Harbin, my classmate Wang Dahai has been very depressed these two days.
His family lives in Jiangbei. The couple works both jobs. The child wants to go to elementary school, so he brought his old mother to Harbin to live with him and watch his grandson go to school.
His house is 140 meters long and has three bedrooms and two living rooms. However, his mother said that it was too hot to live upstairs. She wanted to rent a house with a garden on the first floor for easy access. His mother would pay for it herself. His mother is a township teacher and has a good retirement salary.
Actually, Dahai knew that his mother was a relatively honest person and his wife was also impatient.
After getting married, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law never stayed together. They had no common language and could not speak more than a few sentences.
Dahai knew that her mother rented a place on the first floor to avoid trouble when living together in the future, which would be convenient for everyone.
So, he wanted to rent a first-floor apartment to his mother.
But this idea was opposed by my wife: renting a house would cost 20,000 yuan a year, so it would be better to live in our garage!
Dahai became anxious when he heard this: Why don’t you let your mother live in the garage?
As a result, the two did not speak for several days.
A few days later, my wife took it upon herself to decorate the garage magnificently. Kitchen, bathroom, toilet...
It turned out that the daughter-in-law convinced the old lady, and the old lady agreed. This would save money and keep cool.
spent more than 20,000 yuan on the decoration, and the old lady also contributed more than 10,000 yuan.
The old lady said: Spending rent money on decoration is not a waste after all!
Dahai saw that things had come to this, so he could only reluctantly agree.
My mother lives in the garage on the first floor. Although it doesn't sound good, the old lady is very satisfied. Sometimes she coaxes her children on the first floor, and it is convenient to get in and out.
But the good times did not last long. My sister came to Harbin to visit her mother. She was very anxious when she saw her mother living in the garage!
On that day, Sister Dahai scolded him and his wife: You have lost your conscience! You let an old lady take care of your children, and you let her live in the garage!
The old lady has now been forcibly taken away by her sister.
Before leaving, his sister also said: The garage is not ventilated. One day I will suffocate in there. Let me see how you explain it!
Currently, there is no one to take care of Dahai’s child, and the relationship between his wife and sister is at loggerheads!
Many elderly people are willing to live on the first floor
I think that for the elderly, a well-decorated garage on the first floor with complete appliances is really more comfortable than living upstairs. The weather is good, so you can go out to bask in the sun and go out at any time. , it is also convenient to move around.
In our community, many elderly people have converted their garages into houses. The rooms have water, electricity, bathrooms, and kitchens, which I think is quite good.
The daughter-in-law’s filial piety is worthy of recognition.
There is nothing to say about the idea that the daughter-in-law wants to take over her mother-in-law, who lives alone, to take care of her grandson.
As long as the old man is willing, there is nothing picky about it. By the way, you can take care of the elderly and get the best of both worlds.
Besides, the garage is also well decorated.
Yes, the daughter-in-law should discuss it with her mother-in-law's family. After all, it doesn't sound good to live in a warehouse.
The attitude of the eldest aunt is understandable.
Dahai said that before his sister left, she got angry with his wife: This garage is for your wife to live in when she gets old! You all will get old one day...
I think everyone looks at things differently. My eldest aunt lives in the countryside and cannot accept her mother moving to the city to live in a garage. This is normal.
Our parents raised us and gave us the best living conditions and materials they could. When we were old, I even arranged for them to live in a garage and take ten thousand steps back. Even if they were willing, we were not willing.
But in fact, in many families, if there is no first floor, the garage is also an option...
Everyone has different ideas. Regarding this kind of thing, I am still in favor of it, and the other half are against it.
Author's point of view: Filial piety depends on the situation
My father-in-law and mother-in-law live in the countryside. Previously, I wanted them to move to the city to live with us, but they were not used to it and were unwilling.
So, I built a 100-square-meter new house for them in the countryside.
They are happy and we have peace of mind.
I think filial piety depends on one's financial ability. As long as the elderly live happily, it doesn't matter where they live.
However, to be honest, I still feel that I cannot accept the practice of letting the elderly (parents or other parents) live in the garage!
When my father-in-law comes to our house, I always give him the bedroom on the sunny side and drive my son to the bedroom on the north side!
In short, the south-facing bedroom has good light, which is good for the elderly!
My wife’s opinion: It’s okay to live in a garage.
My wife said that if you put the car in, it’s called a garage. If you don’t put the car, it’s a house on the first floor!
My daughter-in-law’s intentions are very good. It’s enough for the old man to like it himself. What does it matter to others?
I will also be a mother-in-law in the future. I would rather live in a renovated garage than live upstairs with my son and daughter-in-law, which is inconvenient!
The old man likes to live alone. Moreover, the wife here has decorated the garage better than her home. Why can't she accept it?
Even if the decoration is average, there is nothing to say. Depending on the economic conditions, if you are willing to take your mother-in-law to live there, it is already quite good!
It’s normal to look at your grandson.
Advantages and Disadvantages of Living in a Garage
The author believes that many elderly people in the city find it inconvenient to go upstairs, so many people convert their garages into studio apartments with separate bedrooms, bathrooms, and kitchen and activity rooms.
It is clean and convenient for the elderly to live here.
For the elderly, they are quite happy. Although living in a garage doesn’t sound good.
My neighbor is an old man who likes to live in the garage on the first floor without having to climb stairs.
During the day, if they wanted to go upstairs, she would tell them in advance if they wanted to have dinner with their children.
If they don't want to, the couple will cook it themselves, and the children will cut the fruit and give it to them.
No one thought there was anything wrong with it, and no one said they were unfilial.
The old man said that living in a garage has its own space and allows for more freedom, which is thousands of times better than living together and causing conflicts.
I think that living in a garage does have advantages, but it also has disadvantages.
After all, there is a difference between a garage and a house on the first floor. The biggest problem with a garage is that it has no windows and no ventilation. Once a gas leak occurs, it is not safe. What do you think about
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