2009, as the "No. 1 Men's Table Tennis" at that time, Ma Lin said:
"I don't know if I register, I will be considered getting married"
If this sentence is said from a child, someone might believe it, but if this sentence is said from a 39-year-old man, then maybe no one except himself will believe it.
However, at this time, Ma Lin's mother stood up and said:
"Ma Lin is too simple. He doesn't know that registration is considered getting married. He thought that it is like his hometown, and it takes a banquet to be considered getting married."
actually as an adult, he still knows this most basic legal knowledge. As for why Ma Lin said this, the key point is.
And his mother's kindness pushed him to the forefront.
Previously, Ma Lin won the 2000 World Cup championship, Athens Olympics doubles championship, and Beijing Olympic men's team champion, men's singles championship and other honors.
But now, because of an actress named Zhang Ningyi , her career has suffered an unprecedented public opinion crisis.
In order to calm this "farce", Ma Lin finally decided to share nearly 10 million of assets to Zhang Ningyi. The marriage lawsuit that had been in stalemate for nearly two years was finally brought to an end.
However, many people found that after the divorce, Ma Lin not only had her career declined, but her weight also increased by 12 kilograms in a short period of time. What did Ma Lin, who was questioned during the divorce, experience?
It has been 13 years since the two divorced. Looking back, I realized that Ma Lin’s decisive choice was the best ending for both parties.
01
1986, the head teacher handed Ma Lin's mother a notice, saying that she wanted Ma Lin to learn table tennis.
Ma Lin's mother took a look and threw it away. She felt that being an athlete was too hard, and Ma Lin was young at that time, so she was afraid that he would not be able to withstand it.
Little did not know that this notice was handed over by Chinese table tennis coach Yang Shenli to the head teacher to Ma Lin’s parents.
Yang Shenli, who was waiting for Jiayin at home, waited for Ma Lin to report, so he took the initiative to go to Ma Lin's house to ask what was going on.
Ma Lin's mother explained:
"We are discussing, I have to ask my father."
Ma Lin's parents then hurriedly ran to ask Ma Lin's grandfather, "Dad, do you think it's a matter of letting Ma Lin play table tennis, or not?"
"Go, it's okay to exercise your body."
Grandpa's age has suffered all kinds of hardships, but it's not good now. I think it's a good thing to let your children suffer a little, and they can also develop a good habit of enduring hardships.
The next day, Ma Lin's parents took 6-year-old Ma Lin to report.
On the same day, Yang Shenli asked Ma Lin to take the racket. His posture was not very standard, but the talent he showed after a little training made Yang Shenli convinced that this was a very good seedling and he didn't miss it at the beginning.
Ma Lin's first touch of the ball was like a genius swordsman getting the sword, and his encounter with Yang Shenli was like a meeting between Qianli Horse and Bo Le.
He fell in love with table tennis.
From that moment on, the name Ma Lin was destined to be a brilliant stroke in the table tennis world.
Since Ma Lin started studying with Yang Shenli, Ma Lin's family has also begun to pay attention to table tennis. Every time Ma Lin comes home after studying, she can always see her parents sitting on a chair watching table tennis competition.
Maybe at that time they thought to themselves that if Ma Lin could stand in such a field in the future, no matter how much effort he put in, it would be worth it.
Once, Ma Lin's mother was watching the table tennis game. She pointed to Jiang Jialiang , who was using the straight board playing style, and said to Ma Lin:
"Look at him, you must be like him in the future."
"Well, I admire you very much, I believe I can do it in the future."
At that moment, Ma Lin was full of fighting spirit. He secretly decided that he must learn from his idol, so since then, Ma Lin began to specialize in straight board playing style, and his skills became better and better.
At this time, Zhang Ningyi, who is also in Liaoning, has just turned 4 years old. She has loved art since she was a child and has already started to learn dance and performance.
For Zhang Ningyi, she hopes to become an excellent actor in the future. She never thought of becoming a couple with table tennis, nor did she think of becoming a husband and wife with the world champion.
