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Before it was time to get off work, Jiang Yan sneaked out of the work unit and rode her little electric donkey to the vegetable market.
Today is Jiang’s mother’s 60th birthday. Originally, Jiang Yan had planned to book a table at a restaurant so that the family could celebrate. But the old lady refused to give in, saying that a meal in a restaurant would cost at least several hundred, and it would be more economical to buy groceries and cook them at home.
Jiang Yan didn’t want to make the old lady unhappy, so she had to do as she was told.
Jiang Yan rode a small electric donkey through the vegetable market. After a while, she bought two large bags full of ingredients, and she swayed towards her parents' home.
On the way, she thought about it. The fish was made into sweet and sour food, which her son loved to eat; the shrimp was made into spicy food, and her younger brother Jiang Hao liked it. In addition, there were sweet and sour pork , braised eggplant etc. prepared for her mother.
Thinking this, she speeded up. She was afraid that she would not have enough time if she went late.
As soon as she entered the house, Jiang's mother came over with a smile and took the two large bags of ingredients from Jiang Yan's hand. As she walked towards the kitchen, she babbled: "I bought so much, can I finish it?"
Jiang Yan asked casually: "Where's Zhang Jing, has she come back?"
Jiang's mother kept eating the food one after another. Taking the materials out, he replied: "There is something very important in Zhang Jing's company. I'm afraid I won't be able to come back too early today. I'll give you some help. Let's do it quickly!"
Jiang Yan was immediately unhappy. Wife's? My mother-in-law didn't buy or cook any food for her birthday, so we just talked to each other.
Yesterday morning, Zhang Jing said it more beautifully than she sang: Sister, I will take a day off tomorrow, and we will go shopping and cook together at home. It will be lively and clean. But in the evening, she called and said she couldn't go shopping for groceries. It's better now, she doesn't even do it anymore.
Seeing that Jiang Yan's expression was wrong, Jiang's mother quickly smoothed things over: Zhang Jing is busy with work, we are all a family, there is no need to worry so much, peace is still the most important thing.
While cooking, Jiang Yan's displeasure increased.
Because Jiang Ma said that the fish should be made into pickled fish , and the shrimp should be made into boiled shrimp because Zhang Jing likes to eat it.
At that moment, Jiang Yan wanted to throw away the spatula. She didn't understand why her mother seemed to change as soon as Zhang Jing came in, trying to please her daughter-in-law, making it seem as if her daughter-in-law was not her biological child.
Zhang Jing didn't enter the door until all the dishes were served. Jiang's mother quickly pulled out a chair for her and asked Jiang Yan to get her tableware. She also fawningly served her food and asked her if she was tired and if she was hungry.
Zhang Jing took out her birthday gift, which was a woolen sweater. Mother Jiang took it with a smile on her face and immediately went to the house to put it on. She also exaggerated that Jing had a good eye for it and she liked the color and style very much.
Jiang Yan was even more unhappy. How much could a torn woolen sweater be worth? She bought Jiang's mother a big gold bracelet, but she didn't seem so happy either.
But today was the old lady’s birthday. She didn’t want to make her unhappy, so she still pretended to smile.
02
Jiang Yan became very angry when she mentioned her mother's attitude towards Zhang Jing. Jiang Ma raised Zhang Jing too high, even several times higher than her biological daughter.
Last year, when her son was promoted to junior high school, Jiang Yan wanted to change to a school district room. But the old house couldn't be sold for a while, so she wanted to go to Jiang's mother to save some money first, and then pay her back once the house was sold.
Jiang Yan knew that Jiang's mother had money. Not to mention her previous savings, the funeral and pension funds she received when her father died alone amounted to more than 100,000 yuan. She is her biological daughter, and her mother will definitely not refuse to borrow it.
But the facts were a slap in the face. Jiang Ma hesitated and said that the money had been deposited regularly, and it would be a pity to withdraw it now and lose the interest.
Jiang Yan's face suddenly changed: "That's just a little interest. The price of a room in the school district is one per day. The price increase is much higher than your interest. If you feel sorry for it, I will pay you the interest."
See Jiang Yan got angry, and Jiang's mother said awkwardly that she had to discuss this matter with Jiang Hao and his wife.
After returning home, Jiang Yan became angrier as she thought about it. She understood what her mother meant. She said she was discussing it with Jiang Hao and his wife, but she was actually afraid that Zhang Jing would have any objections.
Jiang Yan didn't understand. It wasn't Zhang Jing's money. Why couldn't Jiang's mother make the decision on her own money? What's more, she borrowed it, but it's not like she wouldn't pay it back.
Jiang Yan felt really uncomfortable when Mother Jiang treated Zhang Jing as an ancestor and suppressed her biological daughter in every possible way.
The next day, Jiang’s mother called Jiang Yan and asked her to go there.
In front of Jiang's mother, Zhang Jing handed her a bank card: "Sister, there are one hundred thousand yuan here, which is mother's pension money. You can use it to buy a house. Mother said, I don't need the interest, just take it as It's our support."
