The year I gave birth to my youngest son, my eldest son had just been admitted to university.
So, the eldest son is 20 years older than the younger son.
My husband and I are in business and open a hardware supermarket. Because we have been doing business for a long time, we are also a person with a small savings. So we bought two houses in the city early, and my husband and I were careful to buy a community. What we are afraid of is that in the future, the two daughters-in-law say that we are biased and what are the locations and differences.
After graduating from college, my eldest son brought back his girlfriend, my eldest daughter-in-law.
Because of the professional problems they studied, they have never found a better job.
My husband and I discussed it and decided to give some funds to the two children and let them open a hardware supermarket in the neighboring county closer to the city. My husband also said that he would teach his eldest son step by step to do business so that his eldest son could make money to support his family so that his eldest daughter-in-law had the time and energy to take the exam, so that their wives in the small family would not have to worry about in the future.
My husband worked for the eldest son for more than half a year for free, and followed him to teach his son how to do business step by step. Finally, the eldest son learned almost everything, so he continued to do business in our old store with me at home.
In the past six months, my youngest son and I have to look at the store in our hometown, but also deliver goods. Fortunately, my in-laws can also help see my youngest son who is over 4 years old.
It was also that winter that year, after giving his eldest daughter-in-law a bride gift of 288,800 yuan, the eldest son got married.
Apart from the dowry, the eldest son spent more than 100,000 yuan to get married, in addition to the bride price, the house decoration and other messy things. At the beginning, he gave his eldest son 200,000 yuan to open a store.
In addition to the house I bought early, my husband and I paid more than 600,000 yuan to settle our eldest son.
After my eldest son got married, my husband and I looked at the bank card that was no longer worth tens of thousands of yuan, and then looked at the naughty young son. We know that from today on, we will still earn bride gifts for our young son to get married.
After getting married, the eldest daughter-in-law said she would not have children first and study first.
To be honest, we are quite supportive. After all, if you can find a stable job, it will be of great benefit to your small family.
After their eldest son got married, they rarely went back to us. After all, they also had some business. Besides, since they got married, the parents of the eldest daughter-in-law moved in and lived with them.
The eldest daughter-in-law also has a younger brother, who is 7 years younger than the eldest daughter-in-law. He was expelled from the school when he was in the second year of high school. Therefore, he used his connections to go to the school near his eldest son's house, so it was natural that they all lived together.
The eldest daughter-in-law failed the exam for two years. Later, she said, "Why don't you have a child?" Or, it's not good to have a child when you are older. At this time, her younger brother was admitted to the Vocational and Technical College in the city, and their family still lived together. During
, my eldest son wanted to ask me for the key to another apartment, saying that he would let his father-in-law live in his family first. I didn't agree. I think you have given you that share, this is your younger brother's share, don't worry about things that are not yours.
For this reason, the eldest daughter-in-law seemed not very happy, but she did not show it too much.
I think they plan their lives. After all, I still have a small person who can't help too much, and I don't dare to make too many ideas.
Not long after, the eldest daughter-in-law became pregnant, and our family was very happy.
I gave her 5,000 yuan in nutrition and asked her eldest son to buy her something delicious.
The eldest daughter-in-law took the money and didn't even say thank you. I vaguely feel that I am disgusted with the fact that I have taken less money?
When the eldest daughter-in-law was more than 7 months pregnant, her eldest son came to her home. That day, after lunch, my eldest son hadn't said he had gone back yet, so I asked him why he didn't go back to his store yet?
The eldest son said his father-in-law was helping to watch it, and he wanted to tell me if he had something to do.
What did I ask him? The eldest son then told me, Mom, my wife wants to live in a confinement center. After all, the confinement center is more professional and is good for adults and children. Besides, our students and children are basically the confinement centers that our mother-in-law serves, but they also live in.
I haven't heard anything about it before, so I told him, "You go too, when she is born, I will also serve the confinement period. Isn't this normal?" I have become grandma, so I must go.
But, my son said, the confinement center is 69,000, when will you give it to us?
Hey~ I want me to pay for this confinement center.
I told him, son, you know, you are married and doing business again, your parents are empty, and the business has not been very good in the past two years. Your dad and I have to save some for your brother, and we can't give it to you all. Your brother is less than 8 years old...
Unexpectedly, the eldest son said angrily, "My wife is really talking, you are biased now. I am married, so I don't want to care about us anymore. When she is pregnant, you get 5,000 yuan in nutrition. Are you sending beggars? Now I don’t want to pay the money from the confinement center. You guys tell me to go, but I can’t tell her!
After saying these words, the eldest son glared at the younger son who was playing aside and left without looking back.
Hey...
Later, my husband still gave it to his eldest son with 50,000 yuan. He felt sorry for his parents in the world and always wanted to make him live a better life.
During the confinement period, my eldest son said, "I asked me to give 10,000 yuan in nutrition, and then I stopped serving my daughter-in-law, and let her own mother serve her, and she was caring."
Later, the eldest son said he had no confinement center and was serving him at home. Anyway, I have paid the money, and as for what you do, I can't control it.
They gave birth to a granddaughter, and the little granddaughter was very cute. On the day of the full moon, I bought her a golden lock, but that day, my daughter-in-law said in front of me that I didn’t serve her during the confinement period, so I had to expect her to serve me when I was old. Then she also said, “You have to come here to take care of my children, and I want to study for the exam.”
I told her, your mother lives here, it’s okay to help. Besides, I didn’t serve the confinement period because you didn’t need me. I asked your own mother to serve you with kindness, and I also said that I could just pay. Besides, I paid for the confinement period center, but you didn’t go either.
The eldest daughter-in-law then said angrily, "You are just stingy, the confinement center is 70,000 yuan, how can you go if you only give 50,000 yuan?" Also, my mother also said that you are the boss in business and you need to be decent. She said that you should give a 100,000 integer no matter how you have to. She never thought, just give 50,000, so why are you going?
The eldest daughter-in-law continued, saying, my mother is a relative at her daughter's house, not a nanny, there is a house in the same community, you come here to live and take care of our children. Otherwise, I will take care of my mother-in-law for ten years and ten years to see my daughter-in-law, don't blame me for being unfilial to you in the future.
I said, your brother is only 8 years old, and I will serve you at school, who cares about him? Our family can't live? Are you still doing business?
The eldest daughter-in-law said, I don’t care, don’t always think about your younger son, which mother-in-law doesn’t look at her grandson? Which mother-in-law doesn’t serve her confinement? You're special?
At this time, the eldest son said, "I have already said that I have been in college and you still have to have a second child." Is this good, how much trouble will it delay me?" Originally, the only child was good and could help with anything, but now I have to work hard on my own. Now our business is not enough for our family, and you parents don’t know how to help us.
I was so heartbroken by my eldest son's words.
Since he got married, I tried my best to satisfy them. I am the youngest son, and I have to take care of my youngest son and manage business. I really don’t have any extra time to take care of them, but I asked myself that I have never treated them badly in terms of money.
However, I never thought that as the eldest brother and sister-in-law, I didn’t think about my younger brother at all, and as a son, I didn’t think about my parents at all, I just thought about my parents giving them money to them continuously.
What's wrong with children nowadays? Why do you always think about your parents’ money even though you have an income?
The eldest son’s store earns more than 20,000 yuan a month, so why is it not enough to spend? Why do you still have to worry about the money in my hands?
, this emerging parent-living must be chewed to a low level, but it really makes us parents unable to bear it.
What's more, I have a young son, can we leave our youngest son and just care about you?
is really embarrassing.
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