have made people deeply worried and are discouraged about love and marriage .
is unfaithful to feelings, harm others and yourself,
There are comments that "infidelity" only 0 times and countless times, is this true? Let scientific research give you the answer!
Terrible cheating rate
American biologist Alfred Kinsey conducted a sample survey of more than 6,000 men, and the results showed that more than one-third of people had betrayed their wives.
In order to further verify whether the cheating is really only 0 times and countless times, an American anthropology research institution followed up on more than 400 pairs of marriage and love lovers.
result is unfortunate, and this statement is true.
During the previous marriage and love process, the party who betrayed his partner in the next relationship, the probability of betraying his new partner is more than 14 times that of a normal person.
And after they "find another beauty", the chance of betrayal again reached 90% or above . is really shocking.
Interestingly, the betrayed party will have a chance of cheating twice that of a normal person in the next relationship.
From one to end. Is it really difficult?
For humans, love is like A suspicion . No one knows whether the other party betrays them.
suspicion chain is a potential rope that binds companions from ancient times to the present.
However, this situation does not only occur abroad, anthropologists have also conducted relevant research on Chinese people.
Chinese professor Pan Suiming conducted a 15-year follow-up survey of hundreds of Chinese people sampled. The results showed that at the beginning, the male cheating rate was only 11.1%.
html After 015, the infidelity rate of men reached 34%, and the infidelity rate of women was lower than that of men, but it still doubled in 15 years.
data comes from the Social Service Development Statistical Bulletin
The phenomenon of "continuous cheating" also accounts for more than 90% of these cheating groups.
The only thing that is thankful is that during the investigation, the probability of cheating between men and women in my country is generally lower than that of the United States, but the phenomenon of "infidelity only 0 times and countless times" is common, which seems to have become a consensus among mankind. What is the reason? Let's understand the Coolidge effect.
Coolidge effect
Coolidge effect refers to the fact that after a male animal has completed mating with a female animal, it will not be in estrus for a period of time, but as long as the male is given a new mateable female, the male will immediately enter the estrus period.
This is a phenomenon that is widely present in mammals. Scientists attribute it to the instinct of animals' reproduction and offspring. The original intention is to mating with more females and widely pass on their gene .
gene
On the chromosome
As a member of mammals, the Coolidge effect is also widely present.
Scientific research shows that the key to intimate humans with the opposite sex lies in a reward circuit of the brain .
Dopamine path
This loop is driven by dopamine activation. Once activated, humans will have pleasant feelings, and this feeling will also be addictive, making humans want to engage in intimate behaviors many times.
However, after each pleasure, the dopamine in the brain will drop rapidly , and it will only effectively play its role before the next estrus.
The key factor that prompts dopamine to re-act again in a short period of time is novelty.
Dopamine Generation
The reason why the dopamine amount in the brain drops after the human body feels happy is because the state of continuous high-pitching for the same object quickly falls from after a certain node.
After that, humans feel a boring and boring feeling.
This feeling dilutes over time and reaches its high again in the next intimate act. After
more than once, the dopamine response to stimulation of the same object will become weaker, and the "cooling" time will become longer.
When I was bored, some people began to consider pursuing novelty, which coincided with the dopamine in the cerebral cortex. Even if they did not perform intimate behavior, they would make the fantasy subject feel happy.
cerebral cortex structure
This is a sign of cheating . When the ideas in the human brain accumulate to a certain amount, they will start to try it.
When we first stole the "forbidden fruit", everyone's rationality will fight against the dopamine in the brain.
If you can win, it will prove that this person's rationality has the upper hand and will not be influenced by emotions.
But there are not many people like this.
In the pleasure of dopamine secretion, most people's rationality will be overwhelmed and eventually be completely occupied by pleasure.
This is irreplaceable from the human instinct pleasure, which is also the reason why few people in can refuse to "defraud" .
After the first failure to resist the pleasure brought by dopamine, the rationality of the human brain will gradually decrease. He no longer considers the constraints of certain moral factors, but instead enjoys the pleasure brought by dopamine and gives up.
At this time, the right brain's right power exceeded the left brain's
The ancients said that "the army was defeated like a mountain." After the soldiers at the first place fell, the soldiers behind also fell one after another, and finally "destroyed" and became the "captive" of the enemy.
Similarly, as long as you defeat dopamine for the first time, rationality will be like a broken and will hardly become a "captive" of dopamine in the future. This is the most direct reason why
"has only 0 times and countless times" is.
Of course, this is just a relatively common conclusion. A small number of people were able to stop in time after resisting the first temptation, but they fell in the days that followed.
This is because there are too many temptations around it, which causes the brain to stimulate the brain by crazy dopamine.
Some people also "stop" after cheating once, because of the stimulation of from external factors.
The cost of cheating is too high and it is also one of the external factors
For example, family changes, which makes the person's brain circuit change, making him rarely think about related things. After everything is over, this person's temperament changes drastically and he becomes a more rational person. Both of these situations are rare, and everyone can see them.
The authenticity of the Coolidge effect
To verify the real existence of the Coolidge effect in mammals, scientists used mouse to perform experiments .
Scientists locked a male rat and four female rats in the estrus period together. The male rat will mate with the female rats. The mating behavior will not stop until the end of losing interest in the four female rats.
At this time, even if the female rats run back and forth in front of the male rats, the male rats will not have any urge to mating.
Rat: I don’t want to mate, I just want to eat
At this time, the scientist put another female mouse in, and the male mouse immediately became interested and started mating with new female mouse .
Later, scientists repeated this experiment, with one female mouse and multiple male rats, and the results were the same as the results of the first experiment.
This experiment shows that the Coolidge effect really exists in mammals.
, and the manifestation in humans is that when a man completes an intimate behavior, there is a " refractory ". At this time, if a new woman is stimulating the man, the "refractory severity" of men will be shortened. How to prevent and control the Coolidge effect?
When the Coolidge effect was first discovered, partners usually use the "role play" method to make the other party hallucinate in the brain, believing that this is a new mating object to stimulate the secretion of dopamine.
The brain is running wildly
However, this method is not very effective and requires high cooperation between both parties.
So, people work hard on other aspects of , and the duration is not long. After many times, dopamine becomes bored.Is there a way to prevent the Coolidge effect from happening in humans?
is actually very simple. When looking for a partner, don’t be dominated by dopamine, pay more attention to the other party’s inner self, whether the two have common topics, etc. If this continues, both parties will become deeply bound and it will not be easy to cheat.
Social relationship with each other and grow old together
Intimate behavior is just a means for a partner to deepen emotional relationships. The real emotion is an existence that is not bound by dopamine. I hope everyone can be a rational person.