Although she got the money, Jiang's mother was not so harsh as to ask for interest, but Jiang Yan felt as if a big lemon had been stuffed into her heart, and it was extremely sour.
As a biological daughter, if she borrowed some money from her biological mother, she had to go through her sister-in-law, and she had to accept her as a big favor.
What Zhang Jing said was there. She didn't understand that "we" had separated her, her biological daughter, into an outsider.
Not long after, Jiang Yan sold the old house and returned the money to Zhang Jing.
Since then, she has greatly reduced the frequency of visiting Mother Jiang. They are a family, and her married daughter will not be annoying.
03
The Mid-Autumn Festival arrived soon. Jiang Yan bought good mooncake gift boxes, fresh fruits and seafood in advance, and took her son to see Jiang's mother.
Seeing that her eldest grandson was so precious, Mother Jiang quickly opened the mooncakes bought by Jiang Yan, washed the apples and grapes, brought them to her eldest grandson, and lovingly touched his head: "Studying too hard makes the child lose weight. Eat quickly."
Jiang Yan put the seafood and meat she bought into the refrigerator one by one, and accidentally saw dragon fruit and sunshine rose in the refrigerator.
Jiang Yan's heart was stung again. There were fruits that her son loved to eat in the refrigerator, but she was reluctant to take them out as a grandmother. Is this baby just a name she used on her lips?
Jiang Yan was stunned for a moment.
At this moment, her son suddenly appeared behind her. Jiang Yan's heart tightened and she quickly closed the refrigerator door.
This action obviously means that there is no silver in this place, and the son's little face was instantly covered with a cloud. He didn't say anything, he just said lightly, "Grandma asked you to eat moon cakes."
Jiang Yan felt very uncomfortable. Her mother was not like this before. Especially when her father was still there, the old couple regarded their eldest grandson as a very important person.
At that time, Jiang’s father and Jiang’s mother still lived in their hometown in the countryside. Every weekend, Jiang Yan would take her son to visit them. Jiang's mother wanted to dig deep and bring out all the good things she could think of at home to reward her precious grandson.
But since her father passed away, Jiang Ma came to live in the city, and her younger brother married Zhang Jing, Jiang Ma seemed to be a different person. She tried her best to please Zhang Jing. It was made as if Zhang Jing was her biological daughter, and her biological daughter became an outsider.
It’s okay if Mother Jiang treats her badly. After all, she is her biological mother and she should be filial. But Jiang Yan couldn't stand treating her son like this.
Children in adolescence are so psychologically sensitive. He can definitely feel his grandmother's attitude towards him before and now.
Jiang Yan couldn't bear to let her baby son suffer a little harm.
Jiang Yan decided to have a good talk with Jiang's mother. Even if she pretended, she had to be nicer to her son. Isn't it just a bit of fruit? She would rather make up for it ten to eight times later than to have the son she held dear in her heart suffer such neglect.
04
Although Jiang Yan had paid great attention to her wording, Jiang Ma still felt uneasy on her face. I secretly hid good things from my grandson, and then my daughter brought them out openly and put them on the table. It would be embarrassing for anyone else.
Mother Jiang calmed down and sighed: "My own grandson, can I not feel pain? It's just that those things were bought by Zhang Jing for her girl. She was not at home, so I took her things. It's not appropriate, we don't lack the stutter, and I don't want to make it unpleasant."
It's Zhang Jing again! Jiang Yan is really speechless. We are all a family. The things we buy home and put in the refrigerator are just for food. If we can distinguish them so clearly, can we still be a family?
Thinking of this , Jiang Yan said angrily: "Mom, is there anyone like you who can be a mother-in-law? To hold my daughter-in-law in such high esteem is to pamper her too much. If she knows it's okay, otherwise she will ride on your neck one day. "
Jiang's mother gave Jiang Yan a deep look: "No, Zhang Jing is not that kind of person. If I treat her better, she will treat Guangguang and your brother better. Second marriage is not easy. Do you still remember how your brother got divorced? "
Of course Jiang Yan remembers it.
At that time, her father was still there, and her ex-sister-in-law Li Ping was working in the county. Jiang Hao and his wife lived with their parents in their hometown.
Jiang Hao was working in the city. When it was windy or rainy or when he was working overtime, he would live in the company. Sometimes he would go back once every three to five days, and sometimes it would be difficult to go back only once every ten and a half months.
Li Ping asked Jiang Hao to quit his job and go back to the county town to work. Either she quit her job and came to the city to buy a house and settle down, but what about Jiang Hao? Neither agreed.
As a result, Jiang Hao and Li Ping divorced due to conflicts between husband and wife.
Later, Jiang's father died of a cerebral hemorrhage. Jiang Yan and Jiang Hao were not worried about Jiang's mother living alone, so they sold the house. The house in my hometown is in the city
Later, Zhang Jing took her daughter to form a family of four with Jiang Hao and his son Guangguang.
Jiang Yan replied: "They divorced because of their own relationship problems. What does it have to do with you? "
Jiang Ma sighed: "There are some things that Mom didn't want to make you unhappy, so she didn't tell you..."
