Gu Jia When he slapped Lin Youyou on the cheek, he never thought that he would have such a bad day. She told Xu Huanshan that she would drive Lin Youyou out of Shanghai because she touched her bottom line.
Xu Huanshan looked aggrieved. He lowered his head and said nothing, but he didn't feel that he had done anything wrong. Instead, he stubbornly said with a grievance: "I'm sorry! I regret it very much and feel guilty. I told her to break up, but she disagrees."
Gu Jia turned around and looked at Xu Huanshan with tears in her eyes.
"What do you mean by saying this to me? Do you want me to help you solve her? Or as before, whenever there are obstacles that you can't overcome in your life, do you want me to help you solve them?"
After saying that, Gu Jia sneered exhausted a few times. She felt like a "clown", but she used the best 10 years in her life to exchange for her husband's "sorry".
Gu Jia couldn't help but burst into tears. At that moment, she found that she didn't understand Xu Huanshan at all. Otherwise, she would not have lived in her fantasy of a beautiful marriage.
"I ask you, how did you start the first time? Did you drink too much?" Gu Jia turned her back, betting on all her dignity, and confirming with Xu Huanshan.
But Xu Huanshan was silent.
"Didn't drink? That's why you are moved by her, right?" Gu Jia looked at Xu Huanshan in disbelief. In order to make Xu Huanshan have always had topics to talk about with her, she never stopped studying even if she was a full-time housewife at home.
Gu Jia thought that as long as he was "useful" to Xu Huanshan, he would be unable to live without him for the rest of his life. So, whether it is a fireworks company, a child’s schooling, or Xu Huanshan’s personal physical condition, Gu Jia cooks very well in every detail.
In the 10 years since his marriage, Gu Jia has worked hard to "keep fresh" his marriage by improving herself, but he never expected that what he got was Xu Huanshan's complaints and betrayal.
Gu Jia can't figure it out. She doesn't know where she did it wrong? I don’t know what went wrong with the beautiful marriage she imagined?
Until the moment of ending the marriage, Gu Jia didn't understand. In fact, Xu Huanshan had never loved him, and he had only full of "desire" for himself.
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In " Thirty Only ", Gu Jia is the only woman Wang Manni has ever envied. Because Gu Jia not only has a husband who loves her and a lovely son, but also has a decent and beautiful big house.
But Gu Jia disagreed. She has been a person who lacks a sense of security since she was a child.
Because of her lack of security, home is not only a house, but also a responsibility and commitment; because of her lack of security, she always feels as dangerous as "the fireworks company is sitting on a fire, medicine, and bucket every day"; because of her lack of security, Gu Jia has been working hard to plan for her life.
But in Xu Huanshan's view, these are invisible pressure.
He questioned Gu Jia:
"Why are you always so aggressive? From love to marriage to entrepreneurship, every step is the decision you make! Have you ever thought about what I am? Your accessory? Or a supporting role in a thousand years? Why do you always look at me with your eyes? He is arrogant? Don't say that you look up to me over the years, I dare not expect you, I don't even look at you! Do I look like a man in front of you? I am not! Xu Ziyan is your youngest son, I am your eldest son , right? "
Gu Jia looked depressed. She looked at Xu Huanshan powerlessly, wanted to cry but forced herself to swallow it.
"You finally told the truth. It was an irreconcilable conflict between us, right? Infidelity is just a form of manifestation. Even without Lin Youyou, we can't survive, right? In this case, let's divorce! For both of us, it's a relief." "
Gu Jia held back her tears until Xu Huanshan pushed the suitcase away, and she burst into tears.
Women always hope to marry a "prince". A pair of unrealistic "crystal shoes", a worthless "pull ring", and a bouquet of " rose " placed in a glass cover can quickly awaken the romantic factors in women's hearts, making them mistakenly think that they have encountered love, but unfortunately fall into the trap of men full of "desire".
Gu Jia is like this.
Her first encounter with Xu Huanshan was in the "Bird's Nest" gymnasium. At that time, Gu Jia, as a volunteer, accidentally knocked down the "firework programmer" Xu Huanshan.
is the same as all idol drama scenes. Because of this "accidentality", Gu Jia became Xu Huanshan's girlfriend. Gu Jia lost her mother in her teenage years and felt no sense of security. She thought Xu Huanshan was down-to-earth and reliable, but never expected that the fireworks that day were really beautiful, but love at that time was not really good.
Because Xu Huanshan is more about "desire" than "love".
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Gu Jia's 30th birthday party, Liang Zhengxian After seeing the dignified, beautiful and intellectual Gu Jia, he praised Xu Huanshan, "You can find such a good wife! It's so enviable!"
Xu Huanshan was complacent and said proudly: "A good woman should marry her and take good care of her. Manni is not a good person, you also have the capital to envy!"
Men know men the best. In a few words, Liang Zhengxian suddenly saw through Gu Jia's position in Xu Huanshan's mind, not a lover, but a "partner".
Although he treats women as "capital" for showing off, he is richer and more brainy than Xu Huanshan, so he does not need a "partner" in the form of marriage at all.
Women are usually "romantic" and "sensual", so they would rather live in their own fantasies than open their eyes and look rationally at the meaning of marriage to men.
Gu Jia is like this. She has always believed that Xu Huanshan only loves her in this life. did not discover that the "love" in Xu Huanshankou was "desire" from the beginning.
