The little girl seemed to be in a good mood. After saying hello to me, she grabbed my wife's arm and shouted "Auntie, Auntie", as if she had been smeared with honey.
My husband and I both like this child very much. He is well-behaved, sensible and not coy. He grew up in a store. He is generous, sweet-talking and polite.
"Uncle, why do you want to go to college?"
She asked so confusedly that I was a little confused and didn't know where to start.
"Why do you ask this?"
I decided to use defense as offense and explore the child's mind first.
"Look at my dad and my mom. Ever since the results of the college entrance examination came out, every day has been like taking a stimulant. They used to bicker and quarrel occasionally, but now they have become 'respecting each other as guests, and raising eyebrows together'! It's fun all day long." "I can't close my mouth, is it so exaggerated?"
I imagined the happy couple with their eyes wide open, and couldn't help but smile at each other.
"Actually, I am the only child of my parents. Now it seems that I have basically decided to go to college elsewhere. This will take several years. Although I can come back during the winter and summer vacations, after all, I can't stay for a long time. Then I will be left at home. When the two of them quarrel, they won't even be able to stop each other!"
The child felt a little sad when he said this, and his eyes that were shining with joy just now were a little red.
"Silly boy, don't think too much. They may quarrel and quarrel after you leave. Besides, quarreling and bickering is also a way for them to get along with each other. Have you not seen that some couples fight and fight all their lives? They open their mouths to divorce but shut their mouths to give in. The other person is going to die, and the whole life is full of chaos and uneasiness. It’s not like a lifetime has passed! In the end, he lived in the same quilt and died in the same hole, and it ended well.”
It’s rare for a wife to give long speeches to comfort her children.
"But will they be disappointed when I leave? If I am far away, I don't have the conditions to be filial to them!"
"They will definitely be disappointed at first. Just like in our family, your brother and sister passed the exam, and we have been at odds for a long time. Time, but awkwardness is awkward. We understand that when children grow up, we should let them go out and explore, broaden their horizons, gain knowledge, and learn skills. Our previous generation has the way of life of the previous generation, and your next generation will have the same way of the next generation. What's the point of always keeping your children close to you when you're working? As for filial piety, let your uncle talk about it. He is a filial son and has the most say. "
My wife was confused and kicked the ball to me.
"As for filial piety, although it is sooner rather than later, some people say that 'a son wants to be filial but does not treat his relatives' is the greatest tragedy in life, but don't forget, there is another saying that is also very good, that is, ' Hundreds of good filial piety is First , when it comes to heart but not ability, there is no filial son in a poor family. In other words, filial piety depends more on attitude. Of course, actions are also very important. "
" But how should we treat 'filial piety'? What's the matter? I wonder if you have ever heard of the saying, "Thirty years ago, the father respected the son, and thirty years later, the son respected the father." Also, "The mother is valued by the son, and the father is honored by the son." This can give parents psychological The comfort in the world is also a kind of filial piety. And Chinese parents value this form of filial piety more. "
I calmed down my thoughts and took the opportunity to organize my words.
"Your dad said that after you finished the exam, you binge-watched TV dramas at home. Have you watched this year's popular TV series " Human World "?"
"Not yet. I have nothing to do. My parents won't let me do anything. Damn it, I just watched dramas when I was bored. My dad was so annoying. He said that I binge-watched dramas like crazy. How could it be that exaggerated? "
" I don't know if it's an exaggeration or not. Anyway, it shouldn't be that you often stay up until twelve o'clock at night. Fake. "
" That's true. I was watching an online drama, and it seemed like I was addicted. After watching each episode, it was already midnight before I knew it. I didn't pay attention to my schedule because I didn't have anything to do the next day. ."
" There are too many good habits. There are only two kinds of habits that cannot be developed. One is the habit that hinders others, and the other is the habit that cannot be developed. In addition to these two habits, the more other habits the better. "
" I can still remember this. Uncle, you are so amazing. No wonder my dad said you have a good brain and a photographic memory. "
" There is no such thing as a photographic memory. It's just about studying more. This is not the point. What I mean is that it is not easy to develop a good habit, but it is easy to change this good habit. As the saying goes, 'Learn it well. It's easy to learn bad things and slip away'"
"I know about uncle. From now on, I will pay attention to strengthen self-management, at least try to go to bed on time and have a reasonable schedule. "
" Let's continue talking about 'filial piety'. "
" According to the father in the play, there are two kinds of filial piety, one is to nourish the mouth and body, and the other is to nourish the mind. To nourish the body is to stay with the parents, to take care of their parents' daily life, to take care of their food, drink, and toilet, and to protect the health and safety of the parents. This is a form of filial piety; to nourish the mind is to let the fish jump in the sea and the birds in the sky. Fly, go out and make a career, open up a world, win the respect of others and a prominent social status, which is what people call success and fame, make your parents proud of you, feel proud among familiar people, and feel comfortable. This is also a form of filial piety. "
"Then should I nourish my body or my mind? Why is "
" a multiple-choice question? Isn’t it possible to have both? How can "
" be balanced? I can't take my parents to school. It's not certain who will take care of whom then. What about the family business? We can’t really stop, the family can’t have no income! "
" Wife, look at this kid, he's so silly watching dramas that he's become a stick! "
" Don't talk nonsense. Our children are smart, but you are hiding everything. You keep half of what you say and keep half of it. It's not pleasant at all, and you even laugh at our children! "
My wife punched me lightly and touched the child's head. Motherly love overflowed.
"Okay! "
In front of my wife, I am so majestic.
"You can nourish your mind first, and then your mouth and body. Now your parents are still young and busy with business. You don't need to be around to take care of them, so you can go to school with peace of mind. You see how happy your parents are these days, and they can wake up happily when they sleep. This is to nourish the mind. After a few years, when you have learned a lot, are full-fledged, and have the ability and conditions to take care of your parents, you can return to your parents or take your parents to you according to the situation. At that time, you can take care of yourself and your body. Although your parents You are just a daughter, who says that a child cannot nourish both the mind and body! Remember, filial piety is mainly about intention! "
"I understand, my parents grew up with me, and I grew up with my parents. I must first learn skills, enhance my abilities, and strengthen myself, so that I can have the ability and conditions to take care of and be filial to my parents in the future. "
" Look, my wife, this child is suddenly smart again and can answer questions quickly! "
The child hugged my wife and we both giggled together.
"So, to sum up, stop laughing and be serious, we are giving lectures here! To summarize, at first you asked why you went to college. Do you understand now? "
" I understand, uncle, this seems to be your experience. I seem to have heard my dad say that you and your aunt gave up your career in Beijing and were transferred back to your hometown to take care of your elderly grandparents. Dad said you have made a great sacrifice and are a person worthy of our respect. "
" is not that high-sounding, it is just the responsibility that children should bear. Your grandparents are not used to the climate in Beijing and are not used to the environment there, so your aunt and I transferred back. Your grandparents are old, right. For them, being a happy family together is more important than anything else. I don’t deny that this is my filial piety. "
"I also want to learn from my uncles and aunties and be a filial person. "
" Good boy, filial piety is important, but the top priority before you now is to study hard, learn knowledge, develop skills, and strengthen your abilities.Otherwise, filial piety is just an empty talk. When the time comes, you won’t be able to stand on your own, you won’t be able to take care of yourself, and you will have to eat your old age, so how can you talk about filial piety! "
" Yes, study hard, make progress every day, build a kingdom, and be filial to your parents. "
The child playfully performed a nondescript military salute, which made my wife and I laugh.