05
Jiang Hao and Li Ping divorced. Although it was mainly their own fault, it was not related to Jiang's father, Jiang's mother or even Jiang. Yandu is certain
When Li Ping first came in, Jiang’s mother had a good relationship with her, but as time went by, there was no chance that the pots, pans, and spoons would not collide with each other. However, Jiang Hao spent less time at home, and the relationship between them was missing. It made me a little stiff.
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Jiang's mother believed that the old couple had helped their son start a family, so they should spend their old age in peace. Even though Li Ping's company was so busy, they were unwilling to do anything except take their eldest grandson to school.
Li Ping was often the one who helped. When I came back from get off work, I couldn't even drink hot water from the cold pot and stove. There was a pile of dirty clothes in the house. The child was watching TV while the old couple went to dance in the square.
For a while, Li Ping's mother-in-law was hospitalized, and Li Ping was exhausted from all the work. Jiang's mother was not satisfied with her, so she not only looked on with cold eyes, but also even ignored her. I forgot all about the etiquette of visiting the hospital.
Jiang Ma later thought, maybe from that time on, Li Ping's heart dropped.
Every time Jiang Yan went there, Jiang's mother wanted to show her heart to her daughter. This made Li Ping feel even more uncomfortable, and she didn't look good towards Jiang Yan.
Ping dared to sneer at the daughter she held in her hand. Jiang Ma didn't say anything, but her opinion of her was even more intense in her heart. Big, this formed a vicious cycle.
When Jiang Hao came back, the couple quarreled. Jiang's mother openly tried to stop the fight, but in fact, she was favoring her son. Women should be more considerate of Jiang Hao's hard work outside. Putting your husband first, etc.
The intensification of conflicts started with Li Ping. Please give Jiang Hao a choice between returning to work or going to the city to buy a house.
Jiang Hao disagrees with both of these points. Besides, people are going to higher places, and the city is always better. There are many opportunities in the county.
Jiang Hao also does not agree to move his family to the city. His parents are old and do not want to leave their lives. They have only one son, so he has to consider them.
Seeing that his son is on his side, Jiang Ma is even more fearless and firmly disagrees with either of Li Ping's two decisions. Ping thought that the whole family was working together to bully her, so she filed for divorce in anger.
06
After Jiang Hao's divorce, Jiang's mother thought that it would not be difficult to remarry based on her son's appearance and conditions.
After going around in circles for more than two years, Jiang Hao still couldn't find a woman who could accept his half-grown man and live with his parents. Li Ping, on the other hand, remarried not long after.
It was not until after buying a house in the city that Jiang Hao found Zhang Jing, who was also divorced, and formed a new family.
After so many things, Jiang Ma finally reflected. If she hadn't been so cold and biased in favor of her children, maybe Jiang Hao wouldn't have divorced. She did not deliberately sow discord between their husband and wife, but she inadvertently became the catalyst that accelerated the disintegration of Jiang Hao's marriage.
Jiang Yan never knew that Jiang's mother hid so many things in order not to affect her mood. No wonder Li Ping was lukewarm every time she saw her. At that time, her parents loved and protected her, and they didn't take her seriously at all.
Jiang Ma peeled an orange and handed it to Jiang Yan: "My daughter, how can I not love you? I have to take Zhang Jing's feelings into consideration. If I treat you a little more, you won't abandon me, and open Jing is different.
If I treat her better and hold her up higher, she will treat Jiang Hao, Guangguang and you better, and our family will be more harmonious. Do you think so? "
Jiang Yan already agreed with her mother's statement in her heart, but she still said harshly: "You said it so nicely. If you put me down and praise her, there won't be any problems with her relationship with Jiang Hao. "
Jiang? Mom smiled: "I dare not say whether it is good or not, but it won't be worse."
This is indeed the case. Jiang Yan remembered that Zhang Jing's attitude towards her was indeed much better than Li Ping's towards her.
During this summer vacation, Zhang Jing was worried that she was busy with work, so she took the initiative to take her son over to live with her. Her son has lived in her house for more than half a month. She treats her three children equally and has never neglected her son.
Also, every time Zhang Jing goes on a business trip or travels, she will bring some souvenirs or small gifts to Jiang Yan. Although it doesn't cost much, it always makes people feel warm.
Now that I think about it, this is mostly due to Jiang Ma.
A month later, one of Jiang Yan's best friends came to complain to her, saying that her parents were having a huge quarrel with her brother and sister-in-law because they secretly subsidized her money. Jiang Yan was extremely lucky that Jiang's mother did handle the matter of borrowing money well.
Zhang Jing also said that she is not greedy for any of Jiang's mother's money. Except for old age, no matter how much money is left in the future, Jiang Yan will have a share.
Jiang Yan felt that it was Jiang's mother's credit that her sister-in-law could treat her like this.
Whether a family is harmonious or not, to put it bluntly, depends on the balance of relationships between people. When you are mentally balanced, you will be more comfortable getting along with each other. This is not about fussing over things, but the need to be valued and respected.