But before Zhang Ningyi, Ma Lin actually had a relationship with the "national table tennis goddess" Baiyang .
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1994, 14-year-old Ma Lin participated in the national youth table tennis competition. Eight years of practice allowed him to win repeatedly and finally won the first men's singles championship in his life.
At this time, Ma Lin's excellent performance was seen by Cai Zhenhua, the head coach of the national table tennis men's team at that time.
Cai Zhenhua made a quick decision and wanted to recruit Ma Lin into the national team.
Maybe Cai Zhenhua didn't expect that the card he got in will play in an era in the history of the Chinese table tennis team in the future.
After joining the national team, Ma Lin, who is training seriously, does not know that the family has undergone earth-shaking changes.
Ma Lin's parents were laid off for some reasons in the second year after Ma Lin joined the national team.
In order to prevent Ma Lin from worrying about his family, they decided to hide it from him.
So the couple looked for people to borrow money everywhere and raised tens of thousands of yuan to start a business. During those years, the couple almost started from scratch and ran a restaurant from early to late.
did not tell Ma Lin about these things until she paid off her debts.
At that moment, he was in a complicated mood and could not imagine how his parents survived these years.
Fortunately, everything is getting better now.
But in Ma Lin's heart, he always felt that he was in debt to his parents and was not around when they needed him, so he secretly decided that he would let his parents live a good life in the future.
1997, Ma Lin, who was only 17 years old, participated in the World Table Tennis Championships , but lost to in the third round of men's singles to to Samsonov .
The road ahead is still long and more effort is needed.
At that time, Ma Lin had been training in the national team for nearly four years. At a young age, he didn't know what love was, nor did he think about falling in love.
Because in the national team, it is strictly forbidden to fall in love between players.
But at this time, a girl named Bai Yang was selected into the national team.
2000, when Ma Lin won the World Cup championship, his era had already arrived, and his championships were all on the way.
You should know that Ma Lin was just 20 years old at that time. Not only was she a handsome guy, but she also had many honors. Any girl would inevitably be attracted to such a boy.
And the poplars were not bad at that time. They were in their prime. Not only were they good at playing table tennis, but they were also known as the number one beauty in the women's team.
The two people who often train together gradually developed a different feeling.
But as a boy, Ma Lin seems more proactive.
"I like you, can you be a girlfriend?" Ma Lin still couldn't help but confess her love to her.
"No". Although Bai Yang also admires Ma Lin in her heart, it is not that she is unwilling to be with Ma Lin, but she dares not. The team's regulations make her afraid, and once she is discovered, she will be severely punished.
However, soon after, Bai Yang finally failed to resist Ma Lin's pursuit and decided to be with him, but the agreement could not be made known to others.
In 2003, in order to prepare for the Athens Olympics, the team began to rectify the phenomenon of secretly falling in love.
In fact, in addition to Bai Yang and Ma Lin, there are also Wang Hao and Fan Ying , Hou Yingchao and Li Nan and , all of them were secretly dating. However, as the most dazzling Ma Lin in the team at that time, it was easier to see.
Because the players often compete together, as long as Ma Lin and Bai Yang are divided into a group, Ma Lin will perform abnormally.
Maybe it's because I want to show it in front of my lover, but in the end it's not worth the money.
But as long as Ma Lin changes her partner or plays by herself, she can perform stably.
coach discovered the clues. In order to completely rectify the phenomenon of falling in love between players, Ma Lin and Wang Hao were left behind as seed players at the Athens Olympics, and the other four were all fired and returned to the provincial team.
In fact, Bai Yang was also very strong at that time, but when he decided to be with Ma Lin, he was destined to be this ending. Fortunately, she later married a wealthy businessman and now she lives a happy life.
But Ma Lin is not so lucky. The rings of history are about to let him and Zhang Ningyi meet.
His career is about to face huge challenges.
