Last night, due to a war at home, the Sun Exchange was unable to write and post it before 24 o'clock in time, so he had to post it with today's Sun Exchange.
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ The difference is that the elderly think that more snacks should be prepared for their children. Children originally had a lot of appetite, but they almost caught up with an adult. It is not a problem to eat about 10 dumplings at a meal. And during these days at home, he has not had a good meal and only had snacks.
A few days ago, we both discovered this. That day, when Dalin was making a fuss to stop eating and directly shouted for snacks, we didn't compromise and I hid the snacks.
Dalin has been sleeping with his grandparents. The night before yesterday, he woke up at night and was having snacks. Grandpa got up and couldn't find it, so he probably felt angry.
I have cooked these two days and have not cooked the food alone in Dalin. The food is a little salty and spicy. Grandpa found a chance to argue.
Usually in this case, I usually react calmly. On the one hand, my grandfather is in a heavy dialect. Many times he loses his temper and I can't understand it at all. After I understood it, I realized it and continued to say it was not timely, so I basically had no head-on conflict with the old man.
I guess everyone has been holding it at home these days. When the child's father heard these complaints and quarrels from his grandfather, he became very angry. The father and son started a big quarrel.
Of course, the child's father agrees with me and does not advocate letting the child eat too many snacks. The child’s grandfather didn’t give in, thinking that he couldn’t see the child without snacks.
I did not persuade the fight.
In the past, conflicts between children's father and grandmother were also conflicts of various concepts.
I have tried to persuade her several times. If I agree with my husband, my grandmother will compete for a few days and think that we reject her. If it is a child’s grandmother, in most cases, I really can’t agree with the old man’s point of view. Isn’t that against my will? Moreover, if you have different opinions with your husband, will I have another fight with him next?
So to put it bluntly, this is a conflict of inconsistent ideas between the two generations. In our family, this frontal battlefield is usually directly confronted by my husband and his parents. After all, it is him and his parents, and even if the conflict is conflicted, it will pass quickly.
In this way, I would sit quietly and play with my children, and they would continue to quarrel. The child had no idea what was going on and sang happily.
2 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ The tone of these words is exactly the same as Old Chen's usual tone. It's really "like father, like son", it's contained in the genes.
For example, I felt that Lao Chen had not done anything, so he asked him to do it again, so he said, "If you don't want me to do it, then I won't care. Don't ask me to care in the future."
In addition to the chill, I was a little happy. minds floated in my mind, "What is love in the world? It's really a thing that defeats another thing", and "The evil people still need to be polished by the evil people" and other words.
After a while, I heard my grandfather clamoring on the balcony, and Dalin's father was also shouting, "Is this your attitude to solve the problem? At least if you come out, let's discuss face to face together. Children usually eat. There are snacks that are not allowed to be bought, but they need to limit the amount. Snacks cannot be used as staple food."
Then grandpa shouted again, obviously for me. "You said you cook these days, you don't care about Dalin's food, and you don't eat snacks or meals. How can your child live? ”
I said to him, "Dalin will follow us to have dinner, and the kindergarten also eats normally. "
" How do you eat it today? "The child's grandfather shouted.
" Then just make some more food for the child, there is no need to make a noise. ” I continued.
"The rice you cook is really unpalatable. "The child's father suddenly burst into a shock.
"What? What did you say? ” I was also angry.
"The food you cook is unpalatable. "The child's father has already burned the war to me.
"You speak with your conscience! I've cooked these two days, and you said it's delicious, but you're asking for trouble today, right? "I was also furious.
"Yes, The food you cooked today is hard to eat , especially if you added something from your hometown to it, I was completely unaccustomed to it..." The child's father continued to quarrel.
"You can't eat it, but you can say it clearly, don't yell at this and that all day long. He speaks badly, but he doesn't do it himself. "I try my best to suppress the fire.
" So my dad usually cooks salty, I don't say anything, everyone will bear it. If you cook, put the seasonings in your hometown, I can't stand it, and I will bear it. " The child's father continued.
" You endure it, I still endure it , and I only care about my own words. "I don't let it go either.
" I mean my true feelings, I feel uncomfortable and unhappy. now endures , but it's true that I feel uncomfortable and unhappy. "Old Chen continued.
3 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- At that time, when we heard these stories, I felt deeply sympathy for this aunt. She is great, hardworking, kind, and forbearing... In short, she has all virtues, but the people around her are too bad.
and once, the aunt was busy in the kitchen alone, and we chatted with this uncle. I took the opportunity and said, "Uncle, do you think it's not easy for my aunt in this life? "
" is not easy, who is easy? She was too nagging, too muttering, too fond of talking, too accustomed to managing and too controlling..." The uncle also looked at his hardships.
I was really shocked at that time. Originally, in my understanding, my aunt was the big miser of this marriage and this family, the most bitter and the most bitter one, but unexpectedly, the person around her was also full of bitterness.
It turned out that they were all living by endurance.
This time my husband also said, "Don't say it, bear it." Otherwise, otherwise I would have thought that I was the only one who had been enduring some of his problems!
There is no quarrel or communication, and there is no way to know the other party's true thoughts.
4 --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If every reader takes all kinds of scumbags encountered by women in the story, he can always find his own shadow in it, and then starts to cry empathize with , and starts to complain, and so on.
This "tolerant" by Lao Chen really woke me up today. A woman analyzes herself. Sometimes when she feels unfortunate, maybe the man sitting opposite her also has something that he feels unbearable.
is just an emotional article. If you come from a male perspective, you must have someone who is well versed in male psychology. In the general sense, it must be written by a man. Articles from the perspective of
must be less than those from the perspective of women suffering, and their dissemination is naturally not that high. and so many times, as women, we don’t usually pay attention to it, and may ignore this perspective, and actually men really have a lot of ups and downs in their hearts.
It’s really not easy for women, nor for men. Who is easy for them?
all endure and live.