Xu Huanshan was able to sit in his seat today and become the independent Mr. Xu, who is inseparable from Gu Jia's efforts. At the beginning, he was just a " programmer " who worked for his boss, and he didn't even have the right to design fireworks himself.
is Gu Jia telling him that people cannot work for others all their lives, and it is Gu Jia who resigned and went home, starting from scratch with him little by little, which allowed him to take his seat today.
If you have a choice, who doesn’t want to be decent and concentrate on doing what you are interested in?
Rather than saying that Gu Jia convinced Xu Huanshan, Xu Huanshan himself was very interested in being a boss. After all, no one is unmoved by the four words "showing the mark"?
It is very different to be a boss and working for others.
Xu Huanshan is a "technical worker". He is not good at management and is not used to talking about business with customers. Therefore, he really needs a "perfect" wife like Gu Jia to help him.
Marrying a wife who can "go to the hall and go to the kitchen" to go home is probably the dream in every man's heart. The same is true for Xu Huanshan. He was very proud of his original choice and had long been used to being a "hands-off boss" and throwing all the problems to Gu Jia.
But life is too smooth, people always like to create some problems themselves.
Xu Huanshan is like this.
Because he has a successful career, what he wants is no longer a wife who "points" to him, but a little woman who can look up to him and admire him.
And Lin Youyou is his new "desire" during this period.
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Xu Huanshan first met Lin Youyou, and was in the amusement park. In order to recover the company's losses, Gu Jia worked hard to get Mrs. Yu and got the fireworks order for the amusement park.
Lin Youyou acted as " accompanying ". After seeing the gentle and handsome Xu Huanshan, he blew " rainbow fart " to him without any qualities.
people like to be praised and looked up to by others, especially men like Xu Huanshan who cannot find a "sense of existence" in front of their wives.
Because he could not find the "sense of existence", Xu Huanshan felt pressure and annoyed with Gu Jia.
He was unwilling to ask Gu Jia to discuss everything first, but he was even more angry. Although he was very talented, he didn't even have the right to choose a customer.
As the saying goes, "A husband and wife work together to break up gold", "a husband and wife fall apart in a new state." Since Xu Huanshan has had a "heart" and has no longer had the patience of the past with Gu Jia.
Especially after meeting Lin Youyou, Xu Huanshan discovered that Gu Jia could no longer satisfy his "desire".
Lin has young, beautiful and full of vitality. When she was with her, Xu Huanshan seemed to have returned to those carefree and green years.
So, he fell.
did not fall into Lin Youyou's "land of gentleness", but fell into his own "desire".
Everyone has their own "desire". Those who can truly achieve "cleanness and nothingness" are all saints. But saints do not often have it, and a life with "desire" is the norm. It’s just that “desire” can be found, but you can’t seek “too full”.
Otherwise, you will be addicted to it and will be difficult to extricate yourself.
Xu Huanshan didn't understand this truth. He walked smoothly all the way, and never thought that one day he would be depressed and lonely. To him, women are nothing more than tools to satisfy their "desire". So I never thought that "tools" would also backfire.
Lin Youyou is unwilling to be Xu Huanshan's "underground lover". She wants to be with Xu Huanshan openly. She said: "Gu Jia is not worthy of your kindness to her at all. I love you, and I gave it to you for the first time! So I won't leave Shanghai!"
Xu Huanshan frowned. At that moment, he finally realized the backlash brought by "desire".
But after Gu Jia learned the truth, he did not intend to forgive Xu Huanshan. Her attitude of insisting on divorce completely made Xu Huanshan panic because he didn't want to divorce at all and did not dare to divorce.
I don’t want to divorce because I still love Gu Jia?
of course not!
Xu Huanshan doesn’t want to get divorced, but it’s also for his own “desire.”
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Gu Jia said she wanted to divorce, but Xu Huanshan disagreed. After learning about Xu Huanshan’s cheating, Gu’s father insisted on him to “divorce”. Xu Huanshan still disagreed and told Gu’s father:
"I will not divorce Gu Jia. The one I love most in my life is Gu Jia. I know you hate me, but there is still Ziyan. Gu Jia lost his mother when he was a teenager. I can’t let my son have no father since he was a child!"
Faced with Lin Youyou's entanglement, Xu Huanshan also said the same thing: "I won’t get divorced. I can’t let my son grow up in a single-parent family without a father."
, is Xu Huanshan really for his son?
of course not! If he really did it for his son, how could he cheat? He doesn't want to get a divorce, he just doesn't want to lose everything.
Xu Huanshan is used to throwing all the problems to Gu Jia. He is not like Liang Zhengxian, who belongs to the one who has the ability. In order to continue to maintain his identity as "General Xu", Xu Huanshan always needs a smart and virtuous wife like Gu Jia.
So, he doesn't want to get a divorce.
But later, something happened to the fireworks factory.
Xu Huanshan was panicked and had no mind or ability to deal with the company's problems. This time, although Gu Jia helped him cook everything without grudges, Xu Huanshan still lost everything.
At that moment, he finally understood that some things in were destined to bear by themselves, and no one could help him all the time.
is considered growth and also a discovery of conscience. That's why Xu Huanshan said "divorce" to Gu Jia after the dust settled.
