new house because the house is unfinished.
For this, the two of them quarreled. He complained that I shouldn't have bought a house, which led to financial difficulties and hesitated for a long time to buy a box of cigarettes. I was depressed that he liked to complain and had no ability to make money.
days of stuttering. For the sake of the house, I and the owners of the property rights have been protected and petitioned, and sometimes I don’t care about work. At one point, I relied on doing odd jobs, selling vegetables and picking up rags to pay off my loan.
In 2019, my mother suffered from a serious illness, and the operation costs about 200,000 yuan. My sisters discussed the equal payment and then took turns to the hospital to take care of them.
I know my husband has about 20,000 yuan in his hand. I asked him to take it out first to treat my mother. He refused and watched me borrow everywhere. In order to raise the 100,000 yuan, I borrowed all my relatives and friends. I had enough money, but my heart was cold.
From then on, my husband and I rarely communicate except for my son. I will pay for his son’s expenses, and I will pay for them. This is how the two of us are the most familiar strangers.
The outbreak of contradictions originated in January 2019. I had a fever of 39 degrees and was almost unconscious in a coma in my rental house. When he went home at night, I told him to take me to the hospital. He drove the electric car and took me to a clinic and hung up a drip. The total fee was 108. I didn't bring any money, so he refused to pay. I said I would give it to you after I went back, and he paid it. After I went back, a friend called me and said that if I could repay the 10,000 yuan I borrowed from him before, it was the Chinese New Year and he needed money.
people used to lend me money to me, and I couldn't let my friends down in this situation. So I took out all my savings of 8,000 yuan, and then asked to lend 2,000 yuan to my husband, wanting to return the 10,000 yuan to my friend.
My husband has not responded for a long time. I know that he should not be willing. But due to the situation, I couldn't let my friend's heart be lent. I lowered my posture and begged him, asking him to use it first, and pay it back to him immediately when I have money.
He was bored for a long time, and finally broke out: "Is there any money to pay me back? When did you have money?! Buy a house and treat your mother, your family is full of big and small things! You are a good man who misses money, how could you be rich!"
I smiled and said, "Isn't there any way to buy a house for my son to go to school. My mother was sick, it was purely unexpected."
He roared: "There is no way. I said I didn't let you buy it or not. My son went to school when he returned to Lantian ?! Your mother was sick, you said that you were accidental. With your ability to miss money, your mother should have this disease!"
Mom is my real mother, and his words were like a knife stabbed into my heart. So he thought so!
had no choice but to give my friend 8,000 yuan, promising to pay him back the remaining 2,000 yuan when I get the double salary at the end of the year. My friend said he used 8,000 first, and when will I give the remaining 2,000?
I was determined to get a divorce, and he probably was extremely dissatisfied with me. So on the last working day before the Spring Festival, we divorced.
What’s ridiculous is that before he could move out after the divorce, the epidemic came.
In desperation, the two continued to live together in the same room. My son lives in high school and has been back for 7 days during the Spring Festival. During the 7 days, we pretended that everything was the same as before and lived our lives lukewarmly. Due to the epidemic, our family of three spent the New Year in Xi'an.
When I first divorced, I agreed that he would pay for his son's tuition, and I would pay for his living expenses, and I would be responsible for the daily living expenses. My son's household registration is with me, and his savings belong to him. If he gets the house in the future, he will have his room and residency until he lives until he is unwilling to live.
However, the house has not been obtained, and the various negotiations have not been achieved until this year: the maintenance fund property fees and other expenses are paid, and then the renewal fee is supplemented, and the house can be obtained.
But I can’t afford the fee of more than 100,000 yuan, and I can’t afford it even if I add it to his money. I watched my house be built, but I couldn't live in it. His anger towards me as the divorce subsided, my dissatisfaction with him faded because he was still supporting his son who was in college after divorce.
Relatives and friends advised me to remarry, the main reason was to make my son marry a wife in the future, and there is no risk of being together with two people who are aware of the truth. Whenever someone advises me, I smile and stop talking.
He is not such a bad person, but I can't forgive what he has done. He doesn't love me, and that's the biggest reason why I insist on not remarrying.
Instead of making do with someone who doesn’t love me, I’m better face life alone.
I now work two jobs: one is housekeeping, 20 yuan per hour, from 8 am to 12 noon, and 4 hours a day. In addition, make buns in a restaurant, from 6 to 11 pm, and make them for 4 to 5 hours. I earn about 200 yuan a day, and an average of about 4,000 yuan a month.
A monthly mortgage of 2,000 yuan, a son's living expenses of 750 yuan, and a rent of 300 yuan (my ex-husband and I share the monthly rent of 600 yuan), and we can save about 1,000 yuan every month with our efforts. I don’t buy new clothes, I walk on get off work and ride an electric bike. The scrap I pick up on the way to get off work can be sold for about 200 yuan every month. These are my living expenses.
I am 46 years old this year and I now have 40,000 yuan in deposits. In two years, my son will make money after graduating from college. My son and I worked hard to pay for the renewal fee and various fees, so we can move into a new house.
My house is on the 11th floor, the kind with an elevator.
Imagine my son and I living in our own house, eating the food we cook every day, and when he picks up his wife and has children in the future, I will help them take care of the children. Whenever I think of this, I feel full of energy.
The ex-husband works on a construction site. The epidemic has not had much impact on his work. He should have had some savings on hand over the years. He once took the initiative to talk to me about remarriage, saying that he would give me the money after the remarriage, and would pay the renewal fee and other fees together, and live in a new house earlier.
I refused.