03
In 2004, the Shenyang Cultural and Sports Department organized a party of celebrities from Shenyang. At that time, Zhang Ningyi had already become famous for participating in "The Legend of General Yang" and then serving as the host of "Happy Supermarket".
Not to mention Ma Lin, she has long become a superstar in the table tennis world.
There is no distinction between culture and sports, and both of them were invited to the scene. Because they were fellow villagers, when Zhang Ningyi saw the famous Ma Lin, he took the initiative to come forward to say hello.
. Ma Lin, who is usually in power in the field, was not as bold as Zhang Ningyi at this time, and just said "Hello".
This encounter can be regarded as getting to know each other. Maybe Ma Lin didn't take it seriously, but for Zhang Ningyi, it seems that she can't forget this encounter.
After the party ends, each of them returns to their posts.
Ma Lin had to work overtime to practice in the next Olympics, and everything outside of table tennis was left behind.
But one day Ma Lin suddenly received a call:
"I am practicing table tennis in the club, are you willing to teach me?"
Ma Lin was confused.
"Who are you?"
The other party joked:
"You are so noble that you forgot about it. I greeted you at the party that day. I forgot my fellow villager so quickly?"
Ma Lin then remembered
"It turns out it was Zhang Ningyi, I'm sorry I didn't hear it just now."
Perhaps to express my apology, Ma Lin went to the club to teach Zhang Ningyi to play table tennis, but it was just a simple serving move. Zhang Ningyi practiced for a long time but didn't learn it.
is not really not able to learn it, it’s just that the drunk man’s intention is not to drink, and he just wants to get along with Ma Lin for a while.
You expressed your apology. I thank you for your teachings. Zhang Ningyi took the initiative to invite Ma Lin to have a meal together.
After getting along with each other several times, Zhang Ningyi has long developed a love for Ma Lin and sends text messages to Ma Lin every day.
But at that time, Ma Lin had the next game in her mind, and just took a look at the text messages sent by Zhang Ningyi.
Maybe Zhang Ningyi also saw that Ma Lin didn't care about him, so he did not continue to disturb him later.
The next day, Ma Lin did not receive the text message, and felt empty and absent-minded during training. He didn't receive it in the next few days, so he began to panic.
Perhaps Ma Lin didn't like Zhang Ningyi at that time, but she didn't dare to fall in love at this time, but Zhang Ningyi's sudden "disappearance" made Ma Lin understand that he seemed to be a little inseparable from her.
In order to wait for Zhang Ningyi, Ma Lin waited for the door of Zhang Ningyi's dormitory for an afternoon, and her stomach was roaring and she didn't want to leave, for fear of missing it.
Until a girl quietly blinds Ma Lin's eyes from behind, Ma Lin knows that it is Zhang Ningyi as soon as she guesses.
When he took those hands, he hurriedly hugged Zhang Ningyi and said in a deep voice:
"Be my girlfriend."
Zhang Ningyi nodded excitedly.
In August of this year, Ma Lin went to the Athens Olympics. This was his first time to participate in the Olympics. He accidentally lost to Swedish players in the men's singles competition.
This result is obviously not what Ma Lin wants to see, and she is very depressed and blamed herself.
At this time, Zhang Ningyi sent a text message saying:
"I love you even if I win, and I love you even if I lose. My heart belongs to you without regrets."
The simple 16 words made Ma Lin read it over and over again.
The encouragement and comfort at this time are like a candy handed over by someone when he is most miserable. Both of them cried on the phone.
Ma Lin was obviously moved and recognized Zhang Ningyi in her heart.
So the first thing I did after returning to China was to take a diamond ring to propose to Zhang Ningyi.
Finally registered to get married - secret marriage, and neither parents knew about it.
04
You should know that Zhang Ningyi was 21 years old at that time and Ma Lin was only 24 years old. For this marriage, they were more of an impulse, rather than really thinking clearly about the responsibility of living together for the rest of their lives in the future. Marriages like
cannot withstand the test of time.
In 2008, during the Wenchuan earthquake, Ma Lin donated 100,000 yuan, but when Zhang Ningyi found out, she was furious.
"You donated 100,000 at once? Why do you love to show off so much?"
"You have never been to the disaster area, you don't know how difficult it is for them," Ma Lin also said angrily. There are many small conflicts like
, but it is not as good as a divorce. It is just that a person's personality, character, temper, etc. can be seen from the problem.
In 2008, Ma Lin won the men's team championship of table tennis and men's singles championship in the Beijing Olympics.
After the game, he said:
"Thanks to his wife Zhang Ningyi for her support and understanding over the years."
Then his parents called him and asked him, "When did you get married, why don't we know?"
Ma Lin replied:
"I have been married for four years, but I have registered, and I haven't held a banquet yet."
In fact, at this time, Ma Lin was already dissatisfied with some of Zhang Ningyi's actions. Although she was already a couple, Zhang Ningyi would still throw a tantrum about some trivial matters. The most important thing is that even in public places or even during training, Zhang Ningyi would make trouble with him. Ma Lin, who has always tolerated herself, was already exhausted.
However, not long after, Ma Lin also made mistakes that men are prone to.
At the end of 2008, Zhang Ningyi discovered that Ma Lin was close to a woman, and then rumors of divorce were rumored.
Zhang Ningyi said that she actually didn't want to divorce, but Ma Lin, who insisted on divorce, finally filed a divorce lawsuit , and then the beginning said that Ma Lin didn't know how to register and get married.
Later, he pushed him to the forefront because of his mother's words, and Ma Lin also encountered the biggest public opinion in her career.
In fact, their divorce was delayed until the end, not because of property issues.
In order to calm this "farce", Ma Lin left nearly ten million of assets to Zhang Ningyi.
However, Ma Lin, who was questioned during the divorce, actually said some very important things. A reporter asked him who raised the divorce and why?
He replied:
"I proposed the divorce, but I was still very young when I got married, and doesn't know much about the entertainment industry "
Maybe there are more unknown stories in this.
But at least many years later, Ma Lin proved how correct her original decision was.
During the period after the divorce, Ma Lin was also in a depressed mood for a long time, and even overeated and gained 12 pounds in a short period of time.
He felt that this would affect his future career.
It was not until he met Zhang Yaqing , Zhang Yaqing was a yoga instructor. With her help, Ma Lin gradually returned to her former figure.
In fact, from Zhang Yaqing, Ma Lin’s view of love has also changed a lot. Zhang Yaqing can cook, take care of others, and is also very good to herself. Ma Lin, who has experienced a failed marriage, also has an additional sense of responsibility at this time.
And under the urging of his parents, Ma Lin decided to pursue Zhang Yaqing, and in Zhang Yaqing's heart, Ma Lin had already had a place for him.
In 2013, Ma Lin proposed to Zhang Yaqing and wrote Zhang Yaqing's name on the real estate certificate.
Not long after getting married, Ma Lin retired. was hired as the head coach of the Guangdong table tennis team, and Zhang Yaqing was also pregnant with Ma Lin's child.
In the end, Ma Lin finally let her parents hold her grandson, and she also became a veritable "Ace Coach" when her apprentice Chen Meng won the singles championship.
Zhang Ningyi, who first divorced him, later married a young talent and became a mother of two children, and lived a happy life.
Now they have been divorced for 13 years. Looking back, I realized that Ma Lin, who was questioned at the time, actually made the most correct choice.
The ending now is that both of them live the life they want.
can only say that they met the wrong person at the wrong time. The impulse when they were young may be love, but not marriage.
Ma Lin later met Zhang Yaqing and realized that marriage is not just a piece of marriage book , but a responsibility, a spirit of responsibility and willingness to give. Marriage is never about getting something, but how much each other has paid for each other.
No matter whether Ma Lin was wrong at the beginning, at least from the current ending, it proved that his choice was right and for each of them, it was right.
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